Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Rude store manager?! Take my money elsewhere

188 replies

Sellotapeandlime · 28/02/2025 20:08

Hello everyone,

Had a bit of a shit day but I want to know if AIBU.

I have been to three carpet stores and have been comparing quotes and have decided to (of course) go for the cheapest quote. I get there and I'm ready to pay for my deposit. However, the manager said that I need to pay the rest of the money in cash to pay the fitters on the day of the carpet. I told him "no" that I prefer to pay the rest of the money by debit/bank transfer on the day so that I have a digital record of the payment. I said I was happy to put down a higher amount for the deposit- but it would be too much money to cash out and due to the large amount, I prefer to pay the rest of the balance by card.

All of a sudden he got very angry, face red, shaking and said "NO! You pay all of the money upfront or half on the day in cash or nothing at all". I replied to him "Well, I can see that you are angry and I don't feel comfortable with the way you are behaving, so I'm going to leave and look elsewhere. Then he said "Bye!", and I left.

I mean what the hell???? Can anyone please tell me if AIBU?? Was I wrong to request that I would like to pay the rest by card?

Also! I'm now stuck as my only option is to pay for the expensive carpet place who are known to do a very good job but are very expensive. We need to move into our new home within three weeks. What should I do????????

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Badbadbunny · 29/04/2025 10:24

Hulabalu · 28/04/2025 23:42

agreed, all I can think is it’s his own business and he’s under some serious financial pressure

It's to avoid VAT. If you pay the carpet shop, it's VATable, but if you pay the fitter directly it's VAT free assuming the carpet fitter isn't VAT registered.

It also abdicates the store of any responsibility for damage or mistakes during fitting - they'll just say it's the subbies fault, but you as the customer didn't choose the subbie, won't have their name/address/phone number, so you're stuffed.

It's why we always ask "who" does the fitting etc whenever we buy a carpet, partly assembled furniture, even kitchens and bathrooms, etc. If the shop doesn't have their own staff, then we walk away, as we've had too many bad experiences with "subbies" who walk away and then the store deny any responsibility.

Luckily, we have an independent carpet/furniture store near us who have their own delivery guys, carpet fitters and furniture assemblers - they don't use subbies and make a big deal of it in adverts etc. Never had a single problem with them during 20 years of using them. And none of this nonsense about paying cash so that they can avoid tax!

Hulabalu · 28/04/2025 23:42

BlumminFreezin · 28/02/2025 20:16

It would be very unusual for a store manager to suddenly go red, start shaking and shouting over a totally benign and polite request. I mean, shaking...really? Out of the blue and JUST because you said you'd like to pay by card/bank transfer?

I'd love to hear the other side of this tbh 😂

agreed, all I can think is it’s his own business and he’s under some serious financial pressure

Jewel52 · 28/04/2025 23:35

Changepassword · 28/02/2025 20:19

Whenever I've had carpet, we've always paid the carpet shop for the carpet, and the fitter for the fitting on the day, including any gripper rods and threshold bars, I don't think he was giving you the option of paying it all to the store directly, I think he was telling you how his business works.

Yep, the carpet fitters are sub contractors and paid separately. This is perfectly normal and has been the process forever.

No idea why the op thinks this is suspect???

Numberfish · 28/04/2025 22:57

Sellotapeandlime · 28/02/2025 20:08

Hello everyone,

Had a bit of a shit day but I want to know if AIBU.

I have been to three carpet stores and have been comparing quotes and have decided to (of course) go for the cheapest quote. I get there and I'm ready to pay for my deposit. However, the manager said that I need to pay the rest of the money in cash to pay the fitters on the day of the carpet. I told him "no" that I prefer to pay the rest of the money by debit/bank transfer on the day so that I have a digital record of the payment. I said I was happy to put down a higher amount for the deposit- but it would be too much money to cash out and due to the large amount, I prefer to pay the rest of the balance by card.

All of a sudden he got very angry, face red, shaking and said "NO! You pay all of the money upfront or half on the day in cash or nothing at all". I replied to him "Well, I can see that you are angry and I don't feel comfortable with the way you are behaving, so I'm going to leave and look elsewhere. Then he said "Bye!", and I left.

I mean what the hell???? Can anyone please tell me if AIBU?? Was I wrong to request that I would like to pay the rest by card?

Also! I'm now stuck as my only option is to pay for the expensive carpet place who are known to do a very good job but are very expensive. We need to move into our new home within three weeks. What should I do????????

Never heard of paying the fitters in cash on the day. That’s a dodgy tax avoidance move. Don’t know where all the commenters shop that do do that. I’d go somewhere more reputable.

lilkitten · 08/03/2025 21:32

I don't remember the last time I paid a tradesperson in cash. We use a small local flooring company, they take a deposit on card then the balance by card on the day of fitting. My plumber and mechanic ask for bank transfers, the new guttering was paid direct to the company (half before and half after installation). People have said it's to avoid tax by paying in cash, I'm self employed and find it bizarre if people think we would want to take cash to avoid paying tax. I'm autistic, a lot of behaviour seems quite strange to me - I can't understand not wanting to pay tax and contribute to public services.

Badbadbunny · 03/03/2025 19:36

Pigeonlives · 01/03/2025 13:53

Ive never heard of them, so I'd be hesitant to use their service for that reason. Plus, I doubt they're offering it purely out of goodwill, there are likely fees involved, whether for an upgraded service, failing to meet a minimum deposit threshold, or exceeding it.
The regular main stream banks charge, if you’re not depositing large sums of money, why bother paying for that service, or searching out some obscure bank account.

