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Interview question

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blowingbubbles1 · 26/02/2025 18:00

Today I had a second interview for a job that I am more than (if not, over qualified for). It is a part time role and not very well paid but the hours work for me with my ds. Todays interview involved meeting the CEO along with another member of the team during the interview I was a little thrown when the CEO asked me how I would handle school holidays as I have a child and how do my mornings work (childcare wise). AIBU to think this would never have come up as a question if I were a man. I should probably mention I am a single parent and I did mention this in my first interview. Maybe I am being unreasonable and this I just a normal question so please feel free to tell me I'm being silly!

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blowingbubbles1 · 26/02/2025 18:39

It was a woman who asked the question. It came up in the first interview as the hours of the role are school hours (although not a school job). The subject came up about children and how 'family friendly' the company is. It was a brief chat and then we moved on from that. The first interviewer also mentioned that the role would be perfect for a parent because of the hours.

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AnSolas · 26/02/2025 18:32

He should not have asked but you appeared to have opened the door.

How did you end up saying you were a parent and a single one at that?

HaggardyOldSkin · 26/02/2025 18:31

I have actually put in job covering letters that my children are of an age where I don’t need to worry about school holidays and drop offs now as I know they are not supposed to ask but I do think it gives an advantage as it makes life easier for the employer.

HaggardyOldSkin · 26/02/2025 18:29

I think if a man applied and said he was a single parent in the previous interview just like you did, the exact same questions would be asked. A man who said he had a wife at home or a man who didn’t mention kids at all probably wouldn’t though.

Muffinbakery · 26/02/2025 18:23

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blowingbubbles1 · 26/02/2025 18:17

I did wonder about the legalities. It makes me think the job would be given to a person without children over me purely for that reason.

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KIlliePieMyOhMy · 26/02/2025 18:16

He is not allowed to ask a question based on your home circumstances.
So thread carefully. Maybe an arse in the future.

blowingbubbles1 · 26/02/2025 18:15

(Sorry for the typos!)

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Muffinbakery · 26/02/2025 18:11

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