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3.5 year old in buggy

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S18 · 26/02/2025 16:24

I just took my 3yr 8month child to a GP appointment. She said to my child “do you still need a buggy?”. Child is autistic and has severe learning delays and no sense of danger/very physically aggressive. GP surgery is 2.6 miles walk along busy rural roads without proper pavements. Should I be making him walk this? I feel like no one would think it’s odd if I drove him there so why is a buggy any different?

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TwentyTwentyFive · 26/02/2025 16:43

Owlmama101 · 26/02/2025 16:41

Sorry, but I disagree.

Why did GP ask child directly? Patronising to parent

There are many reasons a child may still need a buggy, I’m assuming OP did not take child to doctors for this reason so why is it their business.

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Exactly it sounds like it was completely irrelevant to the actual purpose of the appointment being attended and the comment was made with the sole intention of making the OP feel like a shit parent. It was unnecessary and to direct it towards the child was passive aggressive.

Owlmama101 · 26/02/2025 16:41

ExtraOnions · 26/02/2025 16:37

“Do you still need a buggy”
“yes, due to X, Y and Z”

Simple question, simple answer … not sure why it needs hand-wringing and complaints

Sorry, but I disagree.

Why did GP ask child directly? Patronising to parent

There are many reasons a child may still need a buggy, I’m assuming OP did not take child to doctors for this reason so why is it their business.

ExtraOnions · 26/02/2025 16:37

“Do you still need a buggy”
“yes, due to X, Y and Z”

Simple question, simple answer … not sure why it needs hand-wringing and complaints

pjani · 26/02/2025 16:37

She might have been asking that question to better understand his physical health?

Long pram user here and no shame, I agree people are weird about it as they drive their own kids short distances. But in this circumstance I'd brush it off.

TwentyTwentyFive · 26/02/2025 16:35

I would genuinely make a complaint about that comment especially as they made it towards your child! Bloody ridiculous given that as you said if you'd driven him there there she wouldn't have given it a second thought.