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To move my brother to a cheaper care home?

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Rollwithitperhaps · 25/02/2025 17:32

My brother has vascular dementia and has been in a care home for over 2 years. He is self funding. I have had a few concerns - clothes going missing - no access to his daily regime now (used to have a folder in his room but have now gone digital and cannot get access). They must now be on their well into double digits as far managers are concerned since he’s been there. Just been notified today that his monthly fees will rise by £700 per month to £7300 pm. I’ve been told that if I move him he will deteriorate - he is settled there but largely unaware of very much - he knows my face but not my name or who I am. He only eats and sleeps really. Should I try to find somewhere cheaper that looks after his needs and risk him dipping or leave him where he is?

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Porkyporkchop · 25/02/2025 17:35

It doesn’t sound like you are getting good care for the money you are spending. I would look at other homes.

Rahsputin · 25/02/2025 17:35

You should make a decision in HIS best interests, not in your interests or anyone else’s.

ConundrumTime2 · 25/02/2025 17:34

I would not want that sort of money spent on my care if I had vascular dementia. I'd look for somewhere else.

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