My friend keeps pushing ADHD onto her child

@bellsend so I didn’t know that until now, I believed there were 2 types of adhd but both required the common ‘hyperactive’, I’ve admitted to possibly being wrong about that which I appreciate people explaining that to me.

I have been listening to my friend for the past year, I haven’t deemed him not to have it, to me & from my small amount of knowledge I’ve stated I don’t think, that’s just my opinion and again, a reason why I came here for others to clarify whether I am right in that or not. As for defensive, I have every right to be defensive with the absolute clowns on here stating I’m jealous or a bad friend as nether of them things are even close to the truth about who I am as a person or about me & my friends relationship.

& that’s even crazier to me, surely there would have to be something in paper from a medical professional in order to claim money. It’s bad enough as is.

@bellsend so I didn’t know that until now, I believed there were 2 types of adhd but both required the common ‘hyperactive’, I’ve admitted to possibly being wrong about that which I appreciate people explaining that to me.

I have been listening to my friend for the past year, I haven’t deemed him not to have it, to me & from my small amount of knowledge I’ve stated I don’t think, that’s just my opinion and again, a reason why I came here for others to clarify whether I am right in that or not. As for defensive, I have every right to be defensive with the absolute clowns on here stating I’m jealous or a bad friend as nether of them things are even close to the truth about who I am as a person or about me & my friends relationship.

& that’s even crazier to me, surely there would have to be something in paper from a medical professional in order to claim money. It’s bad enough as is.

@Puttingoutfireswithgasoline its hardly insulting to say I don’t want my son to be labeled at a young age as he’d use it to his advantage, that’s my son. If he can get away with something or pin blame somewhere else he will. I’m not stupid, it’s what kids do. I’m not a parent who says ‘no not my child, couldn’t and wouldn’t be my child’ because 90% of the time it probably WAS my child 🤣 he’s a class clown, even at the age of 4. I haven’t stated that being for every child so there’s no need to find offence it in & im glad your child doesn’t use it to his advantage, let’s hope they don’t even in year 11 when he’s flicked a pen at someone.

@MyGhastIsFlabbered I’m hardly being presumptuous. I just find it mad how it’s never been mentioned before until I did & ever since she’s done everything she can to push it. As if she’s in some kind of race with someone? Just the way I see it. She’s a very ‘look at me’ kind of girl, so just wanted to see if I had picked up on something.

@Puttingoutfireswithgasoline its hardly insulting to say I don’t want my son to be labeled at a young age as he’d use it to his advantage, that’s my son. If he can get away with something or pin blame somewhere else he will. I’m not stupid, it’s what kids do. I’m not a parent who says ‘no not my child, couldn’t and wouldn’t be my child’ because 90% of the time it probably WAS my child 🤣 he’s a class clown, even at the age of 4. I haven’t stated that being for every child so there’s no need to find offence it in & im glad your child doesn’t use it to his advantage, let’s hope they don’t even in year 11 when he’s flicked a pen at someone.

@Andagain2 yes because that’s what I think and I’m not the only one whose mentioned autism over adhd to her before but she’s adamant which is fine, I go with it.

i was told there were 2 types of adhd, that may not to be right but that’s my knowledge, as someone whose never needed to learn anything about it I haven’t ever taken it upon myself to learn so thank you for those facts you have wrote. That’s the kind of advice I came here to look for, not the insults and degrading on how much of a bad friend I am for wanting answers from people outside of who knows my friend personally.

@Andagain2 yes because that’s what I think and I’m not the only one whose mentioned autism over adhd to her before but she’s adamant which is fine, I go with it.

i was told there were 2 types of adhd, that may not to be right but that’s my knowledge, as someone whose never needed to learn anything about it I haven’t ever taken it upon myself to learn so thank you for those facts you have wrote. That’s the kind of advice I came here to look for, not the insults and degrading on how much of a bad friend I am for wanting answers from people outside of who knows my friend personally.

I know this may make me sound mad but I just need clarification that it’s not just me or maybe I just pick up on things easily. So last year I explained to my friend that I think my child, who was 3 at the time, now 4, might have ADHD as he shows the common symptoms. Personally I feel like he is too young to get labeled with anything but he pretty much ticks every box and his father was diagnosed at the age of 6. However, ever since I have mentioned this to my friend, every time I see her she has started mentioning how she now believes her now 5 year old has ADHD, she pushed for his nursery to keep an eye on him but they deemed no issues but now her son is in reception, she has now pushed it onto reception. Personally I don’t think her son has ADHD as nether her or his father has it, despite them both claiming to but they definitely have traits of autism between them, her son isn’t fidgety, he sits for hours on end on an iPad, which I disagree with massively & I find his hyper activity being due to being bored as the only place he goes is school and home again. Never the less, I just find it mad how she never mentioned it before until I said something about my son. Am I being crazily unreasonable to say it’s driving me mad every time I see her, it makes me not want to go around anymore. I think she may have munchausen by proxy or is simply looking for attention/more free money 🤦🏻‍♀️.