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Was I an interfering know it all?

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adarkspringday · 27/02/2025 16:13

At a farm today I was behind a family with young children and I heard one of them say they were going to see the sheep.

I said ‘you’ve gone past them, they are back there’ and gave specific directions.

The mum said ‘well they used to be but there is a sign up saying they’ve moved.’ Turned out they had moved. I said sorry and that was that. Then heard the mum in the gift shop saying something like ‘well, found the sheep despite that interfering know it all trying to send us the opposite way!’

Was I an interfering know it all?

Yabu yes
yanbu no you were being helpful.

OP posts:
marsunin · 27/02/2025 16:34

Dotjones · 27/02/2025 16:16

You should probably have stayed out of it to be honest. Giving unprovoked advice, especially unprovoked advice that is wrong, leaves you open to being seen as an "interfering know-it-all" or other less polite terms.

If you were a man (or are a man!) this would be classic mansplaining.

🙄🙄🙄

Crankyaboutfood · 27/02/2025 16:33

literally nothing wrong—you tried to be helpful. that mom is crank

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 27/02/2025 16:33

Ewe gave gave some baa'd advice to the kids

(Yes i know kids are goats not sheep....I read it on the sign) 🙂

Happyinarcon · 27/02/2025 16:32

I find it hard to believe this happened

Hdjdb42 · 27/02/2025 16:32

You were just being helpful. Don't worry about some rude people.

RachelLikesTea · 27/02/2025 16:26

No good deed goes unpunished! The times I have learned this.

ethelredonagoodday · 27/02/2025 16:24

You were trying to be helpful. The other woman sounds like a nob.

Changingplace · 27/02/2025 16:22

You were trying to help, she was rude and her comments were unnecessary.

I had a similar situation recently, heard some people getting on the tram near me sounding confused & talking about getting two tickets at the machine because they were going to X place via a main station, I just turned to them and said, ‘oh you don’t need two tickets, just buy it to your destination or you can tap in and out’

Instead of saying thanks or even acknowledging I was trying to help one of them muttered something about me being a ‘Karen’ and carried on buying the wrong ticket 🙄

Rainbow1235 · 27/02/2025 16:22

adarkspringday · 27/02/2025 16:13

At a farm today I was behind a family with young children and I heard one of them say they were going to see the sheep.

I said ‘you’ve gone past them, they are back there’ and gave specific directions.

The mum said ‘well they used to be but there is a sign up saying they’ve moved.’ Turned out they had moved. I said sorry and that was that. Then heard the mum in the gift shop saying something like ‘well, found the sheep despite that interfering know it all trying to send us the opposite way!’

Was I an interfering know it all?

Yabu yes
yanbu no you were being helpful.

U was just bein helpful I would’ve said same as u too . No pleasing some peaple .

mintbug · 27/02/2025 16:16

You were trying to help. It's not you were flexing your knowledge of sheep placement.

Dotjones · 27/02/2025 16:16

You should probably have stayed out of it to be honest. Giving unprovoked advice, especially unprovoked advice that is wrong, leaves you open to being seen as an "interfering know-it-all" or other less polite terms.

If you were a man (or are a man!) this would be classic mansplaining.

NormasArse · 27/02/2025 16:14

Nasty woman- no need for that.