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People who are too busy to do exercise

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Hollyandivygoout · 27/02/2025 09:43

I run about 4 miles, 4 times a week. I’m in a routine and force myself to do it even when I can’t be arsed. It takes me about 30-40 minutes each time I go for a run and I squeeze it in early morning, before dinner, just whenever I can really. I work full time and have 2DC who are admittedly at secondary school now, but this is something I’ve always done.
My AIBU is finding it annoying when people tell me they don’t have time to do any exercise. It’s like they’re so busy and important and I’ve got all the time in the world. I honestly don’t believe that the vast majority of people can’t squeeze in half an hour a few times a week.

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nodramaplz · 28/02/2025 09:32

So it's not their priority!
Big deal!
You force yourself, maybe they value themselves and their peace!

✌️

BuildbyNumbere · 28/02/2025 09:14

Randomsabreur · 28/02/2025 07:12

Exercise in the home is somewhat limited by floor space. Also much easier in a house than a flat depending on sound proofing levels...

A Joe Wicks routine would be impossible above a grumpy neighbour/too close to a light sleeping child. Same for weights.

I have no excuse other than time to fit in more exercise. I already do a sport once a week for 2 hours one evening plus weekends we are not away and gym the other weekend day.

Weekday slots are tougher around kid ferrying and running is the hardest to add in. I'd do more if I could get them in the same place at the same time more often. Swimming lessons are offset by 15 minutes and other classes are sequential for their age group.

I do have space in the house but can see why someone living in a smaller house or flat or with younger kids who don't sleep well would find it impossible - in COVID times I couldn't exercise in the house during the day because there was one bit of floor large enough to do Burpees and it was the main route to the kitchen and that was a 3 bed house.

There’s all sorts on ideas in line … Pilates, wall Pilates, the list is endless … just have to look. Doesn’t always have to be high everything. Swats, lunges, sit ups, press ups, bicep curls etc etc ..: all very quiet.

neverbeenskiing · 28/02/2025 09:13

I'm loving the comments about taking your child to the gym so they can sit quietly in the corner and watch you work out. Just picturing the absolute havoc that would be wrought if I rocked up with my 2 SEND children...I'm sure the other gym-goers would be delighted! 😂

Some people really are clueless about the reality of other people's lives.

rubytubeytubes · 28/02/2025 08:18

Do you feel better getting that off your chest?
What do you want people to say ...
Yes anyone who doesn't find time for exercise is lazy?!?! Yes go on then you are right

What on earth was the point in posting this?
Can you really not understand why some people can't.
I work more than full time, I'm a carer for a friend, my family members and my children with additional needs. I love exercising and it's good for my mental health but I can only do it at home because of my children and sometimes people need to sleep as well Biscuit

ObelixtheGaul · 28/02/2025 08:11

YourAquaSnail · 28/02/2025 07:57

I'm a teacher, which means I'm on my feet all day every day. I do some stretching/weights whenever I can, but if I went for a run every day, I'd literally collapse and wouldn't be able to do my job😁

I'm a TA for EYFS SEN kids. An hour's playground duty for me covers 'running', lol.

ObelixtheGaul · 28/02/2025 08:07

Sonolanona · 28/02/2025 07:43

I work in a physical job, have arthritis in my back and hips and that combo cripples me. However I still walk the dog many miles and dig an allotment.
I can't run. Don't want to run. Can't afford classes and don't wish to either thanks.

I'm probably a lot older than you, but what years of excercise did for me..was help me develop back and hip problems (I'm a Taekwondo black belt). Your knees probably won't thank you in years to come. You can be active without being smug you know?!

However in my ;late 50s I have learned to play the piano, the drums, and am about to learn to snowboard (yes nuts). Is that lazy? Or just different priorities...

No, it's brilliant and you are keeping mentally active as well.

YourAquaSnail · 28/02/2025 07:57

I'm a teacher, which means I'm on my feet all day every day. I do some stretching/weights whenever I can, but if I went for a run every day, I'd literally collapse and wouldn't be able to do my job😁

NewPapaGuinea · 28/02/2025 07:46

To add, you can do simple things such as take the stairs rather than the escalator. Use every opportunity to physically move rather than choose the conveniences of the modern world.

Sonolanona · 28/02/2025 07:43

I work in a physical job, have arthritis in my back and hips and that combo cripples me. However I still walk the dog many miles and dig an allotment.
I can't run. Don't want to run. Can't afford classes and don't wish to either thanks.

I'm probably a lot older than you, but what years of excercise did for me..was help me develop back and hip problems (I'm a Taekwondo black belt). Your knees probably won't thank you in years to come. You can be active without being smug you know?!

However in my ;late 50s I have learned to play the piano, the drums, and am about to learn to snowboard (yes nuts). Is that lazy? Or just different priorities...

