To not want to let the little thug take over the trampoline (but I did)

This.

Sounds like the mother's thoughts were this too, hence why she stood and waited. He had to wait, his mother did right diatracting him with something else. Now it was his turn. Sounds like you hogged the trampoline a bit too long.

The parent was already there, she didn’t need to go over. We don’t know the details of what the parent was doing to deal with the child, and we don’t need to. It isn’t up to us to micromanage other people’s parenting, our responsibility is to ensure our own children behave correctly. Waiting for a turn in and of itself a bad thing.

Quite possibly this other parent was wondering why OP wasn’t managing her GD to ensure she wasn’t hogging the equipment. If the OP genuinely felt that her GD hadn’t had a fair turn yet then ignore them and carry on until she has. It’s not complicated.

No, if your child is standing beside another child screaming at them "my turn my turn" then as a parent, you go over and deal with it. And no, his mother wasn't dealing with it, the pp said that.

This is where the ‘he’s 2’ comes in. Of course that’s not polite, presumably his mother was dealing with that. But 2 year olds saying ‘it’s my turn’ to each other is pretty normal stuff. It doesn’t mean it is his turn straight away, but we need to help children negotiate these social struggles fairly. If these children were on a play date wanting to play with the same toy, most parents would get them to take turns. This is no different. It sounds like the OP’s DGD had been on the trampoline for long enough, allowing our children to hog toys and equipment isn’t teaching them anything helpful either.

Did you miss this part "but then they came back about a minute later and they just stood there watching my GD bounce, with him screaming "my turn, my turn" "?

My little one would have been guided away by this point.

Also I’ve just realised that the ‘thug’ you’re referring to in your title is the 2 year old. Aren’t you a delight. Talk about throwing stones from inside your glass house

Out of interest, how long do you think is acceptable? 5 mins? 10 mins? Stay on it all afternoon?

Did you see the bit where I said "it depends how long your granddaughter had been on it"?

I don't agree with this at all. There's so much emphasis on teaching children to 'share' in a way we'd never expect adults to do. Imagine you were in a coffee shop, settled with one of the complimentary newspapers, would you expect to hand it over to someone who's just come in and decided they wanted it? It's fine to encourage children to take turns, but not to give something up just because someone else fancies it.

I think you just need to accept that soft play is the 7th circle of hell, grit your teeth and get on with it.

There will be kids that push, bite, throw equipment about that hurt your child and dominate trampolines/slides/ride ons. Wait two years and that kid will be yours and they be doing it to a younger kid and you’ll want to crawl into a hole as the parent of the smaller kid will give you daggers. Then they’ll get to an age where they no longer do soft play and you’ll be infinitely delighted.

At 2, they are not developmentally ready to be taught that. She is a pre-schooler now and has plenty of friends and is a very kind, caring friend herself. As she now has the self-awareness to understand the concept of taking turns, sharing etc, of course she does that (within reason)

It sounds like a lot of posters on here had been raised to be people pleasers and now passing it on to the next generation.

The mum probably took him away, calmed him down then agreed with him they'd come back and wait. They weren't intimidating you.

Also, how long was she on there? You said she was bouncing a few minutes after he came back to wait, so she'd been on there a while. The reasonable thing to do is to say 'you've had your turn let someone else have a go'.

You’re intimidated by a 2 year old?

I think YABU, there is only one rule at places like this and that’s everyone waits their turn, teach your little darling GD that next time

But the parent was teaching him. She apologised, corrected him and then made him wait his turn. What more do you want to happen?!

Just matching your thug comment OP

Your GD sounds like a bitch OP

A few minutes feels like an eternity to a two year old, so I think it was definitely the right thing to move your GD on to something else and let him have a go.

I get you probably felt aggravated because he hit/ pushed etc, but he's just a baby really.

Waiting for a turn is normal imo.

Yabu.....even 3 minutes to a 2 year old feels like a lifetime.....

This is spot on. I really don't understand when posters expect their kids to learn to share unless it starts from toddler hood (and I'm not talking about prized possessions here). Do they think they'll suddenly have a dawning realisation one day when they're older without any parental input. If so then god help society!

You get her off, then stand with her yourself waiting for the end of his turn.

Sauce for the 🪿

And the person who has come out top in all of this is the other mum.

calling little boys thugs (and little girls princesses) becomes a self fullfilling prophecy imo.

Also it was somebody else's turn.

So your GD had been on the trampoline for a while when the other toddler came over on his own to ask for (demand) a turn. Your GD refused to get off to let him have a turn, and he got frustrated and tried to push her off. Obviously not OK to push, but pretty common for a frustrated 2yo.

The mum then came over and removed him, presumably had words about not pushing, and explained that the correct thing to do is que up and wait for a turn.

Are you saying you wish you had told your GD to continue hogging the trampoline as revenge for the other toddler pushing?