To not be in the room when my dog is put to sleep?

Depends. Who is your dog’s main person? If it’s you then go. If not, then I think you’re ok. You could also go; just to give him a goodbye cuddle and then step outside.

I don't think the whole family need to be in the room, but definitely someone she is very close with should be.
Poor pup. Sending hugs.

No one "wants to be there" do they? Silly thing to say 🙄

Read the post properly - it's the family dog, probably more the parents' than the OP's if anything, and several other people will be there

Of course she shouldn't go if she doesn't want to

Actually if already heavily sedated and your parents etc will be there your dog will have plenty of love. If you can’t be there, I know it’s hard. Look after yourself xxx

I’ve seen a few posts / memes where people pile on horrendous guilt and pressure for people by saying they must be there but I am quite a lot more empathic than that and I think it genuinely can be unbearable for some people. It’s simply not helpful or compassionate to post ‘be there for him’ or ‘don’t let her down when she needs you.’ Your decision must be based on what you feel is right for you and not any one else. You can give your dog love and goodbyes until the moment is very close and have them with someone else that they feel safe with.

I went the first time and was such a mess that DH went alone the next time. As long as someone is with her that she knows and loves it's fine. I wouldn't go again unless the dog was only attached to me or no one else could go. It would be awful for them to be alone or with people they don't know well but that's not going to be the case.

Have pp read the whole op? The OPs parents and siblings will be with there.

My dd chose not to be in the room with us and she's never regretted it. Our beautiful old boy was given a sedative beforehand and it was over quickly and peacefully but it was still traumatic.

Me and my DH were able to focus on our boy without needing to support or be available in those moments for anyone else.

You absolutely must read the part when OP says other family members will be there who are much closer to the dog
You should probably apologise to OP for calling her selfish as well

Very gently and respectfully, I think you would be wrong not to be there. Whether you are in the room or not makes no difference to the actual decision - that has been made already. She will be comforted by your presence, however sedated she is, and it is the last loving act you can do for her. Yes, you will have to sit with that for a while, but you are not doing it for no reason, and as sad as you feel, you will know you did the right thing.

i don't need any context.
Be in the room. FFS

I was away when my dog became seriously ill and had to be put to sleep. She was with her dog minder who she adored so she wasn't alone but I will never get over the guilt from not being there. I still cry today if I think about it.

I'd say if you possibly can, then be there.

You owe it to your dog to be with her.

I would try and be there if you can. It’s different to how it used to be.

What I did was close my eyes, your dog won’t know if your eyes are open or not. I put my face by his and my hands on him and I told him he was a good boy. I never looked at him, I wanted to remember him the way he was. I will always love him.

My Dh and the vet also touched him and told him he was a good boy.

He was gone in seconds. It was silent and fast- so fast. The vet then covered him and we left.

Be strong OP, take a friend if you can.

It's personal choice.

If you can though, go. PTS is very peaceful. They really do just drift to sleep. I've always actually found it comforting and a relief as the suffering is finally done.

Don't feel shamed by others or this thread to go though. If you can't cope with it, that's okay.

I stayed with My Ddog because I was the person he loved most, he went to sleep in my arms being told how much I loved him. He loved other family members but I know it was my presence that mattered no one else's.

You absolutely must be there read on line the articles written by vets saying how selfish it is of owners to put themselves first and how distressed the dogs are when owners wimp out!

If someone is there with her then that's fine.
If she was just around strangers then i'd be flabbergasted you couldn't be with your best friend to the end, as hard as that would be.

It absolutely depends on the dog and I would suggest a brief discussion with the vet might help. Of the two dogs that we have had to have put to sleep, both were visited at home. It's more expensive, but we felt it was much better for them. They were both unwell. One had kidney failure and heart failure, and we sat and stroked her, and spoke softly to her as she received the injections. The other had a cancerous tumour that had grown terribly and was inoperable and he had stopped eating (so also wasn't getting his pain meds), but the pain was causing him to be more aggressive and the vet felt that my distress at the resistance would make it worse, so I went into the next room whilst the injections were administered. That was the right to do. I would say you should try and be guided by the vet.

I wasn't there with my last dog and I've always regretted it. Only 14 days before losing her I held my mum's hand while she passed away and I just couldn't bare anymore grief but if the circumstances had been different and I hadn't already been going through absolute hell I would have been there. I still have the dogs ashes.

People are trying to guilt you into going OP! Your Ddog will already have at least 3 people with her including her owners, your parents. When Dcat was PTS a few years ago, my children and husband all wanted to be there - I didn't go. Not because I didn't want to but I thought it would be overwhelming for the animal to have so many people crowded around. Your Ddog will have who they need there, everyone else is unnecessary especially if they are already sedated.

I think you have to do what's best for you. It's such a sad situation. And it's what you know you can cope with.
We had a lovely vet come to our home to put our family dog to sleep. She was 15 amd very sick and would not have gotten better.
She was lay over my knees sleeping . Had no idea .
And the vet was just brilliant. It was so quick . But still very upsetting.
I was the only one who did it . Everyone else went out . It was to much for them . Which I thinks completely normal and understandable.

At least read the post. She's not going to be with strangers as the rest of the family are going to be there

You could regret it either way so only you really know the answer, but be kind to yourself, it's horrible decision to make. Try to remember that the decision to let your dog pass peacefully is doing them a kindness and they will just drift off to sleep and never wake up.

If they have other people they trust and are close to there to stroke them and tell them they were the bestest dog ever when they pass, then you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.

You must be with her. She'll look to you for comfort at the end and die with strangers. I have been with everyone of my 8 cats and I'll be with my current two when their time comes. It's peaceful not horrible but I know my cats needed me to hold them at the end.