Am I being unreasonable to give birth away from the child’s father because he doesn’t want to get married?

You can't force her to stay with him. The relationship hasn't worked out. He can throw her out at any time. It's best she sets up on her own where she has a support network

But he is her baby's family. She is depriving her baby of half of his or her family. Probably for good.

There's absolutely no reason why she couldn't stay with him, get a job once her baby is old enough to go to nursery, and start saving money of her own. They could also talk about how to protect her financial position now she is the mother of his child. There are other ways of doing this. It doesn't have to be, "marry me or put me on the deeds to your house or I'm taking the baby to live in Australia".

OP can't go back in time. Suggestions about what she should have done in the past are unhelpful and sticking the boot in.
But she's an adult and the responsibility for creating that financial stability is hers.
Yes and she can do that better with a support network around her than as a struggling, isolated single mum with no support
We are living in 2025. You can't demand equality for women and at the same time expect a man to set you up for life without you having to lift a finger to contribute to it.
No and she's not going to do that. She's going to go home to family and set up on her own with their support. He's not family. He's not related to her.

If you read her posts it comes across loud and clear. She admits that what she's doing is wrong.

I don't know why (well, I do) many PP are trying to twist this into OP deliberately going into this pregnancy with the intent to end up pulling this ultimatum. It's really quite clear that OP had her rose-tinted specs on and went against her instinct by agreeing that she could continue without marriage, and only when it was too late realised the gravity of the risk she would take by staying in the UK to have her baby. It was short-sighted and naive of her to deliberately conceive this baby, sure, but the way many posters are twisting this into some evil masterplan is very indulgent.

If the dh won't support her when she has a newborn she should go where she can get support.

It's not known that this would have been the case though.

Op obviously decided that it was too big a risk to take.

If Op wanted marriage & he didn't the relationship was always likely to fail I would have thought.

She has no stability to protect. She has brought absolutely no money to the relationship.

If she'd been saving money each month for the last three years of their relationship and now had a house deposit and wanted them to buy a place together and he was refusing, then she'd have a point. But then she'd be able to buy herself a rental property, as she suggested in one of her earlier posts.

It's not wrong to want financial stability. But she's an adult and the responsibility for creating that financial stability is hers. We are living in 2025. You can't demand equality for women and at the same time expect a man to set you up for life without you having to lift a finger to contribute to it.

She doesn't want half his house. She wants stability and security for herself and her baby, which she can only have with her support network, not in the UK where she has no family. He doesn't want to be related to her, which is fine, his choice. But she is allowed to do what's best for her then, same as he's doing. The baby doesn't need a homeless, depressed , isolated mum. If the dh won't support her when she has a newborn she should go where she can get support.

Ahh yes, he is completely reasonable to protect his stability, but she's a terrible person if she wants to do the same. Why should she be content living there, paying half the bills, in the knowledge he can kick her out with no warning? You think thats reasonable to expect of her?

Having a baby because you want half of someone elses house.

Fuck sake, poor kid.

She admits it in her OP. It's there in black and white. Do I do what is in the children's best interests, or what is in my best interests? And she's decided to put her own interests above those of three children.

That she’d accepted his position and decided to have a baby with him regardless? Why would he suspect she’d do a runner whilst pregnant and then blackmail him?

I think both of you were irresponsible for having a child. At the end of the day it was a wanted baby 50-50.

You had a child with him knowing he didn’t want to get married, now you’ve gone to another country and saying you’ll be a family together etc if he marries you. I can’t lie I think you’re pretty twisted.

except...he was aware of the OP's desire to marry? therefore he is just as responsible for bringing a child into the middle of something that was clearly somewhat mismatched? or is it just the OP's fault? I mean, what did he think was actually going to happen?

Sorry, no I don’t have any sympathy with him. I’m also a single parent who has their own house, a house that will be going to her children one day not a new partner. No way would I go down this route. Surely you know from the start that it’s risky having another baby who will be another financial commitment with a new partner. What if he dies and her and the baby have nowhere to go? Or does she get to stay there until the baby is 18 as legally his estate has to provide for all children until they are 18yrs even when he’s dead. It’s a mess.

The point being, conceiving the baby was a way for op to get her partner to change his mind about marrying her or putting her on the deeds of his house. A bargaining chip. He clearly didn’t realise this and just thought they were starting a family.

There’s nothing to suggest he didn’t want the child. He just doesn’t want marriage (at least not yet) or to sign over half of his house)

He did want the child. That's the point. They planned this child together. He just didn't want to sign over half his house because he has other children he is financially obligated to.

There's nothing to suggest that he didn't want another child.

She's brought zero money into the relationship and she's deliberately conceived a baby to use as a bargaining chip to get a man to give her half his house

deliberately? how is this the OP's fault? if her partner didn't want an additional child, what should he have done about it?

Stay with family until baby born at least then you have more options. Security for you and baby priority

He wanted the baby; he wasn’t trapped into having that.

but he is now being trapped into marriage or giving away half of his house if he wants to be able to have a relationship with this child and be in the same country as it. That seems deeply unfair on him. He hasn’t gone back on his word at all and there doesn’t seem to be any suggestion that he would be a bad dad, wouldn’t provide for the baby and was going to be a supportive partner and provide towards her (it shouldn’t be his responsibility to 100% her, she should be also doing that).

You've just been raving on about what a great dad her partner would be and how horrible OP is. You are now telling her to get an abortion when she hasn't said that she doesn't want the child that she is carrying.

If OP has a good support network at home, she can raise the child in her home country.

Exactly this.

The OP has nothing to lose, does she?

She's brought zero money into the relationship and she's deliberately conceived a baby to use as a bargaining chip to get a man to give her half his house.

Note there has been zero suggestion from the OP that she might put her own savings towards buying a property jointly with her baby's father. Just "he won't give me half the house he already owns".

She's been with him for three years. She can't have been working that hard if all she'd managed to save in that time was the cost of a short stay in a hotel and a plane ticket home.

Well he was naive in trusting her when she said it didn't matter. But yeah anyone who has a baby with someone with a different nationality has to be very, very careful. I know people who have been trapped in countries they hate for decades because they had a drunken shag on a gap year. Just don't.