Am I being sensitive?

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Bigfishlittlefishcardboardbox39 · 28/02/2025 18:21

We’re currently staying with my lovely MIL whilst our house gets renovated.

My DH invited my SIL boyfriend to football tonight and me and DD are at home. My SIL who I believe have quite a good relationship with is going out with my MIL out for dinner (as her boyfriend is out with my DH) but hasn’t extended the invite to me or DD.

Now, I wouldn’t expect to be invited in usual circumstances at all, but I think what’s making me feel upset is that everyone is out and we’re stuck in… my DD is too young to watch the football. I think that I’m partly upset because I’m here, and just feel a bit left out. If I wasn’t staying here, it wouldn’t bother me.

AIBU to feel upset?

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Bigfishlittlefishcardboardbox39 · 28/02/2025 18:28

I do get your point on age, but she’s 3 - she’s not too young to go out to eat, a football stadium in the city is a bit different, especially as they won’t be back until late.

I’m sure it’s not personal - just feels a bit naff!

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Sirzy · 28/02/2025 18:26

the other way to look at it is at the moment you get lots of time with your MIL so it’s nice for her daughter to get some 1-1 time.

Mrsttcno1 · 28/02/2025 18:26

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 28/02/2025 18:24

If your DD is too young to sit and watch football she’s probably too young to sit nicely in a restaurant.

Maybe they just want a nice adult evening? It’s not personal.

This is exactly my thinking.

FairBrickBiscuit · 28/02/2025 18:25

Yeah I think it’s a bit thoughtless not to have extended the invitation, though it depends on your daughter’s age as well.

if they wanted to be just the two of them for whatever good reason, there are ways of telling you this nicely so you don’t feel left out.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 28/02/2025 18:24

If your DD is too young to sit and watch football she’s probably too young to sit nicely in a restaurant.

Maybe they just want a nice adult evening? It’s not personal.

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