To have kicked MIL out over baby’s name?

@MeganCarter we need to start a new thread

'What name didn't make the cut but was given to a pet, as you couldn't let it go?'

'Names wasted on pets'

'Pet names that you were not brave enough to use on your child, in case you upset MIL'

You get the gist 🤣

Oooh Gertrude and Hilda was on my list. Along with Ruth or Ethel. Maybe something a bit more out there like Brunhilda. Or Donna.

it doesnt matter what the name is theres way of politely saying you dont like it

I think my pregnancy hormones played a part in my choice of name for my son. I was grateful to the Doctor who tried hard to hide his laugh. It turned out my son would have hated the name

we didn’t go with the Flo ha ha but we called our kitten Florence and Florence she always was, not shortened - it’s a lovely soft sounding name

It would have to be a really terrible name to justify that reaction - even then there are politer ways to point out any potential problems. If it's classic then I think she's just being a cow. She doesn't like you and she's just making a scene to get at you.

There can be reasons to point out when a name is bad - I knew someone with the surname Lyons who thought the name Rory would be great for her baby boy until someone pointed out what it sounded like! She was grateful to them and everyone had a laugh. But you don't have to be rude and sneery.

My DD does have an unusual name, which we loved. When pregnant with DC 1 we told my mum our girl's name choice and she sneered and huffed and said "you can't call a baby that!!!" DC1 was a boy - my mum v relieved. Until we had a girl a few years later and out came the name My mum can lump it - she's rude and it's not her decision.

Lana?

Ida Clare?

This happened to a friend. She really thought the name was a joke. It is about the name.
Ophelia perhaps?

Or de Wett?

While I'm a nosy name nerd and am curious about the name, it's irrelevant here. Whether or not the name is objectively bad or not, MIL acted incredibly rudely. She was invited to meet her grandchild, and her response was to ridicule someone who has recently given birth and refused to let the subject drop when challenged on it. Then went bitching to SIL so clearly has not reflected at all on her behaviour. If she is genuinely concerned about the impact the name will have on the child, then she can address those concerns without nastiness.

Please do a name reveal! Everyone is on the edge of their seats 😂

My MIL said ‘oh no you haven’t’ When we told her DDs name, also a classic name. She was pissed as there was a name she had liked (popular in the 70s) I refused to used.
She then told me SIL didn’t like it - but I had manners enough to never tell SIL her children’s names are dumb.

Bored now if OP not prepared to share the name

What was the name?

@MinnieCoops @MeganCarter

Florence is my fave girls name of all time.

I don't have children but it would have been the name that I chose. I even love Flo.

I called my puppy Florence as I'd never get to use it but it's wasted on my dog IMO 🤣

I do hope it's Flo 🤣

She wanted to make a point, expected DH to just go along with it, and completely miscalculated. She definitely wasn’t expecting him to back me up so quickly!

Well at least this isn't a time where you can informed you actually have a DH problem

I'm pleased to hear he's backed you up - that bodes well for good shared, equal and respectful parenting.

I have relatives who gave their children names that while not ridiculously outlandish seemed likely to cause them problems at school - and did. I couldnt honestly say that's lovely but at most you say that's unusual.

So yes she was rude but without knowing the name it's not possible to say if she maybe also had a point (calling a child Chlamydia would tend to shock anyone). I hope you've given your daughter 2 names do she can always opt to use her second name. Of course when she's older she may not like either name.

She and her flying monkey can naff off. Great to hear DH is supportive.

I think your mil went about this the wrong way. If it's a name that could easily be given to ridicule at school then perhaps it's worth considering if she has a point. When my son was born & the Doctor asked his name I was mortified when I realised he could hardly keep his laugh in. It was enough to make me think if I'd made the right decision so DH agreed we should change it. When he was old enough I told him what his name was for a few hours after he was born & he said thank God for deed poll 😂

You tell SIL that it was her mother that needs to apologise. Because who openly says something like that to new parents? To tell them she's too embarrassed to tell her friends the name? Ask SIL how she'd feel, post-partum and eager to show off her baby, and get that response.

So no, you (but preferably your DH) needs to say that MIL is welcome back if she keeps her mouth shut about the name but there will be no apology.

My DD 's preferred name for my DGD for most of her pregnancy was, imo, awful, and would be mocked by anyone over 40. But I never said a word, though other people did warn her about the teasing.
Thank goodness she changed her mind, but no way would I have reacted like your MIL when baby arrived, if she hadn't

Urgh, tell SIL to piss off as well - you've got nothing to apologise for!

Is it Balonz?

CLASSIC name examples suggested by AI:
Abigail
Ada
Agatha
Alexandra
Alice
Amelia
Audrey
Ava
Charlotte
Clara
Colleen
Dorothy
Edith
Eileen
Eleanor
Elizabeth
Emma
Evelyn
Grace
Jane
Lucy
Luna
Lydia
Olivia
I certainly wouldn't say "Luna" is classic (although I like it) and for me the list is missing Catherine, Leonora and Victoria, but if OP and her DH have chosen a classic name like any of the above, I don't know what MIL has to laugh about (and she shouldn't have anyway).

I think you should have your husband tell SIL to butt out. It doesn't concern her.