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To think Friday would be a rubbish NWD?

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newishmama · 28/02/2025 14:06

I’m on mat leave considering which two days I’d like to ask for as NWDs. One thing I have consistently noticed is that everywhere seems busy on a Friday, almost as though it’s an extra weekend day. Cafes, the local country park, and don’t get me started on supermarkets! I don’t think Monday is too much different either although I see why people ask for this off as it’s advantageous for bank holidays for many.

I am considering working M/Tu/F, with a mini weekend in the middle of the week with Wednesday and Thursday off. Does anyone do this, or a split week?

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Bjorkdidit · 01/03/2025 09:40

mostlymisty · 28/02/2025 14:49

If you work Monday you will end up with less annual leave. And you really need as much annual leave as you can with kids. , especially when they start school.

i used to have Weds and Thurs off and it’s crap. I spent a lot of Friday trying to get up to speed with things after my ‘weekend’. ( remember, no one else has had a weekend so work piles up) If you work three days, it’s much better if they are consecutive.

I changed to working Tues to Thirs and it was much better.

Not true about less AL you get the same amount, just less choice about when you take it because if your employer does things properly, they add up your AL and share of BHs and take off all BHs that fall on your working days from your allowance, leaving you to choose when to take the rest.

Unconventional as it may seem, but I think if you work 3 days a week, Monday, Weds and Friday as working days with Tuesday and Thursday as NWDs is worth considering.

Obviously it would have to work for your role, but it could be welcomed by a lot of employers as it would improve cover levels when a lot of people default to Monday and/or Friday as NWDs.

Never working more than one day in a row could feel nice, plus you're never off more than one day in a row in the working week or have an extended weekend - it's often inconvenient to full timers to have to deal with the (aptly named) TWaTs because if you miss them by the end of Thursday, they're unavailable until Tuesday the following week.

But for a 4 day week, I'd go for Weds as a NWD as a first choice.

Mondays and Fridays aren't great as NWDs because Mondays are also busy for shopping centres, supermarkets etc, plus a lot of attractions etc are closed on Mondays. Also, somethings cost more to do on Friday than earlier in the week (eg I've noticed this about spas).

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 01/03/2025 09:38

I used to have Wednesday off, mid week weekend loved it!

scotstars · 01/03/2025 09:33

I don't work Thurs and Friday I like this as I do all the housework, jobs, food shop etc and feel can enjoy going into the weekend with everything up to date

TeamMandrake · 01/03/2025 09:32

Lots of toddler groups etc run on Fridays. I found Wednesday to be the best day off when working 4 days - two blocks of work with a day off in the middle. People I know who had a single day with days off either side found it to be an unproductive day.

HateThese4Leggedbeasts · 01/03/2025 09:31

I didn't like being off Tues -Thurs as there were fewer days time classes aimed at pre schoolers and fewer friends to see too so I felt lonelier.

As DC got older and were in school nursery a few hours a day , I found my Mondays or Fridays useful for sorting out our house, getting food in, setting us up for the week ahead very useful.

MagpiePi · 01/03/2025 09:31

I work Tues/Weds/Thurs.
Apart from the benefit of the 'extra' leave you get from Bank Holiday entitlement, I love going to bed on a Sunday night knowing I don't have to get up for the dreaded Monday morning, plus you get two Friday nights - one on Thursday and then the real one on Friday.

MuggleMe · 01/03/2025 09:26

I've had a Friday off for years. Yes it's busier but more of my friends are likely to be off. I'm taking less annual leave when going away, and I'm not missed in the office. I did non consecutive days for a while and found I couldn't switch off in between and had that Monday feeling twice a week.

MoodEnhancer · 01/03/2025 09:25

When I first returned to work I tried a split week and hated it. This very much depends on your job but I found I couldn’t really get into complex things as easily when my week was split. I changed to having all working days in a row and it made work so much better. And by having Friday and Monday off, it meant we could go away for the weekend every so often and that was lovely too.

DurhamDurham · 01/03/2025 09:25

When my girls were little I used to have a Wednesday off and it broke the week up nicely. On Tuesday I'd be looking forward to my day off and when I got back on Thursday it seemed like it was almost the weekend (I wasn't the most dedicated or career minded in those days 😆)
Since our granddaughter came along I've had Fridays off, I look after her every Friday and it's the perfect start to the weekend. Every week has a long weekend. Would hate to ever have to go back to working full time.

thebear1 · 01/03/2025 09:22

I have Friday as a nwd, I like the feeling on Thursday that my working week is done. I think if it was a mid week day I'd just be thinking about what I had still to do on the day I have to go back in.

Moonlightstars · 01/03/2025 09:18

I liked having Fridays off as it was the most common one for my friends to have off so we could go and have nice picnics and go to the beach or wherever with the kids. Also good for trips.

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 01/03/2025 09:16

We used to do four long days (FT) and had a revolving rota of days off (three in the team so one off Monday, one Wednesday, one Friday). I loved my Wednesday off so much that when the team restructured and I became the only one working that pattern, I went to a permanent Wednesday off. Bonus that lots of people had Fridays off so it was easy to work in peace on a Friday!