NewPapaGuinea · 28/02/2025 07:42

ObelixtheGaul · 28/02/2025 07:37

I struggle with setting out to do planned exercise beyond walking, so I've developed my own 'reluctant exerciser' routines around making every movement count.
I know I'm not going to be going to the gym, but I am going to be walking to work, so I add weight to my backpack. I'm not going to join a Zumba class so I put music on and put more movement into doing household chores.
It's not as good as a regular gym-goer, and it does help that I don't have a very sedentary job, but it does go to show we can all get more out of everyday movement if we struggle to find something we like doing enough to set aside 20 minutes a day for.

Love this! This is exactly the mindset more people need.

ObelixtheGaul · 28/02/2025 07:37

NewPapaGuinea · 28/02/2025 06:31

I do find it curious how many people don’t make their health and fitness a priority as without it, especially as we age, is debilitating. This is why I’m such an active travel advocate. Build it into your life and you don’t even need to make time, you’re just swapping it.

You hear people say they “hate” exercise. Find something you don’t hate, you won’t stick to otherwise.

I struggle with setting out to do planned exercise beyond walking, so I've developed my own 'reluctant exerciser' routines around making every movement count.
I know I'm not going to be going to the gym, but I am going to be walking to work, so I add weight to my backpack. I'm not going to join a Zumba class so I put music on and put more movement into doing household chores.
It's not as good as a regular gym-goer, and it does help that I don't have a very sedentary job, but it does go to show we can all get more out of everyday movement if we struggle to find something we like doing enough to set aside 20 minutes a day for.

Ilovecleaning · 28/02/2025 07:37

Needspaceforlego · 28/02/2025 07:29

Oh yes her only other thread is about erectile dysfunction.

🤣
🌵

Needspaceforlego · 28/02/2025 07:29

Ilovecleaning · 28/02/2025 06:45

I suspect you are both right.

Oh yes her only other thread is about erectile dysfunction.

PuzzleMix · 28/02/2025 07:29

CheekyHobson · 28/02/2025 05:21

I guess @Hollyandivygoout is too busy and important to come back to her goady thread.

She's probably out running! 😂

ExIssues · 28/02/2025 07:26

Hollyandivygoout · 27/02/2025 09:43

I run about 4 miles, 4 times a week. I’m in a routine and force myself to do it even when I can’t be arsed. It takes me about 30-40 minutes each time I go for a run and I squeeze it in early morning, before dinner, just whenever I can really. I work full time and have 2DC who are admittedly at secondary school now, but this is something I’ve always done.
My AIBU is finding it annoying when people tell me they don’t have time to do any exercise. It’s like they’re so busy and important and I’ve got all the time in the world. I honestly don’t believe that the vast majority of people can’t squeeze in half an hour a few times a week.

For me it's lack of childcare. Kids too young to be left. I'm working when they're in school

Fizbosshoes · 28/02/2025 07:24

Randomsabreur · 28/02/2025 07:12

Exercise in the home is somewhat limited by floor space. Also much easier in a house than a flat depending on sound proofing levels...

A Joe Wicks routine would be impossible above a grumpy neighbour/too close to a light sleeping child. Same for weights.

I have no excuse other than time to fit in more exercise. I already do a sport once a week for 2 hours one evening plus weekends we are not away and gym the other weekend day.

Weekday slots are tougher around kid ferrying and running is the hardest to add in. I'd do more if I could get them in the same place at the same time more often. Swimming lessons are offset by 15 minutes and other classes are sequential for their age group.

I do have space in the house but can see why someone living in a smaller house or flat or with younger kids who don't sleep well would find it impossible - in COVID times I couldn't exercise in the house during the day because there was one bit of floor large enough to do Burpees and it was the main route to the kitchen and that was a 3 bed house.

I try to do weights once a week, it's pretty much the quietest exercise I do, and requires a set of dumbells and the space needed for a lunge. (Although majority of exercises, dont require moving your feet) The cats are a bit freaked out by any activity if they see me working out but I'm pretty sure it wouldn't wake anyone up or disturb others in a different room

Not saying you have to do weights but I didn't think they would be massively disruptive

Weepingwillows12 · 28/02/2025 07:22

I think that busy people may not be prioritising exercise above one of the many other jobs/ commitments they have. I used to do long walks, daily yoga etc but then injured my knee, returned to the office and long commutes and the kids ramped up their after school activities (random chance scheduling changes) and just can't figure out a way to fit it back in now. Most days I leave the house at 6:30 return at 6 then usually back out with the kids to their clubs back at 7:30/8. At this point I eat, do dishes, do laundry, have a tidy up etc. My free time is probably 9-10 but honestly I need to have quiet for a bit to recharge. I have chosen to prioritise my kids health over mine I guess. Am ok on that as won't be for many years. I do try and do something on the weekend.

