Colleague just said my husband sounds very Andrew Tate.

Nag your colleague is a muppet, what a daft thing to say.
If he was Andrew Tite, you would never be allowed to go out for drinks. She is obviously not very smart to compare those two things.
You are lucky lady in a loving relationship.

who cares what she thinks?!

I used to have a friend whose boyfriend used to insist on dropping her off when she went out and picking her up afterwards , and there was no choice in the matter l, he was controlling as hell

So I can see how an adult woman always being picked up could potentially be a red flag...

But depends on the situation, your dh is being considerate, he's helping you out. You can have a drink and relax and not having to worry about getting a bus or taxi. He's saving you time and money. I'd say he was being a nice partner..

My husband not only picks me and my friends up, but he also takes me if I'm off on a night out, I wonder what she'd think of that.. and it's not because he doesn't trust me before anyone jumps that gun.

We live a good few miles away from where I go out, taxis cost around 30/35 pound for a 10/15 min journey home it would be more if my friends jumped in as they live in the town I go out in! But most importantly if he's coming to get us he knows we've all got home safe. We've had a few bad experiences with taxis when we were younger though as well!

I'd do the same for him, but he doesn't drink. And isn't as social as me!

He also comes to pick me up after a busy Friday/Saturday night if we've had an event on at work, even though I can drive myself or we get offered a free taxi home if we want one. It is literally because he knows I'm safe if he comes for me.

Your colleague sounds like she jealous!

My husband is actually my own personal chauffeur.
he worries if I’m out and about late. I was in London and had to catch last train home on a Friday night. He asked me to put location on just in case

not controlling at all. I am reassured that he would come for me if I was stuck.

controlling people wouldn’t actually let their significant other leave the house in the first place. My husband gets to stay at home and play computer games without me nagging him

My husband has given me lifts in similar situations before- and has picked up and dropped off my mates alongside me on occasion! He cares about me and he's happy to help where possible. I get myself home under my own steam a lot as well.

I also play designated driver some of the time & spent a lot of time dropping him off at and collecting him from our local station when he had long- loaned his car to family but was away himself for part of the week for work. I did it as he had luggage, to make it easier, and to spend more time with him. That's what love is. I don't think there's anything Andrew Tate-esque about such a gesture in this context, or in the context of your relationship OP.

Your colleague sounds a bit spiteful. Would it not add to his cause, I'd suggest looking up Andrew Tate and seeing if she has anything in common with him, the more mundane the better. Even if it's just that they both like hobnobs. Then that can be very Andrew Tate of her.

This is how relationships work, and how men used to look after women - it's not controlling, it's caring.
He's not dictating when you can go out or what time you have to come home. Don't give her opinion another thought.

Also, who says that btw, esp to a colleague? It's so bloody rude. It's not as if your DH said a Tate-ism.

OP, your DH sounds lovely. Don't give it a second thought. So bloody cynical of her.

This. Me and dh would pick each other up too. Mainly to avoid paying taxi fares as we are semi rural.

On a more serious note I think a lot of posters have forgotten about John Worboys...so yeah all of you "grown ups" may want to reconsider the risks of a taxi home alone

That makes my wife (I'm male) Tate then as she picks me up if I go out...given that a taxi from the centre of town to our house is £60+!

I pick her up if she goes out too...so which of us is Andrew and which one is the tag along Tate?

No your DH sounds like he’s kind and happy to pick you up. Colleague sounds a tit.

In what way is him offering to pick her up when she's ready so she can have a drink controlling? Couples doing things for each other is not controlling. If he was lerking around at the same place as her and then making her leave early then fair enough but that doesn't sound like thats happening here. Also what the hell is wrong with him being at home and sober while she goes out with her friends??

I'm a Mum 😆 no, it's a genuine question as it's a well known physiological theory that single woman encourage other woman to be single.

Interesting that some PPs believe that accepting a lift home, means that you lack independence!

I'm extremely independent.......I'm just not a martyr! Why would I pay for an uber or wait for a train and walk 25 mins from the station, when my DH is offering (unprovoked) to come get me?

I have a job where I travel the country alone, often to places I've never visited before. I navigate trains, public transport to the hotel, stay alone and eat out alone when I'm travelling. Why on earth does accepting a lift home, suddenly make me a 'helpless woman'?

Out of interest OP, what do your friends think? Do their husbands ever pick you up from a night out?

Your colleague is an arse. He sounds like a gentleman and a caring husband. Congratulations

Why do you think she must be single? I am single and think she’s being stupid.

Hubs and I almost always offer to pick each other up if one is going out without the other. Neither of us wants the other wasting money on a taxi, and it feels much nicer to be picked up by the person you love ❤️ always offer lifts to friends too where we can.

Tbh, I'm 42, and if I asked my dad if he'd pick me up from a night out, he still would 😂and my sister picks him up from nights out regularly (she lives closer). I dont think any of that is weird or controlling.

@Srepmum1984 I think what your husband does is lovely, and it's really sad your colleague immediately jumped to this conclusion

I find it really odd that there’s more than one person saying they think it’s weird for your husband to pick you up. Why??

It’s nice that he offers you a lift and really nice that he offers your friends one as well. Ignore your colleague - as if Andrew Tate would be happy with his other half going on a night out in the first place let alone coming to pick her and her mates up, I’m sure he’d laugh at the very idea of it the absolute bellend.

People are strange.

Yeah but it's not always minus temperatures. It doesn't cost money if you've a travel card or season ticket anyway and just get the train and walk from the station.

So depends entirely on circumstances. Needing to be collected every single time seems a bit extreme but each to their own.

Love a lift home. Good bloke.

Bloody hell, I'd actually be mad if someone said my DP was like Andrew Tate just because he gave me a lift home!

I'm very independent, and happy to see myself home at all times of day and night, but if I'm offered a lift I'm not going to say no! I do the same for him as well. Isn't that just what you do in a relationship? Or even just with friends, I've picked friends up from things plenty of times too.

You’re right…Or what that thing Andrew Tate is. I’d be mad

I always feel sorry for folk like your colleague who don't have a lovely DH at home who comes and collects them (like you and I do) but instead are left to make their own way home whilst their 'partner' doesn't seem to care if they are safe. Just ignore OP