Am I being unreasonable to give birth away from the child’s father because he doesn’t want to get married?

Or… they got pregnant. They decide to have a baby. He’s not willing to marry her. She is not getting support from him so she’s forced to return home. What a peach he is

A mother who hasn't got a pot to piss in, and a father, siblings and extended family on the other side of the world that they'll probably never get to know.

The OP should do what is in her baby's best interests, even if that is not what is in her own best interests.

For god’s sake so melodramatic! You’re clearly just trying to make the OP feel really bad. Nasty

He told you he wouldn't marry you, you then decide to have a baby. So you blackmail him into marrying you or outing the deeds in the house, he said no, so you move countries to have the baby and not have him on the birth certificate. Depriving a father of a child and a child of a father. What a peach you are.

I think in your shoes I would say with your family.

If you move back and have the baby in another country you may be stuck there forever without support.

and you can’t rely on the relationship because he doesn’t want to marry you. So that’s enough information really.

They decided to get pregnant

No-one is an exception with someone like him.
Sorry, OP but if you've ever been on this site, you cannot help but notice it is populated by threads from women in the exact same position. Promise made, promises broken, again and again. Women keep believing the,m then herexwexare, anoth post telling us that they've been shat upon from a great height.
You took a gamble with an obvious prevaricator and sadly, you have lost.
Do what's best for your baby now!

Well probably a stable life with a mother and extended family who love it. No need for the drama.

Well it’s all a bit too late now and your gamble didn’t pay off so I agree you are doing the most sensible thing. Much better than putting yourself at risk of living with a boyfriend, being stuck with limited job opportunities and contributing to a household you can’t invest in.

So you were daft but not as daft as all the women who don’t at least try and plan some security when they get with a man who has done it all before.

Fix it by allowing you to blackmail and control him? No. That isn’t fixing it. Your behaviour here is appalling.

All of which you knew before you decided to get pregnant.

How does she apply for maintenance in the country she is living in if she can't prove that he is the child's father?

THEY got pregnant. She didn’t do it alone. He is choosing to only look after (financially) his first two children who can be protected in his will. There would be no risk of them being disinherited. As for her getting half the house if they divorced she has been paying towards it and it would be to look after THEIR child who he is seemingly shrugging off deciding that the first two is all he’s willing to financially provide for. Honestly don’t know why he is some sort of poor innocent victim in this. They got pregnant. He isn’t willing to look after her or their child yet she’s the twat here. Doesn’t make sense to me

What on earth possessed you to TTC in these circumstances? It's so unfair on your child.

I believe that you should never deliberately have a child with someone from another country unless you are willing to stay in that country until your child is grown.

If you stay where you are, you will not only be depriving your child of any kind of meaningful relationship with their father and siblings, but they will probably never be able to prove their British citizenship either. You can have a father retrospectively added onto a British birth certificate but I have no idea how you'd go about doing that when the baby is born abroad.

There's really no good solution here.

So you blackmailed him?! How much were you earning/contributing to the house? You can't just demand half because you're carrying his child!

I actually think you are being smart, given the situation.
A very tough decision. But ultimately, if you stay in Uk and relationship goes south, you won’t be permitted to move abroad with your child, without fathers agreement.

(Well you might be, but it would be a long process and you would likely need to evidence that the father is not involved in the child’s life)

He chose to have a baby too. The OP has been unwise but it was his choice too. You don't have a baby with someone you don't want to commit to.

The OP can apply for child maintenance in the country that she is living in, and the UK courts will enforce any order she gets if there is a REMO agreement.

It might be worth a more detailed discussion or at least writing down your reasons why in an email so you can give more detail:

• lack of security
• inability to support yourself
• fear of being stuck here with a baby, with no way of supporting yourself and no family to support

Ive just read yr last post. I truly think you have made the wisest decision.

Just to put a different perspective on this.

Say he did what you asked and put your name on the house. You then split up. You are now entitled to half the house. So it has to be sold and split between you. He now has 3 kids to house and may not be able to afford a house big enough with half the proceeds of the current one.
So can you see how it isn't as simple as he gives you half ? He has 2 other kids to consider.
It sounds like you were not in a high paying job and had limited funds to bring to the relationship. You planned a baby but you didn't plan finances. So did you talk about maternity leave? How it would be paid? If you would continue to pay bills? Going back to work? Who would fund childcare? Would your finances be joint or separate? So many questions unanswered. You've done the right thing by staying with support network

No. He told her he didn’t want to marry. They both chose to get pregnant and then she announces marry me or put me on the deeds of the house. He said no and I don’t blame him. All this poor you - she has used her pregnancy to try to get what she wants and it’s backfired.
I agree, she needs financial security but you do not use a baby to achieve this.