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Would you judge this in someone’s house?

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Rainbows678 · 28/02/2025 11:01

I’m currently re-decorating parts of my house. I’ve come across a website that sells prints for the walls and I’ve found some I really like;

This house is full of love, laughter, and a little bit of what the fuck.

Pardon the mess, I decided not to give a shit today.

If you’re happy and you know it, it’s your meds!

As you can probably tell, our house is already a little bit eccentric with its decor… but would you judge someone for having prints like that on the wall with children living in the house or am I just overthinking it? 😅

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MerryOliveFinch · 28/02/2025 14:08

Yes, naff. Those wall quotes have practically become a meme at this point. They are like the modern version of the toilet humour signs that were popular in the 80s.

Onlycoffee · 28/02/2025 14:07

What are you asking exactly - if you'll be judged or id they're inappropriate?
Either way, I would have thought someone who likes quotes like that doesn't need to ask mn!

Crikeyalmighty · 28/02/2025 14:03

I've got some lovely Alice in wonderland prints in my downstairs loo that say things from Alice in wonderland prints- like

Have I gone mad ? - yes you are totally bonkers, but I will let you into a secret, all the best people are

I wouldn't put them
In the lounge though - people always comment and ask where I got them from ( Etsy)

DisforDarkChocolate · 28/02/2025 14:03

Unless you're selling I'd have no thoughts unless I was there with my children.

If you put it up for sale they will limit your market because people will find it harder to imagine the house as theirs.

Violetmouse · 28/02/2025 14:01

Rainbows678 · 28/02/2025 13:39

Wow, I didn’t expect so many responses!

I’m not ‘trying’ to be eccentric at all, I just have very different tastes! For example, I have quite a lot of tapestries on the walls in the house and on the ceilings, quite unique patterns too - mushrooms with eyes etc - because I like them and they make my house feel like a home to me.

I also have quite unique prints in my house already - my dog dressed up in military uniform, old paintings of Victorian people wearing balloon hats - again, because I like them.

We are a household where we say what we think and don’t really hold back, so it doesn’t bother me having swear prints on the walls. In terms of other children, no other children come into the house so that’s not an issue. I’m not “being mean to people with mental health issues” either as I have plenty of them myself and quite like the tongue in cheek aspect of quotes like that.

It doesn't come across as being mean to people with mental health issues to me. It comes across as trivialising depression and not understanding severe depression - which is way beyond not feeling happy and antidepressants do not make people "happy". You like it, fair enough. If I saw that in someone's house I would immediately decide that I didn't feel I could speak about my own mental illness (not that I do on first meetings anyway!). My children would also likely be made uncomfortable by it. But ultimately your house, your choice. That's just my answer to your question about whether or not I'd judge.

LadyRoughDiamond · 28/02/2025 14:01

I wouldn’t judge you for the swearing. I absolutely would judge you for the naffness.

If you need to outwardly declare that you’re mad/crazy/batty/unique, you’re probably not.

IfYouLook · 28/02/2025 13:59

Hugely tacky and not even amusing. I’d judge but I’m sure you’d judge my house for being boring. C’est la vie.

ClairDeLaLune · 28/02/2025 13:58

goodkidsmaadhouse · 28/02/2025 13:53

You never have other kids in the house?!

I hear what you're saying about the tongue in cheek aspect of the meds one so fair enough. At first I read it a bit as one of those 'adventure before dementia' stickers on camper vans which I detest.

Oh God I hate that. Dementia is really not funny.

ClairDeLaLune · 28/02/2025 13:57

Yes

missmollygreen · 28/02/2025 13:56

That is not eccentric, just tacky

TemporaryPosition · 28/02/2025 13:55

I judge everything, it's not my taste, but I don't want to live in a world where everything is the same

goodkidsmaadhouse · 28/02/2025 13:53

You never have other kids in the house?!

I hear what you're saying about the tongue in cheek aspect of the meds one so fair enough. At first I read it a bit as one of those 'adventure before dementia' stickers on camper vans which I detest.

SunshineAndFizz · 28/02/2025 13:53

Yes I'd judge you. Sorry, very tacky.

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Rainbows678 · 28/02/2025 13:53

SpotlessLeopard · 28/02/2025 13:52

I just read your second comment, you have kids but not children ever visit your home. Thats a bit odd!

