To not be in the room when my dog is put to sleep?

Don't be daft, it might haunt her if she is there!

A lovely post, and agree 100 percent.
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Ive been with many horses at the end of their lives. Very often their owners can’t cope with this and it’s fine. Much better for someone calm and reassuring at the end than someone who is transmitting panic and upset.

This

You can be there whilst goes into “sleep” but leave before death.

Please please do be with ddog
I believe it's the final gift we owe them
They look for their loved ones to feel safe and secure and they drift off hearing the voices they love the best.
It's Heartbreaking I know, and although some loved ones will be there, it's your voice they need to hear.

The Home Euthanasia our first family dog had was so peaceful, beloved dog didn't even realise it was the Vet there, as she was in her ''civvies'', as was the Nurse.

The Vet gently stroked Dog and said {ironically!} how ''well she looked'' {Osteosarcoma}
When the injection was done, I spoke to Dog gently,
It was all very calm and peaceful.

Son was very upset and he chose to stay in bathroom where he cried silently.

I always said I would let my DD's be with our dog, but when the time came I couldn't bear not to be there and he only wanted me for his final snuggles

Be at the vets and close by in case you change your mind

I've heard this so many times. I'm quite shocked that supposed vets here have said they don't look around. I knew for a fact my pug would. She was my shadow for almost 5 years. She hated the vet and would get so distressed 😞 There was no way I'd have left her when she was PTS last August. It's your last duty as a pet owner,to be there right at the end,no matter how awful and heartbreaking it is...

You didn't read the whole post before judging.

It's OPs parent's dog; her parents and siblings will be there.

Where do you get off in posting such gratuitously cruel histrionics to complete strangers on the web?

Your overly-emotive anthropomorphism is claptrap. The dog isn't going to 'wonder' any such thing.

Take a long, hard look at yourself before you criticise others' moral behaviour.

This dog will have the rest of the family there- Dog won't be alone.

I think the people saying you must go haven’t read your OP properly.

Totally understand where you are coming from as I was the same with my much loved childhood cat. I didn’t go in but my parents did. I said my goodbyes before and I don’t regret it at all as she wasn’t alone. If you do decide not to go please don’t feel bad.

Hope you’re doing ok at such a shitty time x

I went with 2 of mine. The vet said those that leave the room, father pets look scared and look around for them,panicking while they die. When you stay and stroke them, they relax and it's better for them. Please stay with yours.

They definitely do understand-

One of the worst things about Covid rules according to our vets was the inability of home euthanasia , and also not allowing a pets person into the room while euthanasia was done.

Mind you, even people were dying alone, far from their loved ones at that time.

If other people will be with her, you don't need to be there if it will be too hard for you. You have my utmost sympathy, pets are family and saying goodbye is so hard. I really feel for you, it's a heartbreaking situation.

It might be good for you to be there if you can. I've been with pets when they've needed to be PTS, and knowing that I was holding and reassuring them while they slipped away brought me a lot of comfort afterwards. One cat had the most beautiful passing I've ever experienced; he was sedated and relaxed, and purred (happily, not stress) while I cuddled him. We knew he was gone when the purrs faded away - it made the vet cry too. It is painful, but there's something so lovely in knowing that all this animal has ever known from you is love, and being there to see that they experience that love right until the end.

If you really can't face it though, don't feel guilty at all. You wouldn't leave her alone, and you know she has people she knows and loves around her. Be kind to yourself OP.

You are her person. You say she won’t be alone at the end, but she will need YOU to be there. It’s part of loving her, even if it’s hard for you. Personally, I would feel guilty forever if I wasn’t there.

Sorry, but as other vets on this thread have said, this simply isn’t true and it’s not fair to guilt owners like this. Animals don’t know they are being euthanised, very few “look for their owners” if they leave, and any animal that was distressed would be sedated first. Most owners stay, but if someone feels they can’t it’s generally better they go, because an owner in emotional meltdown is something that CAN distress an animal. Like a PP, I’ve probably carried out a thousand euthanasias, and i really hate this guilt tripping “all vets think you should stay”. No we don’t. We think you should do what’s best in your situation, which usually means at least one person staying with the animal, but not always.

I think you need to do what's best for you. Your dog won't be alone and will have loved ones beside them when they pass. I thought I wouldn't be able to be there when mine was PTS... however my husband and I stayed with him and I'm so glad we did. It was very peaceful and I'm sure he knew we were with him which helped with saying goodbye . However if I was really upset and crying lots (which I did afterwards) I might have chosen to stay out of the room. I'd worry he would have picked up on my upset and he wouldn't have had the peaceful goodbye he deserved . Like I said at the beginning , it's totally your choice, and be assured that you are doing the right thing . Take care x

@angelllll As your parents and siblings will be in with her, it's ok if you don't go.

Our first dog was PTS at home {terminal illness} and my son just couldn't be present- he sat in the loo, sobbing quietly, and wouldn't even see her body afterwards - he just couldn't face it.

Home Euthanasia is best, but obviously not all animals can be in that situation.

I understood son not being able to face it.
He'd said his goodbyes to her - in fact, she said her goodbye to him- and me the night before- very moving.

Her passing was so easy.

However, if you were the dog's only owner, I'd have said you should have been there for the dog's wellbeing.

It's very hard on us..I have a lump in my throat just reading your post.

You really ought to be there for your dog. It's heartbreaking but you have to gird your loins. They do know that you're there.

And I'm speaking from experience.

The only thing that matters is that the individual who is the dogs 'person' is there. If that's you then yes you need to be there but if it's a different family member they're the only one that needs to be there. Everyone else can decide fot themselves.

Mum went in with our cats dad couldn’t face it. She wouldn’t let me or my late teens brother in with her because she didn’t want us distressed. It is absolutely up to you and perfectly understandable if you can’t face it. Your DDog will not be alone and has had wonderful happy times with you. I am so sorry losing our pets is heartbreaking.

They don't look for you if they're sedated and asleep so stop being so mean.

My dog was put to sleep (unexpectedly) at the beginning of the year and I was there until it didn't work and had to be redone (which was horrific). I was on my own and in absolute bits....my legs were visibly shaking and I couldn't take anymore so the vet took him through to a different room to give him a second injection. He was asleep and the vet was very reassuring.