Colleague just said my husband sounds very Andrew Tate.

Is your colleague a single woman by any coincidence?

Well, obviously your colleague won't be wanting a lift home with "Andrew Tate" then!

My OH likes to pick me up on the rare occasion that I go out for a drink; this is usually with very close friends or AC. We probably have a little too much and the conversation in the car on the way home is often hysterically funny........OH finds it quite amusing and spends the following day reminding us how daft we all are - in a kind way of course.
It is so lovely having someone take care of us and watch out for our welfare. OP colleague is just plain jealous.

And possibly projecting her own experiences.

I think that would have been better phrased as "This makes you neither more superior nor cooler, in any way".

Is that what you meant?

She seems very confused, Andrew Tate is not one for monogamy and caring about his partner, from what I can see. I'd ask her if she's mixing Andrew Tate up with someone and look confused.

This does not make you both superior or cooler in any way.

I would find it strange if a partner was always available to pick up a partner (I wouldn't comment on it though).
I guess because I'm used to people who are in partnership where both partners go out equally both independently or together and/or they have young kids so couldn't always pick up each other.

I would say it could be controlling behaviour but obviously that completely depends on the motivation behind it.

Picking up because they are available and it's a nice thing to do.
Picking up because they want to keep tabs on you and make sure you where you say you are, with who they allow you to be with etc etc

I wouldn't be insulted by colleague saying that to me unless I thought they were saying it out of malice, but as I said, it would be fairly unusual in my social circles

I picked up DH from the station at ten past six yesterday because it was raining and there were massive puddles from rain earlier in the day which make walking home a rather soggy affair as there are always some twatty drivers who go straight through them at speed. It's a nice thing to do for one another.

Stupid comment from the colleague.

Has ‘Controlling’ become such a buzzword that people will just throw it at anything?!

Your Colleague is jealous, probably never had a healthy loving relationship ever. Does she even know anything about Andrew Tate and what he stands for??

If somebody had ever said that about my husband by the time I had finished with them they would never make an offensive comment about someone else’s husband ever again!

My husband would never not pick me up from anywhere, why because I am his priority and he wants me to be safe. That’s not controlling!

Our children are the same, if a family member needed picking up they would be there. That is family.

We have nurtured our family relationships to be there for one another.

Sounds like your colleague was projecting. You do you & stay happy. Personally I would keep a distance from her. I don’t need anyone bringing their negativity to me and mine.

I used to think that about Andrew Tate until I watched some of his full videos on his views on women (not just the clips).
Andrew Tate thinks it’s a man’s job to fully provide for his “woman” and make it so she has no worries or stresses at all so that she can and wants to care for “her man”.
Lots of people take clips and it seems like he thinks women should take care of men regardless but he states why the hell would the woman want to take care of her man if he treats her like shit, she works full time, is stressing about bills and worrying if he’s off with other women etc.

So I’d imagine Andrew Tate would probably hire out security and a private venue for his partner to go out with her friends 😂 he’s very OTT. It could seem controlling (I don’t know, he’s not my partner) but honestly if I had somebody paying all my bills, making sure I had everything I needed for me and my children and never had to worry about anything ever again then yeah, I’d probably want to “look after him”.

i cant believe the crazy posters digging up via advanced search
wtf?
why do this?
what exactly are you trying to prove?

The amount of posters calling her colleague jealous 🙈 Something AT would say! Yes she must be single and crazily jealous of the lucky little wifey! 🙄 Maybe she is actually trying to warn OP. It’s such a lazy assumption when someone disagrees with you to call them jealous. I think the way she said it was tactless but I’m wondering if there is more to this.

Andrew Tate doesn’t strike me as the sort of man who would be happy for his partner to socialise outside the home, without him.

As a pp said, if he’s asking if you want picking up and telling you to message him when and where from, as opposed to ‘be here at 10pm’ then it doesn’t sound very controlling to me (unless you’ve previously confided in her that he does this so that people think he’s nice, but secretly it’s so he can make sure you’re not detouring to some random’s house to have sex).

My DH always drops me off and picks me up if I’m going out. I can sit in a comfortable, warm car for 20 minutes and be dropped off right where I need to be, or I can do an expensive 90 minute bus & train commute, in the cold, probably the rain and probably in heels. I’m all for being an independent woman, but that’s just being silly. And he does it because he likes to make my life easier and more comfortable, not because he cares where I’m going or what I’m doing. There’s no control there.

My hubby does this on the very rare occasions I go out without him lol, love it, know I’m safe and don’t have to make small talk on way home, winner in my eyes x your colleague is a knob !

Your colleague sounds doollaly.

sounds like your colleague is a tad jealous. Your husband sounds lovely.

Your colleague is an idiot. Andrew Tate would leave you make you make your own way home, not caring if something happened you and then blaming you if it did.

It’s a big jump from getting picked up from a night out because your husband is kind and it saves a lot of money (and you’d do it for him) to having no independence and not being able to cope on your own if you lost him!

Well not only is he controlling but also a tight arse for not letting you spend money on a cab 🤣🤣 ( not to be taken seriously)

Sounds like a caring and lovely hubby to me OP! 😊 your colleague is being ridiculous don’t think anything of it!

I genuinely don’t like walking home alone in the dark. Our street lamps are barely lit due to budget cuts and I was robbed as a teen late at night. So I ask my DH pretty much any time I’m going out with no lift via a friend to please come pick me up or meet me at the train station (we live close to one) and I appreciate him a lot for staying up, walking in the rain, whatever.

Meanwhile, had he and our DS17 not made the last direct train home from the football match in London I would have trekked out at 11pm to collect them a 20min drive over in the next town to save them the hour long bus replacement service. It goes both ways.

my husband does this but it's more princess treatment rather than controlling behaviour. I can say no and have done if i'm getting a lift from someone else or if i decide to drive myself. (I don't drink)