AIBU to ask for money from in-laws whilst their son stays?

Have people forgot this is her husband little brother. Would people really expect to get money for his 13 year old brother.

Id never ever charge my sister to stay with me, no matter how skint I was. Its your sibling for god sake.

When my DS was younger he used to stay with my DA and whilst she wouldn't accept money I used to get some groceries and treat them to a meal out or something. But the difference is you can't afford it and they haven't offered.

Your DH is going to have to ask for a contribution.

WHAT in the name of universal credit are you talking about? THERE is no comparison between THAT and struggling to feed an extra mouth in holidays when stating you need a bit of help to parents would easily solve the issue.
£20 is buttons really. (in comparisn with teen/on school break per week costs). Maybe kids parents genuinely arent aware/havent thought as far as financial impact. ie.wont know unless tell them?
coldhearted and calculated is almost funny.Extreme. ...frightening cos probably actully thought that.wow

The bill is taking advantage and using the money he doesn’t spend on his on him self. It’s a problem when you love your nephew, I get it. Maybe someone will show him this thread and he’ll get the hint. Here’s to hoping and good luck, I really hope this works out for you and your husband.

Cold blooded? 😂😂

I've read the thread and not sure. How often the boy wants to come. We usually cooked a very cheap meals when had relatives around , unless it was a special meal. Usually beans and meatballs or sausages, rice with chicken, something that your whole family eats of and you just share a plate with the guest. Not sure how much he spends

Odfod. There is always one 🙄 If the op can't afford it then she can't afford it. It sounds like it is very one sided too

"His dad said no because we are family we shouldn’t ask for money but I think they should offer!"

You have said he knows you are a low income family, so this is very mean of the dad. You are recognising family ties by having the son to stay, dad should not begrudge a financial contribution.
What favours does he do for you?

it’s very tight of them not to offer cash. id happily give cash to anyone having my child for a few days.

just have the boy for one night or two and say sadly you can’t afford to have him longer

If they are staying more than 3 nights then they send you their child benefit. You aren't refusing then, just highlighting what they are actually unfairly asking you to do.

Wow! Judgemental or what!!

I wouldn't ask, if cash was a struggle then there would be no macdonalds etc, just home cooked stuff on a budget. But even though its not really the done thing to ask, I still think it says a lot about your in laws that they said no. If I was your in laws I would've at least bunged you a tenner as surely the preserving good relationships is worth a few measly pounds. Why do you need to go to macdonalds though? That's a big waste of money, just buy a big tub of ice cream and get some board games out.

I'd hope they would send him with some cash out of politeness. But it's down to your fella to organise it if he needs cash as it's his brother. He needs to speak to his parents.
If it's going to skint you for the month you or h have to decline to take him.

I think they should offer but I think it would be unreasonable to ask tbh

We have had the same issue with sl her children are a lot younger than mine her first dd dad has her regularly but the 2nd doesn’t she asked us to have her for a week whilst she went on holiday I told her only if she pays me for the work I will miss out on. She had to agree as no one else would do it. She has just had dd3 and is already expecting me to have them regularly 😳

Of course this is a dilemma, you do not want to charge but - and this is important - they get the holiday you can afford to provide. They will love that, they have come for your love and company. So, no MacDonald’s - mum’s homemade burgers

We wouldn’t be able to afford this, especially if we also paid for cinema or to hire a tennis court or to go out and do an activity one day too.
I would be feeding them lots of pasta, rice, toast and butter, hot dogs, eggs, and cheap homemade cakes, pancakes with sugar.

My sister would not dream of asking for money when my small children and I go to visit her for a week or more (but I would definitely offer/do a food shop/pay for a meal out. If her kids came to stay with me, she would probably try to offer to send money and I would refuse to accept it.
I think if your dh’s brother found out you were asking for money to pay for his food he would feel so awkward and why would you want someone feel like that? Be the people who are generous. Save up for his visit, get excited about seeing him and don’t ask for anything. If your in-laws don’t offer, it really says more about them than you.

If you can’t afford to have him stay, then of course you should relay this and say you would love to, but finances don’t allow it. The parents should then contribute! Normally I would expect the parents to send the child with money!

When I have guests they usually bring a snack and either or liquor and if they are staying with me they take me out to dinner and cook and buy one dinner and take care of their kids. I had my niece over regularly when my kids were in school and didn’t expect anything from her parents at all but she helped keep my 2 entertained. I was also financially able to do so. Some people are just takers. I stopped any invitations to the takers quickly. They never set foot in my vacation home again. People who just take and take are so self interested and they don’t see beyond themselves.

Neither would I. I’m on a low income but I’d never expect someone else to feed and provide treats for my children. I think that’s taking the piss tbh. Even if my child goes somewhere overnight they take some goodies to share around and £10 for a take away if needed. I can’t believe the cheek of some people to not even offer as much as the cb for a week of free childcare. I’d certainly be dropping big hints or asking outright. Eg… if your child wants a takeout you need to give them some money for it, we have no spare income to provide meals for them all. We are a bit short at the moment as you can probably understand with everything nearly doubling in price.

Clearly it depends on how well off you are. If you're strapped for cash they should help you out.

And his pocket money for anything extra he might like.