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Anyone else get a bit anxious at the change of season?

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Frreshbeddingcosynights · 28/02/2025 17:26

I'll start by saying that I am longing for better weather, lighter evenings, flowers and leaves on the trees.

But there is also part of me that gets a bit anxious when Spring is nearly here.

I'm not entirely sure why. I think that I feel as though there's a lot of pressure to be outside having a good time and making the most of the weather. Which is often a big let down.

I get really really hot at night and it's so noisy with the windows open. Summer has always bought out more crime and antisocial behaviour round here.

Anyone else? Or anyone want to remind me of the positives of Spring/Summer.

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RainyDayClouds · 01/03/2025 11:44

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 01/03/2025 11:26

I have this. It's like a switch flips. Last week I started to notice changes in the tone of the light and my mood has been plummeting since, to the point I'm now not really functioning and have started having suicidal thoughts.

Some years are worse than others depending on how much sunshine there is during the transition. I don't dislike sunshine, it's that it makes the change in the colour of the light more apparent. I love the light on a sunny autumn or winter day.

It feels very isolating because people say things like, you'll feel better in the spring, the nights are getting lighter, everything feels worse in winter. I've tried to explain to people in the past but they look at me like I'm mad. On here posters often get piled on if they say they dislike spring and summer.

Yes my take is it’s probably caused by a chemical change in the brain, just like a lack of light can do to some in Winter. More unusual this way round it seems, but still happens and you’re not alone. I’m very lucky, I don’t get depression, just anxiety and a manic feeling along with insomnia. Almost like I’ve binged on coffee/sugar and feel totally wired & over stimulated, plus it takes to the end of July to build up to unpleasant levels, but others may be a lot more sensitive. I’ve found good blackout curtains help as I can have darker cosier evenings even in late summer which really helps. Definitely speak to someone if you’re feeling really bad though, even Samaritans or something. Sometimes someone just listening, understanding and validating how you feel can help x

Cattery · 01/03/2025 11:38

@TheFatCatsWhiskers1 They do get piled on. It’s like some sort of weird pressure to be grateful for the lighter evenings. The ball is out, much as I knew it would be. It’s just general arsehole where I live

Dontlletmedownbruce · 01/03/2025 11:28

I get anxious in Spring, mostly because of my weight and i like to hide under my winter clothes and the thought of exposing my arms makes me feel ill. Usually by Summer I've made some peace with myself but every year I swear I will lose enough weight to stop the cycle but every year it's the same. Maybe a few lbs here or there but nothing drastic enough to not have ugly arms.

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 01/03/2025 11:26

RainyDayClouds · 28/02/2025 19:48

People think seasonal affective disorder is just about people getting depressed in the winter time, whereas there are a smaller group of people that have it the opposite way round. Whereas some people struggle with the lack of light in winter, others can get summer depression and anxiety because of too much light. It causes chemical changes just like winter SAD.

I don’t mind this time of year but by the end of July I’m usually plagued by insomnia, feeling very anxious and a little manic. Disappears overnight once the dark nights start drawing in. I do also struggle with the crowds, noise and constant socialisation of summer too, and have started drawing my blackout curtains in the evenings during summer so I can get some rest from the light. Sounds weird I know, but it was a lightbulb moment when I read an article on it as it was absolutely me.

I have this. It's like a switch flips. Last week I started to notice changes in the tone of the light and my mood has been plummeting since, to the point I'm now not really functioning and have started having suicidal thoughts.

Some years are worse than others depending on how much sunshine there is during the transition. I don't dislike sunshine, it's that it makes the change in the colour of the light more apparent. I love the light on a sunny autumn or winter day.

It feels very isolating because people say things like, you'll feel better in the spring, the nights are getting lighter, everything feels worse in winter. I've tried to explain to people in the past but they look at me like I'm mad. On here posters often get piled on if they say they dislike spring and summer.

ThatsNotMyTeen · 01/03/2025 10:58

No, I love spring in particular. It’s a reminder whenever it rolls around though that I’m geting older!!

Yellowcircle90 · 01/03/2025 10:53

This isn’t something I experience but it’s really interesting to hear others talking about

RainyDayClouds · 01/03/2025 10:51

Personally I love this time of year (very early Spring) and enjoy early summer, but by August I’m desperate for Autumn as I’ve usually got insomnia, anxiety, feel stressed and have summer burnout. Crazy to some but then I don’t understand those that struggle with Autumn/Winter. We’re all different. However I think if some people really do suffer with some form of seasonal SAD, be it summer or winter, or just certain parts of the year because of associations, perhaps a few nice days can get them anxious about summer as it represents their difficult time of year. A bit like having a panic about having a panic attack before it even happens. I get this when I’m flying. Makes no logical sense sometimes but you generally can’t control anxiety by being logical sadly.

autumn1610 · 01/03/2025 10:47

I feel the exact same. I prefer autumn/winter as I don’t feel like I should be outside doing something. I feel there is a weird pressure to be doing something and it makes me so anxious

crackofdoom · 01/03/2025 10:46

I know what you mean OP. There's an energy to the season which can quickly tip over into anxiety. It's great, it's optimistic, it's beautiful, but our Neolithic selves are screaming "GET OUT AND SOW THEM SEEDS AND DELIVER THEM LAMBS!! QUICKETY QUICK!" I'm suddenly getting insomnia again after months of deep winter sleep.

crackofdoom · 01/03/2025 10:40

cardibach · 28/02/2025 18:32

Not my experience re linen trousers.

