How tidy is your house when you go to work?

Not tidy. Breakfast things all over the house and some things from the evening before sitting on the kitchen worktop still. Beds not made, clothes strewn around.

I tidy each room when I leave it. So it's very rare I come home to chaos

It’s a bomb site all week, mildly better at the weekend. I wfh and try to tidy at lunchtime but it goes straight to shit as soon as the kids get home.

Mine's usually tidy before bed and not at other times. It gets progressively worse throughout the day so a bit messy when we leave for daycare, absolute chaos while making dinner.

Relatively tidy. Not as tidy as I’d like but all the kitchen, living room and bedrooms tidied and worktops clean.
We have more than an average amount of children and dogs so it takes a conscious (and constant) effort on my behalf but I don’t like the whole ‘that’s just what having children is like’ narrative of accepting living in a mess. I find mess really genuinely stressful so I find relaxing almost impossible & I’m always always tidying something.

Wonderfully tidy as we tidy up before going to bed and I am get up and go to work before anyone else gets up. 🤣

Our house is always pretty tidy, but we do have to remind the DCs to put away their things and nag DD a bit as otherwise there would be clothes on the floor.

Generally the house resembles the local tip.

hardly ever tidy except when people come over there is a 10 minute whirlwind.

when I leave for work I shut the door on it all and worry about it later.

My kids are older - it does get easier! My suggestions for you:

Kitchen and living room tidy before bed each night.

Breakfast things into sink/dishwasher before leaving

Let the playroom be carnage and just don’t look!

I used to make the next days lunches when I was cooking dinner. Was in the kitchen anyway and made a big difference the following morning.

Clear up in the lounge before you go to bed. In morning empty and fill dishwasher, quick wipe and that’s about it until the evening. If there’s no one where all day then it doesn’t really matter.

Tidy, but my dc are a bit older so it’s easier.

We tidy everything before bed so it’s all clear for the morning then it’s just a case of restacking dishwasher in the morning with breakfast stuff.

I used to tidy the night before and unload the dishwasher first thing, ready for breakfast things. The family room was never very tidy.

Good. 😂

I hope he didn’t call you to tell just that.

I work from home but that is exactly what happens here too. If we finish breakfast early enough, which depends entirely on whether DC wakes up on time, I have time to sweep/wipe/load the dishwasher/make the bed.

Otherwise it all gets left until DC gets home, including the crumbs on the floor, as I make a point of doing no housework when at work.
It used to annoy me as I am definitely a "clean as you go along" person, but now I'm so focused on my computer I don't notice the unmade bed (in the room I work in) or the crumbs on the floor (when I'm making a cuppa).
If someone popped in during my working day it would be embarrassing though!

Cleaning as I go along was creating too much tension in the morning, or I was juggling work with cleaning which was creating internal tension.

That was nice of your DH, and honestly something has to give when kids are that age and you're both working. Just survive!!! Just survive!!

@TooOldForThisShit1 When mine were that age I never had a tidy house. You can't compare yourself to other people, their kids may be sat watching tv giving them space to tidy. They may have helpful partners, be able to leave the house later etc etc. mine are teenagers and I'd give anything for to see some LEGO lying about the place 🥰

Absolute bombsite after the school run routine. Thankfully I come back and WFH so spend a quick 10 mins throwing things back where they belong!

My house is usually a mess.
I sometimes ask myself: If I were taken ill or in an accident and somebody needed to come to my house while I was in hospital, would I be happy about the state they find it in?
The answer is invariably no.

I don’t work so we don’t leave the house until 8.30 in the monring and but I wouldn’t expect to be tidying toys up in the morning. Playroom is either tidied the night before or the door is closed so the mess can’t be seen.

It sounds like you’re acing things. There is a really twee social media post which says things like I’m thankful I have a messy playroom because it means my children have a playroom, the same with food and a measy kitchen.

Bit passive aggressive from your DH?

It’s lovely these days but that’s because my adult twins have recently left home … when they were 6 the place was a bomb site when we left the house.

I miss the mess and noise to be honest 😟

That’s just the reality of a family. I don’t care what state the house is in when I’m at work and the kids are in school because no one will see it. As long as it’s tidy when people come round I really don’t care. I always leave breakfast stuff out in the morning and sort it out when I come home.