Colleague just said my husband sounds very Andrew Tate.

Absolutely.

this absolutely.

She is probably projecting a past experience; I have a friend whose partner is a controlling, misogynistic pig and he picks her up and drops her off everywhere (in the car she bought!) even if she’s not drinking. We all raise our eyebrows every time, I actually imagine he waits round the corner for her. And she is usually on her phone the whole time probably texting him. He definitely is an AT type!

Your DH doesn’t sound like that but maybe your colleague knows someone like my friend who is definitely being controlled :(

Dh will pick me up any time night or day of he is free( eg not working) no matter what state I'm in. Usually sober now but I had my wild days when we were younger!
No judgement from him.
He is the absolute opposite of Andrew Tate.

He sounds great, your colleague doesn't

Rude? How so?

I don't think you can confidently say this means she's not independent.

My DH will pick me up from nights out, particularly if I go to one particular place as public transport is scarce and you lose mobile signal on part of the journey so I'm not entirely comfortable getting a taxi on my own.

But I'm still very independent - I travel all over the world on my own for work. That doesn't mean it's not nice or more convenient to be picked up from a night out sometimes.

DH and I always did this for each other before we had DCs.

We sometimes do this now DCs are old enough to be left while we do taxi duties. It's quite rare that it is needed though, as we don't go out that often - and as I am not fussed about drinking I am more likely to just drive and drink soft drinks to save any hassle.

In the intervening period, DH made it clear that if I was really stuck he would come and get me (which would have meant bundling DCs into the car). This never happened but it was there as an emergency option.

Not everyone sits at home drinking on a Saturday night.

Crickey my poor husband would be appalled to be compared to Andrew t .He drops and picks me up on a night out and gives lifts .I do exactly the same for him .Crap transport links around us and its just what we have always done .

Does the stupid cow even know who Andrew tate is

I think I'd have divorced my DH if he'd ever called me "babe".

I don’t think it makes your DH sounds like Andrew Tate but never making your own way home from a night out does sound rather infantile if I’m being honest and a bit rude.

Talk about seeing something toxic in something normal. She’s nuts

Shes clearly jealous that your partner cares to get you home safe. My partner would always pick me up too and vice versa... it's normal and healthy and what loving couples do. She's a moron

Me: I'm off out now, see you in a few hours
Him: Do you want picking up babe
Me: Yes pleassseeeee 😂

This is so cute!

His love language must be acts of service, same as my DH.

If you'd said DH doesn't let you go out I'd understand but what you've described is lovely and caring.

My husband picks me up from every night if he's available. He's not a drinker and it's safer than getting public transport late at night or paying expensive taxis.
Your colleague is, indeed, a knob xx

My husband picks me up from where public transport has left me and picked me up from a restaurant directly some time ago. He doesn´t drink and it saves me spending a fortune I don´t have on taxis. Your colleague is dying of jealousy.

First post nailed it!

Wow are these posts for real? My husband will either pick me up or will meet me at the station either walking or with the car. He does it as he likes me to get home safely. At my work Christmas night out he drove me there and back my colleague from the next town as well as we were in dresses and heels and it was pissing down. He dropped off two lovely beautifully turned out ladies and later picked up two drunk women and a bloke from our team who lives nearby.

Pretty much!

It's her, not him.

I thought it was normal for a partner to offer this if they can, irrelevant of whether male/female !
Edit: If we lived somewhere like London with frequent, busy public transport then we probably wouldn't but living somewhere with expensive taxis and a 20 minute walk from the station late at night then of course we do it. I guess it depends on where you live and the public transport situation.

This is such a stretch. It doesn't mean you're not independent because your partner picks you up from a night out...? I'm the driver (a woman) in my house and will quite frequently offer to pick my wife up from work or whatever. Not at night anymore as we have a baby. She's still independent and would get public transport if needed, but I don't see the point in letting her get taxis or walk home in the rain when I can drive...and I know she'd do the same for me if it was the other way around. It's just being considerate and it saves money on pointless taxis.

I thought this thread was going to be a juicy reason, that's boring af.

Talk about exaggeration. Next time you're out with her and see a small cat, dramatically push her to safety and yell "WATCH OUT! A RABID TIGER!"