Linen trousers actually suit about 0.1% of the population. They're very "middle aged English lady making a failed attempt at chic on a Mediterranean holiday". Especially if white (shudder).

Cattery · 01/03/2025 10:39

Frreshbeddingcosynights · 28/02/2025 17:26

I'll start by saying that I am longing for better weather, lighter evenings, flowers and leaves on the trees.

But there is also part of me that gets a bit anxious when Spring is nearly here.

I'm not entirely sure why. I think that I feel as though there's a lot of pressure to be outside having a good time and making the most of the weather. Which is often a big let down.

I get really really hot at night and it's so noisy with the windows open. Summer has always bought out more crime and antisocial behaviour round here.

Anyone else? Or anyone want to remind me of the positives of Spring/Summer.

Oh 100 per cent. I’m hoping it’s not too dry and sunny today because kids will be on the rampage outside screaming until after dark. It’s the transition into the Spring that affects me. I look forward to the darker evenings because we don’t see anyone for months.

BeaAndBen · 01/03/2025 10:35

No, this sounds like crazy talk to me; I’ve been counting down the weeks to be able to work in the garden again. I finally feel alive and not held in miserable stasis!

February is the worst month. It’s been dark and damp for so long by February that it feels unending and spring is out of reach. I’m also skint after the raft of January birthdays running straight after Christmas.

Thank fuck it’s over for another year!

TheAlertFinch · 01/03/2025 10:34

I don't really think about it too much. The seasons just slowly change. I do love the Spring though I always think it's like nature is waking up. I'm not sure why that would cause anxiety.

Whycanineverthinkofone · 01/03/2025 10:30

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 01/03/2025 10:21

Really? Never heard of this transitional anxiety, nor has anyone else I know, so not sure how this is 'normal' in women

This!

how do you mark this transitional change? It’s so slow I don’t notice. I mean, I’ve woken up today thinking ooh nice and sunny, might put the washing out. But I don’t start getting worried it might be the start of spring, because likely it will be windy and rainy again tomorrow- does that mean we’re back in winter? Or I was wrong about the start of spring? Is that what we’re anxious about, the uncertainty?

or do we go with the 21st “official” season change day and it’s the date that triggers anxiety?

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 01/03/2025 10:21

RareMaker · 28/02/2025 17:27

Yes, totally normal to struggle with the seasonal transitions as women x

Really? Never heard of this transitional anxiety, nor has anyone else I know, so not sure how this is 'normal' in women

nepobaby · 01/03/2025 10:20

menopausalfart · 28/02/2025 17:34

I dread the end of Summer. I would happily hibernate the whole 4 months. I get extremely depressed when the leaves start turning brown.

Me too. When September starts creeping up I feel so unready to have colder months. I could happily live in summer all year round. It didn't help that last year I'd felt like we had such a shit summer too. In autumn it feels like summer is such a long way away again I hate it!

nepobaby · 01/03/2025 10:19

SmugglersHaunt · 28/02/2025 17:27

I know what you mean - I long for it to be warmer, but I can't stand the pressure summer brings!

Ay, What pressure is there? Or do you mean air pressure or something?

BlondiePortz · 01/03/2025 02:03

SmugglersHaunt · 28/02/2025 17:27

I know what you mean - I long for it to be warmer, but I can't stand the pressure summer brings!

What pressure?

Tumbleweed101 · 01/03/2025 01:31

I love spring and autumn. The transitional seasons are my favourites. Right now I am so happy that when I leave work at 6pm and it is just about light enough to see when I get home after months of complete darkness at that time. I also know it is only going to get lighter.

I concentrate on the garden in summer and indoors gets neglected but I do the opposite in winter.

SnowyintheATL · 01/03/2025 01:17

I’m hot natured and hate bugs so I start getting anxious around this time of the year. I hate summer and I hate the long days. I want to get cozy in my bed around 8:00 and I can’t do that if it stays light til 9/10. I’m already looking forward to autumn 😂

NewMarmiteJar · 01/03/2025 01:08

Redheadedstepchild · 28/02/2025 17:38

My seasonal anxiety revolves around clothes mainly. I have adapted to my winter plumage and then when I have to change my feathers as it were, metaphorically speaking, I find it a bit of a worry.

Same in autumn. When is it too cold to be wearing this? I live in Southern Europe and an outfit that looks, "light and summery" in August quickly degenerates into tarty after the first thunderstorm of September.

Beautifully put.

BurntBroccoli · 01/03/2025 01:08

It was absolutely beautiful outside today and my walk was a pleasure.

Exasperateddonut · 01/03/2025 00:51

The emergence of spring always makes me so joyful. The move to autumn from late summer makes me so incredibly anxious. It’s like a switch is flipped and I’m so ill at ease.

MedusaAndHerFavourites · 01/03/2025 00:33

You're not wrong because what have right now is false spring.

blueshoes · 01/03/2025 00:31

No I am not at all anxious about the change of seasons. There are currently lots of things to be anxious about but this is definitely not one of them.