Coralsunset · 01/03/2025 09:15

Yeah I have Weds off. It breaks up my week nicely.

I hate taking Fridays off as it’s the quietest work day due to so many colleagues and clients being off. Friday afternoons are just a total non event.

Goofy03 · 01/03/2025 09:13

I think non consecutive days off would be better for part time working but depends on the job and how easy it is get back into after time off.

Creamteasandbumblebees · 01/03/2025 09:09

I work on a Monday/Tuesday/Wednesday.
I love knowing that come Wednesday I'm done for four days. It feels like a real break.

Couldntthinkofausername24 · 01/03/2025 03:50

I've just returned after mat leave and work Monday, Wednesday and Friday at its working well. In off in off in off off.

I was contemplating having Mondays and Fridays off but my eldest has just started school so we couldn't really made much use of long weekends away

drspouse · 28/02/2025 17:38

I have Friday as my day off, and I've had this since 2012 when I went back to work when DS was a baby. It's great because so many people have this as their day off and you can meet up with friends.
Previously when I was 0.6 I had Tuesday off as well which meant I went back to work on Monday, had one day then a day off which was nice, then 2 further working days.

Lots of my colleagues WFH on a Friday and about 5 of us have Friday as a day off so getting anyone together for a meeting on a Friday is pointless.

Xmasbaby11 · 28/02/2025 17:34

I've had Fridays off for 10 years now and it's great. I love having a long weekend, 3 days feels so long, and a few friends are off on Fridays so I can meet them if I want to. I don't find anything major tends to happen at work on a Friday, certainly not in the afternoon, so there's no horrendous backlog on Mon morning. The dc's inset days are usually Fridays, too. No downsides for me but it depends on your workplace and lifestyle.

TheLette · 28/02/2025 17:34

Mondays tends to be the best day from the perspective of maximum holiday flexibility. I wouldn't take a mid week day off personally because it would be very stressful due to the number of meetings/calls etc I have mid week. Monday or Friday is easier for me to manage. I would find Fridays off very difficult because often deadlines are at the end of the week, so Fridays off would mean I have less time to get stuff done. Whereas if I deliver to a Friday deadline I don't tend to get a response until Tuesday the week after whilst people consider what I've done/said

Flower0503 · 28/02/2025 17:30

I used to work Monday, Tuesday and Friday. I now work tues/wed/Thurs. The break mid week was nice and meant i could pace my energy levels. Bank holidays meant I now have an extra 2ish weeks to choose when I take leave rather than been forced to take a full dates leave on bank holiday when my bank holiday leave allowance was pro-rated. Lots of uk holiday parks (which we have found good for the kids) tend to be mon-mon or fri-fri, so working both those days meant booking holidays more tricky as it was a week and a day leave. For some reason Wednesday was really difficult to find baby/toddler groups z there didn't seem to be much running that particular day. Now the kids are at school, teacher training days tend to be Mondays and Fridays so being off those days helps with that.

NotSmallButFunSize · 28/02/2025 17:27

ServantsGonnaServe · 28/02/2025 14:25

I'd recommend taking Tues/Wed off instead because it lines up better with extending your Bank Holiday weekends 😉

Even better, if you're going part time, take Monday and Friday off because then you accumulate bank holiday hours as leave rather than 'owing' the company for Bank Holiday you are forced to take off and having to use some of your leave to cover it (because they still pay you iyswim)

Yes agree with having Monday off - I don't work Mondays and end up in "credit" with my bank hol entitlement as I am given more allowance for them than I ever need for any that land in my work pattern (only Good Friday and some at Christmas)

So extra annual leave for nothing! When I used to be off on a Friday I sometimes ended up owing work some hours back when they worked my bank hols out

onwards2025 · 28/02/2025 17:25

Thursdays are by far the most stretched for childcare if that's a consideration for you

Isobel201 · 28/02/2025 17:22

I work a compressed week with Thursdays off. To start off with, it was because I liked volunteering with the RDA and I also wanted a day off to occaisonally deal with medical appts etc. Plus going to the stables helped with my mental health which was a bit low at the time. The group only met on Sundays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays, so not wanting to take up a weekend, I chose Thursday.
I've found that since working from home, I have the time to pop out any day, but Thursdays mid morning and mid afternoon are quiet depending on traffic and roadworks. Friday mornings are quiet too.

Fridayfeeling77 · 28/02/2025 17:22

No you will fall foul as if anything like our place you get hours added onto
leave card but you will have less flexible AL
due to most bh’s falling on a Mon also Fri is a popular day for AL so problems arise at our place due to Fri being the most preferred day to drop by PT’s and the most favoured day to book AL. Monday off is rubbish when the kids get older as trying to find a hairdressers or beauticians open on a Monday is a nightmare and many cafes and restaurants are also shut on Monday if you want to meet someone for a coffee or lunch etc.

If I had the choice I would have Mondays and Fridays off.

gingercat02 · 28/02/2025 17:22

Sinkintotheswamp · 28/02/2025 16:59

Not working Fridays buys you long weekend breaks and going forward, most school assemblies.

Most of our school stuff was a Tuesday or Thursday morning weirdly. My managers kids' school does Wednesday afternoons.