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To have kicked MIL out over baby’s name?

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kritzkreig · 26/02/2025 18:42

Posting here because I need to know if I was totally out of order or if MIL has just lost the plot.

DH and I recently had our beautiful baby girl. We chose a name we both absolutely love – it’s classic, not too common, and has a lovely meaning. MIL has never been my biggest fan, but I thought she’d at least be happy for us. Well, apparently not.

She came over to meet DD for the first time, and within minutes of hearing her name, she started pulling faces. I tried to ignore it, but then she actually laughed and said, “Oh, you’re joking, right? That’s awful.” Then she went on and on about how we should have chosen something more ‘normal’ and how she won’t be telling her friends because she’s ‘too embarrassed.’

I saw red. I told her if she couldn’t be respectful, she could leave. She doubled down, saying she was just being honest and that DD would hate us for giving her a ‘ridiculous’ name. At this point, DH told her she needed to go. She stormed out, and now we’re getting passive-aggressive texts about how we’ve ‘excluded’ her from her granddaughter’s life.

AIBU to have kicked her out? I get that not everyone will love the name, but to actually laugh in our faces and say she’s embarrassed by her own granddaughter’s name? DH is completely on my side, but SIL says we overreacted and should have just ignored her.

Would love to know what the MN jury thinks.

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CuteEasterBunny · 26/02/2025 18:50

She’s excluded herself.

FondantFancyFan · 26/02/2025 18:49

Well if the name is Jimberley, your mil is correct but we need to know through name before we can judge.

Chunkilumptious · 26/02/2025 18:49

I mean even if the name was Princess FluffyBollox she expressed her genuine concerns rudely and counterproductively. I therefore assume she's being reactive at not being included in something and the name doesn't matter.

sageforthevibes · 26/02/2025 18:49

Just dropping in to find out baby's name.

👀

But yes, she's a bitch.

KilkennyCats · 26/02/2025 18:47

Depends on the name. She may be trying to save you from yourselves 😄

Relaxaholic · 26/02/2025 18:47

SIL needs to butt out, it’s none of her business

Lanzarotelady · 26/02/2025 18:47

We need to know the name

Whatifitallgoesright · 26/02/2025 18:46

Look, we can't judge you properly without knowing the name. It's pointless without the name. G'wan, g'wan. Tell us.

outerspacepotato · 26/02/2025 18:45

She went way out of her lane to let you know her poor opinion of your choice.

Too fucking bad. She has to suck it up because you're not changing it because of her rudeness. Does she not get you'll be less inclined to have her over and see her the more rude she gets?

If she tries calling your baby by another name, call her Gertrude.

Coralsunset · 26/02/2025 18:45

YANBU, she was abominably rude.

DelilahRay · 26/02/2025 18:44

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cramptramp · 26/02/2025 18:44

She was very rude. I'd have said what you said but I wouldn't have chucked her out.

Alalalala · 26/02/2025 18:43

YANBU. She doesn’t have a shred of basic courtesy quite apart from the nasty attitude.