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9 year old bullied for 'moustache'

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Sockmate123 · 27/02/2025 09:36

Posting here for traffic mainly.

My 9 (almost 10 year old) this morning blurted out before school that 'everyone' in her class is saying she has a 'moustache'.

She is a sensitive little soul that keeps things in so this may have happened once or ongoing for months. I am going to chat to her further after school. She is very pretty and quite talented in a couple of areas. I know every Mum says that! But she genuinely is. Has done a small bit of modelling etc
She is like Snow White. Pale skin, very dark hair, red lips. So dark hair on pale skin obviously is a little more noticeable than fair hair on tanned skin but its by no means a 'moustache' but up close in direct sunlight etc you probably would notice a few hairs either side of her mouth.

Has anyone any suggestions?
Would hair removal cream help? I have fair hair myself so haven't had this issue.

I am going to speak to the Teacher about talking to the class in a general sense about talking about others appearance etc

I suspect I know who the child leading this is and I think its from a place of jealousy....😡

YABU-shes too young for such products
YANBU -if its something that shes self conscious about better to try to something to help.

OP posts:
ItsyourSam · 27/02/2025 09:52

I agree that bleaching would be better. But make it clear that it's just so she feels better, not because it should be done - there's nothing wrong with her and she's beautiful.

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 27/02/2025 09:51

I used to bleach mine at that age. Then kids would just say “Snowflake has a blonde moustache!” Made my life a misery. It wasn’t until my 40s when I could afford IPL to finally get rid of it that I felt comfortable having my face exposed in daylight. I’d always lean my head down, or cover my face with my hand when people talked to me.

I’d look at an epilator for now, its easy to use, no rash from cream or accidental cuts from a razor, it lasts longer than removing hair at skin level, and can be done before bed (to avoid a red top lip if she does it in the morning.). Waxing would have a similar effect but won’t get done daily so there’s a regrowth issue.

Then as soon as she’s old enough, book in 6 sessions of IPL and buy her a home one too for top ups. A few hundred quid but it will change her life.

Kalteenbars · 27/02/2025 09:45

Bleaching it would be better than hair removal cream.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 27/02/2025 09:43

The kids are definitely jealous

But I'm a firm believer in fixing things like this, as its just unnecessary stress - i have a unibrow and if dd developed one, I'd just hair removal cream it off xx

That said, they may then find other things to use against her, so would recommend working on her confidence- maybe some acting clases or self defence classes? xx