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AIBU to think it's not school's decision?

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GlitteryRainbow · 25/02/2025 21:08

Somehow I got volunteered to organise the Year 6 Leaver's hoodies. When I looked into it there was a discount available if we ordered by 31st January, so seemed perfect. I got a shop setup everyone ordered on time. I got the order delivered to school because it seemed easier. It was due to arrive in half term so I got it rescheduled. I let the secretary know they would arrive this Monday.

I told my daughter they were coming Monday and she was excited. No hoodie when I came home yesterday. I've been told today that the children can't have their hoodies until May. The parents paid for the hoodies, so AIBU to think that school can't decide when the children get their hoodies? I realise it's their decision when the hoodies can be worn at school. Other schools get them early on and wear them for the entire year. We've never been told that there is time they aren't allowed to wear the hoodies before.

Would I be unreasonable to ask the school to give the hoodies to either myself or the children. We'll agree that the children won't wear them to school before the date the head stipulates. In hindsight I should have just got them delivered to my address.

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getthosetitsup · 25/02/2025 21:35

Our primary school wouldn't let them have them until the last week of Y6 when DD got hers.

DS a few years later was the last term of Y6.

From what I've heard, they get them a lot earlier now.

Sinkintotheswamp · 25/02/2025 21:32

Yanbu. I've heard of schools doing this. Just let the pupils have them now. Some of them will probably grow out of them before the end of year 6. I think it's more fun for the children if they have them while still at the school, won't be cool in the autumn.

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GlitteryRainbow · 25/02/2025 21:30

Farkinhell · 25/02/2025 21:22

When my child left yr 6 parents paid for the hoodies, and kids could wear them from summer term onwards (which we were a bit peeved about as didn't really need jumpers for a lot of that term) but they were handed out in assembly.

Tell them you want them as need to check for errors in print/size. School can of course say they can't wear them till X date which I suppose you'd have to obey, even if you don't really agree with it. But they can't keep hold of them!

That's a good point we do need to check there aren't any issues with them. Come May it will be too late to do anything about it.

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GlitteryRainbow · 25/02/2025 21:28

There was a brief discussion of all getting the same colour, but everyone chose their own in the end so they aren't school colours. They do have the school logo on the front though.

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Screamingabdabz · 25/02/2025 21:24

Our school didn’t let them have them until they left which was a bit disappointing and pointless imo. However my dd is at uni and still wears her year 11 one so it was actually quite a good buy.

Farkinhell · 25/02/2025 21:22

When my child left yr 6 parents paid for the hoodies, and kids could wear them from summer term onwards (which we were a bit peeved about as didn't really need jumpers for a lot of that term) but they were handed out in assembly.

Tell them you want them as need to check for errors in print/size. School can of course say they can't wear them till X date which I suppose you'd have to obey, even if you don't really agree with it. But they can't keep hold of them!

madameimadam · 25/02/2025 21:21

Yeah, if you've organised them, then the school should hand them to you.

That said, from experience, once the hoodies go out, the behaviour takes an absolute nosedive as the realisation that they're leaving sinks in.

We let the children wear them to school after SATS are done and dusted.

Juicyapple44 · 25/02/2025 21:16

All the Schools mine have been to they their received their leavers hoodie on the last day of that school year . Year 6 the school provided them free of charge , year 11 we had to order by end of January they got them just after Easter before they left

Secondguess · 25/02/2025 21:14

Yes, it's your property, not the school's.

Another reason is that if there are any issues with the orders (wrong sizes/colours/missing items) then the supplier would expect to be informed as soon as possible, which would also allow enough time to sort any mistakes.

EVHead · 25/02/2025 21:12

I agree that children/parents should be given the hoodies they’ve paid for, then it’s up to the school to say when they can/can’t wear them.

I think they should get to wear them all year. My local schools all do that and the kids love that feeling of being different to the other years; they often get to choose a colour different to the school uniform as well.