Mettle are free because it's internet only. No cheque books, paying in slips, cash bankings, etc. It's basically all BACS in and all BACS out - all electronic. So it costs the bank a lot less to run the account, especially as they have no branches.

backaftera2yearbreak · 03/03/2025 19:36

*bought

backaftera2yearbreak · 03/03/2025 19:35

biught carpets for a few places in my time. Always paid the fitter in cash.

Ilovecleaning · 03/03/2025 19:32

Sellotapeandlime · 03/03/2025 19:22

There are some people who are easily tempered. I don't think that should be surprising. Plus, I did say that he didn't look like he was in a good mood.

Fair enough.

Sellotapeandlime · 03/03/2025 19:22

Ilovecleaning · 03/03/2025 04:04

Limited sympathy here. It’s normal practice to pay the fitters separately. Odd that the manager was red-faced and angry with no provocation? I would like to hear his side of the story.

There are some people who are easily tempered. I don't think that should be surprising. Plus, I did say that he didn't look like he was in a good mood.

OP posts:
Pigeonlives · 03/03/2025 18:30

SnoozingFox · 01/03/2025 13:19

I am self-employed. I do jobs for people all over the world and often they pay me into my personal paypal account. I could easily not declare it if I wanted to.

It's such a tired old trope that self-employed people who accept anything but BACS transfer are clearly on the fiddle.

That's not true HMRC can access your paypal and personal bank account if they choose to. Banks can also flag and report any unusual deposits. So, the type of bank account you have doesn’t make much difference. You might try to argue that a £500 deposit into a personal account was a birthday gift, but if HMRC is investigating you, they'll figure it out.

LikeABat · 03/03/2025 07:51

Agree that it is common to pay fitters directly. There should be an invoice and option to pay cheque, card or bank transfer.

Ilovecleaning · 03/03/2025 04:04

Limited sympathy here. It’s normal practice to pay the fitters separately. Odd that the manager was red-faced and angry with no provocation? I would like to hear his side of the story.

CWigtownshire · 02/03/2025 20:04

Always paid about 2 weeks after fitting once the invoice comes in, but it's a family business. Not the cheapest one but always great service. Sometimes it's worth paying a bit more.

Laura95167 · 02/03/2025 19:18

You might have discovered why they're cheap...

asrl78 · 02/03/2025 18:28

Sellotapeandlime · 28/02/2025 20:19

Yes exactly! I'm not sure what to do now!! I really like the expensive company, which we can afford, but it's just a lot. Maybe I should bite the bullet and go with the expensive company.

Is it the norm nowadays to pay the rest of balance in cash??

If you buy cheap you buy twice.

Cosyblankets · 02/03/2025 11:14

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 22:28

Sounds like he’s running some sort of scam with the fitters. Probably gets a backhander.

Cheapest isn’t always wise.

It's not a scam it's perfectly normal. The fitters are self employed. So they decide how they are paid. It's not up to the shop. If they paid the fitter then they would become employees and the shop would have to pay NI , pension, holidays etc.
I've just had a kitchen done. The kitchen company gave me a quote. I paid them for the supply of the units etc but the electrician, plumber, plasterers, fitters and floor fitter were all self employed and i paid them all separately by bank transfer or cash but it was all invoiced separately but it was still coordinated by the kitchen company.

Sellotapeandlime · 02/03/2025 11:09

HardenYourHeart · 01/03/2025 14:38

Personally, I have always paid any work done on my house by transfer or card, never in cash. Sounds shady. However, even if cash is the custom, him getting so angry at you for saying no is a massive red flag. Go with the other company. You like they better anyway and good carpets will last at least 10 years. It will be worth the extra expense if you can afford it.

Thanks and yes exactly. I would only pay cash to a service if I knew them very well and/or I had received a strong recommendation from a friend or family member. But If that's the way the manager operates his business, then fair enough. However, it was his behaviour that me off. He wasn't frustrated. He was angry- to the point that felt he may do something to me if I didn't leave. Nah I would rather take my money elsewhere.

OP posts:
Onabench · 01/03/2025 22:30

Him getting angry and red is weird. But I've never ordered a carpet where I haven't had to pay the fitters separately in cash on the day 🤷

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 22:28

Sounds like he’s running some sort of scam with the fitters. Probably gets a backhander.

Cheapest isn’t always wise.

MistyMountainTop · 01/03/2025 22:26

Pigeonlives · 01/03/2025 18:14

Santander Business Account. £7.50 per month after introductory period.

I've never had any charges on mine. Perhaps they just charge new customers.

Pigeonlives · 01/03/2025 18:14

MistyMountainTop · 01/03/2025 16:44

Mine's a Santander busuness account and I've never been charged a penny in over 20 years

Santander Business Account. £7.50 per month after introductory period.

Rude store manager?! Take my money elsewhere
MistyMountainTop · 01/03/2025 16:44

Pigeonlives · 01/03/2025 13:53

Ive never heard of them, so I'd be hesitant to use their service for that reason. Plus, I doubt they're offering it purely out of goodwill, there are likely fees involved, whether for an upgraded service, failing to meet a minimum deposit threshold, or exceeding it.
The regular main stream banks charge, if you’re not depositing large sums of money, why bother paying for that service, or searching out some obscure bank account.

Mine's a Santander busuness account and I've never been charged a penny in over 20 years

HardenYourHeart · 01/03/2025 14:38

Personally, I have always paid any work done on my house by transfer or card, never in cash. Sounds shady. However, even if cash is the custom, him getting so angry at you for saying no is a massive red flag. Go with the other company. You like they better anyway and good carpets will last at least 10 years. It will be worth the extra expense if you can afford it.

FarmGirl78 · 01/03/2025 14:33

pavillion1 · 28/02/2025 20:18

Do people really still use carpet stores at all ? try independent, you'll get a better price and better service .

She never said it wasn't independent. I can only think of independent carpet stores near me, I couldn't even think where the nearest 'chain' one is.