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Colleague just said my husband sounds very Andrew Tate.

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Srepmum1984 · 27/02/2025 08:59

Was having a discussion about some works drinks that will be taking place on Friday and I said husband will be picking me up if anyone else wants a lift home.

My husband regularly picks me up after drinks/meal with my friends and also always offers them a lift home if they have had a drink and they don't have alternative transportation for safety etc.

She asked if he picks me up every time I go out and I said yes. She then said he sounds very Andrew Tate. Not trusting you to make your own way back.

I was very taken aback. Surely my husband wanting to ensure his wife and friends get home safely is not 'Andrew Tate'.

He never enforces he is going to come and collect me like a child, it's more along the lines of....

Me: I'm off out now, see you in a few hours
Him: Do you want picking up babe
Me: Yes pleassseeeee 😂

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MatchesinEyes23 · 27/02/2025 09:06

I’d find it a bit weird if I had a friend whose husband was always picking her up. The odd time, of course! Everyone loves a free lift 😁 But every night out? Wpildnt aay Andrew Tate but feels a bit controlling.
Whats he doing on a Saturday night when you’re out? Sat at home not drinking waiting to drive and get you?

OxfordInkling · 27/02/2025 09:06

Your colleague is a fool.

RedToothBrush · 27/02/2025 09:05

If your DH is happy and it works for you cos it's easier and cheaper than a taxi, then do it and don't worry what the fuck anyone else thinks.

It says rather more about her than you or your husband to jump to this conclusion.

If I went out with my mates and DH was available to pick up, he would - he used to before DS was born - simply cos it means I don't have to hang around getting wet and cold and it costs a fraction of time and effort versus the alternative.

It's just EASIER.

Likewise I've done the same for him and picked up a car full of drunk blokes on occasions.

Am I Andrew Tatey?

It works for you. The end. Don't overthink it.

Cuppachuchu · 27/02/2025 09:03

I'd have asked her to elaborate, and she would have embarrassed herself with her stupid assumptions.

Duckfeather · 27/02/2025 09:02

It sounds fine to me! She may be thinking more along the lines of it could be controlling behaviour I suppose?

I have a friend who’s ex was a nasty piece of work, he used to come and pick her up from work drinks fairly early under the guise of her ‘safety’ but he really wanted to make sure she wasn’t talking to other men etc.

Bit of a weird thing to say out of the blue to somebody though!

LadyKenya · 27/02/2025 09:02

Yes, colleagues will say lots of things in conversation. Just ignore.

OopsyDaisie · 27/02/2025 09:01

Unless there are other things he does that are controlling, I don't think this is a problem.... 🤷‍♀️

bullrushes · 27/02/2025 09:01

Your colleague is a knob

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