It’s not really. My child has autism and struggles in the company of other children. None of my friends have children, and my child goes to school on the bus so parents don’t really know each other at the SEN school.

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SpotlessLeopard · 28/02/2025 13:52

I just read your second comment, you have kids but not children ever visit your home. Thats a bit odd!

SpotlessLeopard · 28/02/2025 13:51

It's a bit naff. Also would your kids have friends visiting and how would their parents feel about them reading swearing on the wall?
It's your house though, each to their own.

BettyBardMacDonald · 28/02/2025 13:50

Talipesmum · 28/02/2025 11:03

I wouldn’t say anything to you but I would think they’re rather naff greetings card and also wouldn’t think it’s ok to have that up on the wall with young kids in the house.

Yes, all of the above.

They are crass. Maybe sentiments for a cheeky greeting card between friends but not stuck on the wall.

Keha · 28/02/2025 13:46

One small print in somewhere discrete like a downstairs loo, would probably make me chuckle. Something on prominent display I would think was pretty tacky. I wouldn't ever like the one referring to meds/being happy as feels a bit like straying into some stereotype about mental health.

FlipFlopsSpots · 28/02/2025 13:40

I would form an impression. I'm not a big fan of having written swear words on display or having them written around children. But that's just me ...

Wendolino · 28/02/2025 13:39

Yes I'd think you were a bit vulgar

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Rainbows678 · 28/02/2025 13:39

Wow, I didn’t expect so many responses!

I’m not ‘trying’ to be eccentric at all, I just have very different tastes! For example, I have quite a lot of tapestries on the walls in the house and on the ceilings, quite unique patterns too - mushrooms with eyes etc - because I like them and they make my house feel like a home to me.

I also have quite unique prints in my house already - my dog dressed up in military uniform, old paintings of Victorian people wearing balloon hats - again, because I like them.

We are a household where we say what we think and don’t really hold back, so it doesn’t bother me having swear prints on the walls. In terms of other children, no other children come into the house so that’s not an issue. I’m not “being mean to people with mental health issues” either as I have plenty of them myself and quite like the tongue in cheek aspect of quotes like that.

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pearbottomjeans · 28/02/2025 13:35

Wouldn't you care if your kid went round for a play and came home with a new word? I'd at least raise an eyebrow personally.

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My kids are aware of swearwords, they understand that grownups use them sometimes but they aren't allowed to. Kids will figure out that some people swear, there's no point trying to hide it from them. My son was reading the swear words from graffiti when he was 3 😂 he's fine.

ThreeTescoBags · 28/02/2025 13:37

Cucy · 28/02/2025 13:30

I disagree.

There is definitely a general theme amongst many MNers.

You only have to read the threads involving decor or rightmove homes and if it’s not mostly grey, white or beige then you have multi posters saying it’s awful.

I think many MNers care what people think and like having the same things as everyone else - see all of the threads asking if it’s ok to wear X, Y, Z or what is in fashion at the moment.

I guess it depends on who you associate with but I assume from most threads that I tend not to move in the same circles as many MNers and therefore I personally wouldn’t have a thread asking for their opinions in this area as I don’t really care about what’s ‘in’ or what’s popular or not and neither do my friends.

I think OP is the same, it’s just the swear words that she’s not sure about which is fair enough that she’s asked other peoples opinions.

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If there's one thing that MN can (rightly) agree on, it's that grey decor should be prosecutable at The Hague

Violetmouse · 28/02/2025 13:37

Apspokeq · 28/02/2025 11:23

If you’re happy and you know it, it’s your meds!

Sorry but in all honesty I really despise this. It trivialises mental illness / ND. I'd feel like you were the sort of person who calls anti-depressants "fun pills" or something equally annoying, and might have a problem with me taking mood-stabilisers or think it was a Top Bantz thing to rip the piss out of me for. Also I think it's not sending a great message to your kids. What if they need "meds" in the future?

It all seems very "you don't have to be mad to work here but it helps 🤪" vibes and incredibly cringe

This. Absolutely this. As someone who's had multiple hospital admissions and many treatments for depression this is not funny at all, and is absolutely untrue. If I saw it I would feel it was discriminatory and wouldn't want my kids exposed to your attitude to mental illness.
Also wouldn't be super impressed by swear words on the wall around young kids but would mind less about that.