DD making her own way home from a bar job in the city centre.

It's also odd that the OP will be expected to financially support her adult DD through university, and the amount of maintenance loan the DD will receive will be based on her parent's income. But here we are, and because families tend to respect each other and want to live in harmony and support each other, in most cases when someone who is still at school is advised by their parents a job isn't appropriate they don't take it and look for another one, and parents don't financially abandon their adult student DC if they can afford not to.

It's not like it's the only option around surely? Restaurants would be done by 11 at the weekend or she could just work in a shop in the daytime. I worked in a club (and we did get taxis provided to take us home) as a student and it was just seedy and grim, even the nicest bars or clubs can be. Wouldn't want that for my DDs. DD1 works in a restaurant and DD2 will likely do the same in a few months' time.

DD1 is 19 and recently got needle spiked in a club when out with friends. Luckily they took her home when she was feeling unwell and looked after her, and she was fine. She only saw the puncture wound and put two and two together in the morning.

I thought there was a duty of care involved. Google says:
In the UK, while there is no explicit legal requirement for employers to provide transport home for late-night bar staff, their "duty of care" means they should take reasonable steps to ensure their employees can get home safely, particularly when public transport is limited, which could include providing taxis in certain situations where the commute is considered unsafe due to the late hour.

God I'D not want to do it myself let alone have my teenage daughter doing it! I'd feel very vulnerable. You've said it's a not very nice city too.

OP has now said her and her DH have said no they don't want her taking the job, how does that work?
Do you go with the age old MN 'it's my house my rules; you shall not take this job'
Very odd that parents think they can dictate to their adult kids.

One of my best friend's daughters is 18.

So far this year 4am stagger home seems to be at least weekly and there's been two A&E visits (none alcohol related - both with her accompanying friends) plus a nasty sporting accident. She's having a ball.

She's 3 hrs drive away.

This girl is street wise and sensible. Mum couldn't do shit anyway.

The sporting accident if ever so slightly in a different place is the thing that could have been fatal.

You can't live life out of fear of what might happen. You have to make the most of the life you do have.

Blimey, if teens really worried about their sleep cycle they wouldn't go out at all! My dd is at uni 150 miles away. She frequently stays out till 3am on weekends. She sleeps in as much as she can on Sat & Sun but sets aside time for studying. She gets tired, yes, but there's no way she's sacrificing her social life. Her sleep is back to normal on a Sunday night ready for Monday lectures

I have thanks.

I have also heard of taxis operating on Saturday nights.

I disagree with you. That doesn't mean I'm naive. Nor does it mean I have issues with my parental judgement.

I am just aware that these conversations and preparation for independent need to come before age 18 regardless of maturity because once they are 18 they don't have to listen.

You can do more harm than good by being overprotective in various ways. SHE has to risk assess. Not you.

It's better for her to be doing this sober and with a potential 'help dad' NOW rather than in six months drunk in a strange city miles from home.

Medical student I know used to Uber home from late night bar shifts. Is it worth looking at what this would cost?

And?

Hmm. Because I was 18 once and used to go all over the show by myself. I refused to live in fear. It's not a parenting issue for me at all. It's one about freedom and not wishing to live by this restriction.

You have to learn to deal with it unfortunately imho.

Otherwise why don't you just lock up young women and say they shouldn't have a job at all, because something might happen. Don't go out ever. Don't go on a date.

It's all very well saying it's different when with mates, but you can get separated from mates or fall out with them.

What's the point in living, if you aren't actually living?

Make the most of life and take the opportunities you want. And deal with shit, when it comes rather than if it comes.

I just do not share this prison guard mentality of locking up women until... Yes until WHEN? When are you going to allow her to make these decisions herself? What's your criteria for saying 'oh yes well you ARE old enough now'?

She'll move out and you won't even be aware of it.

She doesn't need your approval. These are HER decisions to make.

I share your concern - but she needs money and experience. I’d probably set and alarm and go get her every night. Not ideal, but it’s not forever either.

I do have worries about her making her way home from a shitty city centre renowned for assults and crime in the early hours of the morning on a bus full of drunk sailors on her own.
If you're talking literally about drunk sailors and an above average dangerous city then I revise my original opinion and agree with you.

My daughter was almost 19, no sailors on the night bus, mainly students and young people, and she went to university in the city so knew it well.

I think she should be focusing on her A levels not working til 2 am. She’ll get one shot at her A levels, there are always crappy jobs in bars available.

it absolutely be a no to a night bus as they are human zoo’s (his words!)

How much experience does your husband have of travelling on the night bus at 2am?

When were these incidents?

She's 18. She could be living in a different city away from you and you'd have no clue what she was doing.

This is an 18 year old taking responsibility and getting a job. That's more than many.

You really need to adjust to the fact this is not your call to make and you need to just support her. Otherwise you could crush her willingness to be independent.

What is she going to do if she doesn't take this job? She's got no experience and can't demonstrate a work ethic.

It's a competitive job market ATM. This is an entry level job that will open doors for her.

She has a can do attitude and is positive. You are seeking to restrict her with a can't do attitude. That's not ok.

Time to stop being overbearing and let her learn from mistakes. Making mistakes is part of being young. It's normal and frankly healthy. Every generation has to go through this process unfortunately.

She's 18. Her risk assessment is up to her.

The vast majority of young women who have to make their through cities at 2am get home unscathed. It's really important to remember those, and not the minority of sad cases which make the headlines.

You can't guarantee safety 100% - when can you, in life? - but for me at that age, I preferred to take the risk than to confine myself to my house at night. You simply can't live according to worst case scenarios.

I wouldn't feel right about it either OP but on MN you'll hear people telling you you're being ridiculous and they used to travel across the city alone when they were 5. Ignore them.
If you're worried then you're worried. I would be too. How far is the bus stop from her work and how far is the bus stop from your house?
Also, of course she'll be going out when she goes to uni but it's far different to be out with a group of mates than walking alone at that time of night.

I wouldn't like this for my DD at all.

I've never heard of transport being provided. I worked in a club closing at 2 in the 2000s it wasn't a thing then.
OP ultimately shes 18 you can give your opinion but it's her decision.