Agix · 28/02/2025 07:19

NewPapaGuinea · 28/02/2025 06:31

I do find it curious how many people don’t make their health and fitness a priority as without it, especially as we age, is debilitating. This is why I’m such an active travel advocate. Build it into your life and you don’t even need to make time, you’re just swapping it.

You hear people say they “hate” exercise. Find something you don’t hate, you won’t stick to otherwise.

Because there are other things that have to be priority.

Work (to live).
Kids (so they don't end up messed up)

For me, I literally live to work. I have health conditions that mean a full work day absolutely wipes me out. I used to gym 3x a week, run 2x, running events were my favourite thing to do and miss it all with all my heart. But I do not have the health or energy to do any of it anymore. I have to save that for working.

If I stopped working completely I could use my time and energy do what I love again... But I need to work. To live.

People who judge people who don't exercise are being very short sighted and cruel. You don't know soneones circumstances either. It's not like people always choose this.

typicaltuesdaynight · 28/02/2025 07:18

I work full time nightshift have 2 kids one young primary age , an elderly father to support , I do manage an hours swim once a week if I'm not to exhausted hth

NewPapaGuinea · 28/02/2025 07:16

People saying looking after children is reason for not exercising, do you not take them to parks or playgrounds? You could use that as an opportunity to do family exercise. Get the children involved. Do races, use apparatus to jump, climb etc.

Asuitablecat · 28/02/2025 07:13

The thing is, even if exercise was genuinely fun like going to a trampoline park or the swings, if you don't physically have time... you don't have time!

The most exercise I every did was when I was on mat leave. One in a sling and one in the pushchair. I walked for milesand was probablythe slimmest I've ever been, mainly because it was easier than dealing with the baby in the sling at home. But I had all the time in the world then.
I love going for walks now, but when?

Randomsabreur · 28/02/2025 07:12

BuildbyNumbere · 28/02/2025 06:59

You can do exercise in the home … no planning required.
Now check your daily average screen time on your phone and tell me you don’t have time!

Exercise in the home is somewhat limited by floor space. Also much easier in a house than a flat depending on sound proofing levels...

A Joe Wicks routine would be impossible above a grumpy neighbour/too close to a light sleeping child. Same for weights.

I have no excuse other than time to fit in more exercise. I already do a sport once a week for 2 hours one evening plus weekends we are not away and gym the other weekend day.

Weekday slots are tougher around kid ferrying and running is the hardest to add in. I'd do more if I could get them in the same place at the same time more often. Swimming lessons are offset by 15 minutes and other classes are sequential for their age group.

I do have space in the house but can see why someone living in a smaller house or flat or with younger kids who don't sleep well would find it impossible - in COVID times I couldn't exercise in the house during the day because there was one bit of floor large enough to do Burpees and it was the main route to the kitchen and that was a 3 bed house.

Umidontknow · 28/02/2025 07:10

jellyfishperiwinkle · 28/02/2025 04:51

Sounds like you already fit in plenty of exercise then and wouldn't need to go running. The OP was about exercise not running, for the OP it's running, for others it's something else.

The point being I don't allocate any specific time to exercise, mainly because there isn't any. Lots of people do not have 40 mins to themselves to go for a run or exercise. Having time to sit on the sofa at 10.30 at night doesn't mean they should be out running instead

Mindyourfunkybusiness · 28/02/2025 07:10

I take care of my kids in general haha I have extra kids varying from 2 extra to 6! After schools or during holidays

Mindyourfunkybusiness · 28/02/2025 07:08

I dont have enough time in the literal sense, only sit with my am coffee and will go on mumsnet. Sometimes in bed scroll. Dont even mumsnet daily btw. Otherwise on the go morning to night. I don't exercise but often take care of kids (not mine but my kids friends), run errands and help my elders on top of life. I kept losing weight and my bloods came back not great. Turns out I need a way above average amount of calories which I now have fully healthy type only, have way above average muscle mass plus my bio age or whatever they call it is 20. The weight loss was because keeping to 2k calories was too little for my lifestyle (which is too busy for working out may I add).
I ate sugar because my body craved it and I never got fat, I struggled to keep weight on. Bloods noticed and I changed my life and knowing I need a dumb amount of calories means I'm now very healthy. Without exercise 🤔 although my day to day life is active with 18k steps average hitting up to 22k. All day on the go. But no, I don't run. How shocking. And judgemental of op.
Although if you saw me irl you'd think I go gym. It's all just helping elders shopping and gardening, house work in multiple properties and cooking for an army in cast iron 😂 ohhh and the stairs, the amount of stairs I do in a day 😭