To break up with him if he stays?

Seems like a bit of an overreaction.

I'm not married but as long as they don't have kids together I would just be enjoying having the house to myself. I'd like a week on my own though.

I don't get the problem at all sorry.
He's probably come to the realization that working from Dubai is a lot nicer than working from the UK right now. I'll probably be a bit envious but also happy for him that he's got to enjoy the nice weather after a workday.
I don't mind traveling on my own though and don't think flying together says something about a relationship. I mean I'll either read or sleep.

Question to those who think it's a big deal: Would you feel the same if he flown back together with the OP and then out again the next day? Or I they wouldn't have flown together from the get go?

I also don't get the whole OP is just an added bonus. According to that you could never holiday on your own somewhere where you've been as a couple. It's just two different types of holidays.

I am not a cool girl I just don't get it.

It wouldn't bother me at all, I'd be happy with an extra week to myself. Or do you need him to drive you home from the airport?

Me too!

Well because it would be unusual if your husband announced random plans to extend a holiday without consultation. In this case it is a boyfriend/girlfriend situation. They don't live together. They have their own interests and commitments.

I totally understand why you feel like this, I bet no way would these women who have posted these ridiculous posts on here be happy if their hubbies announced, at the end of a holiday "sorry dear, enjoy the flight home (alone) I'm staying here, laters!! 😂

What does hyperbole for breakfast mean?

I don't disagree with you. But she's neither married to this guy nor do they share kids. You're miles away in terms of what your basic relationship looks like.

I would feel a bit miffed to be travelling home on my own after a romantic break

I think what you're saying is he feels he can have just as wonderful a time in Dubai because he's in Dubai, regardless of whether you are there with him, or not.

You're just an added extra, like room service or a lap dance amongst an array of other options.

But that’s a wild leap. My DH took the kids to away this weekend while I stay behind and I’m enjoying the time alone in the house. That’s obviously not because I could take or leave my DH or DC or because they’re just an added extra. It’s because I like my house and I enjoy both sharing it with the people I love and having time here to be on my own schedule. They’re two separate things and I enjoy both in different ways.

Regardless, OP can’t stay because she has to go back to her home, job & kids. Her bf is comparing a week working remotely in Dubai alone with a week working remotely at his home alone. Another week there with OP isn’t an option that he’s passing up.

Not wanting your partner to be able to enjoy themselves without you if you can’t stay with them is controlling and toxic.

I think he could be more tactful. He said it flippantly without considering your feelings. He could stay another week and maybe you would mind less if he broke it to you nicely, knowing you couldn't. What people sometimes don't think about is there really isn't a right and wrong in this scenario, your feelings are valid and his desire to stay longer is reasonable. A couple in love should consider each others feelings, that's the bottom line.

I'd find it odd and be thinking of logistics. Can he easily change his flight without affecting yours? Were you travelling back from airport together by car/taxi which you now have to get alone etc.

I agree that he will probably find your extreme reaction a big problem in its own right.

Well I assumed they shared a bed, or at least a room, so definitely they were on holiday together. Taking a different flight home at a different time doesn’t negate that.

I am surprised so many people wouldn't be bothered by this. You went away together and you will be coming back separately so not exactly a holiday away together but two people in the same place at the same time.
I think logically, there is nothing terrible about it but I wouldn't like it either. I think if you had arranged in advance - you have x amount of time and he has y so you will arrive together but he will stay longer it wouldnt be so bad. Written down it looks ridiculous but it would annoy me.

No idea!!

I think what you're saying is he feels he can have just as wonderful a time in Dubai because he's in Dubai, regardless of whether you are there with him, or not.

And I understand that, despite the fact you didn't articulate it.

You're just an added extra, like room service or a lap dance amongst an array of other options.

I would go home and see how you feel in a few weeks.

Sounds like you are massively jealous of his freedom. He needs to move on quickly.

@Onlyvisiting how would that be rude at the end of a date?

I have been to the cinema with my date on a Sunday afternoon. He has to go straight to work afterwards to do an evening shift, or go and collect his DC. I say thanks for a lovely time, I am meeting my friend Sarah for coffee now.

That’s rude?

It's just rude. It would be like if you went on a date/day out together and at the end of the afternoon he said ' oh, I'm going to go and see a film/get dinner/go to a bar now, you can go home by yourself. But worse as its an entire holiday.
And it sounds like you felt you were having a lovely time because you are on holiday together, he is just as happy to be there without you. I'd be offended too.
And it would be totally different if he for example booked another trip there separately to you at a time when you couldn't go. But imo if you go somewhere together it's not unreasonable to expect to come home together.

I don’t understand this at all tbh.

I have had this situation myself and wasn’t remotely bothered. I like travelling alone.

Can you articulate exactly why you would dump him over this? It seems like a huge over reaction unless there’s a significant back story?

Misses point of thread but what is "romantic" about Dubai?

I think I’d feel a pang of envy that I couldn’t stay as well but that would be all.

It really wouldn’t worry me and if the roles were reversed, I’d feel a bit put out if my partner had an issue with it.

Breaking up over this would suggest you’re already having doubts and if it’s this one thing, it’s a bit extreme

Why is it shit though?

We're heading home from a holiday today and quite frankly I'd love to be on my own. I've had a lovely holiday but quite frankly the travelling bit is so much simpler and easier when your by yourself. Would be bliss!