What's the worst thing someone did when you had a baby?

Feeling really vulnerable and knowing there is one of my most special and private photos, that is only minutes old, going round random people.

Father of my child (long term relationship, over a decade) buggered off and got with another woman when our little one was weeks old. Few months later, she was pregnant and he only sees our little one EOW.

Very close family member text me in hospital to say a relative didn't like the name we had announced for our newborn- this meant she didn't like it! Said it was too modern. The name was a very old established well known name! Really no need it for!

When I read posts like this I wonder if there’s something wrong with me. I literally couldn’t care less if my PIL broke my baby ‘news’. I mean, I’ve got the baby - so what?

The other thing I hated but which I'm sure all the MILs and FILs on this will find completely acceptable, is when DH sends the text to say baby is born, to immediate family. And 10 minutes later loads of other texts start coming in, because parents and in-laws have forwarded the text to other, less close, friends and family.
Hated that feeling of it not being our news. Of suddenly there being loads of distant friends in the room with us through all those text messages.

I can’t fathom it. A WARDROBE? Wtaf?

My MIL visiting the hospital after DC1 had been born ‘he looks just like you fluffygoon…. Poor little thing’. Things went downhill from there.

Was in the car with my Dad driving. Mum in passenger seat.
I was in the back with my newborn son and my younger sisters.

Parents arguing so my Dad screamed he'd had enough and was going to kill us all and drove at a brick wall at about 60mph, then slammed on before we got to it.

Lovely stuff.

I was wondering that. Read the post a few times incase I missed it. I’d go demented whatever the reason but I really want to know the rationale behind it!

Probably when my eldest was about a week old. Ex in-laws were staying and were a liability in general but the worst thing they did was sneak into my bedroom and take my baby out her basket and out for a walk. I woke up to find my baby gone. Without wanting to sound dramatic it was one of the most distressing things that has ever happened to me. I was hysterical. Ex came in and told me what had happened and said they’d had to as I “wouldn’t share the baby”. I didn’t have an issue with them holding her I just didn’t want to be apart from her, I wanted her in the same room as me at all times.

I must have been so tired to not wake up when MIL sneaked in like the bloody child catcher but creepier.

Got home and my father had thrown everything that was upstairs down them

Why??

My mother told all her family my eldest was born (I was a teen before) before telling my dad (her husband who we lived with) that his daughter was in theatre unwell and his grandchild had been born.

Subsequently child 2 and 3 we didn't tell anyone they were here for at least a week and intend to do it again with this one

I was in hospital with my first for five days; DH did all the running about, spending as much time as he could with us, taking the washing home, bringing me food etc. He was as knackered as me really.

When we got home his parents turned up an hour later, and his Dad had a go at him for the grass not being cut, because 'you've had a baby but life goes on'.

I mean...yeah it does, but priorities man!

When DS was 10 days old FIL told me that I “should be careful when out walking with the pram as a car could mount the pavement and kill you both.” I was WTF?!

Midwife refusing to discharge me because my baby wouldn't latch on and I said I'd like to go home and bottle feed. Awful woman. Thankfully my husband told her in no uncertain terms that I was going home because after 3 days of no sleep, I was in no state to.

My horrible narc mother came into the hospital room, physically pushed me out the way to get to my son, then had her partner at the time take an entire reel of photos of her and my baby in various poses. She'd had her hair and makeup professionally done for it.

I, on the other hand, had haemorrhaged giving birth and looked I'd just been dug up from the dead.

Then she made a "Nanny's brag book" out of the photos and carried it around with her, wafting it in the face of anyone who was vaguely interested, claiming to be the world's best mother and grandmother that ever existed.

I've got way worse stories than that but I'd be here all day.

My ex-husband, after seeing me go through a 22 hour labour and emergency C-section, told me when our child was 4 weeks old that I was “too pathetic to even give birth properly.”

A friend of a friend plucked my ds out of his pram,and when I walked back into the room,she told me that the last two babies she'd held,both died of cot death the same day

That made my pnd get really bad and I didn't sleep for the next few months as I was convinced he'd die in his sleep

I'd just given birth and my parents had my other dc

Got home and my father had thrown everything that was upstairs down them

Everything that was upstairs was poured down the stairs with the kids bouncing on top of it-beds,wardrobes,clothes,toys,bathroom bits-everything

All I wanted was a cup of tea,but had to spend hours (less than 24 hours after giving birth) trying to put everything back-my father gave me a cheery wave and fucked off

I'd just had dd1and all I wanted was to go home and put my pyjamas on

My (narcissistic) mother dragged me to her house (i was 19 and a lot less able to stand up to her)and every single person she'd ever met and a lot of her side of the family (i didnt know these people) seemed to come round for a gawp

I couldn't see my own baby as they passed her from person to person and they refused to hand her back to be fed and put down,so she got fussy and started screaming

When I kicked off,I got a slap and was told not to be so ungrateful-one silly cow told me to behave or my mother wouldn't babysit-this was my mother's moment,not mine

I lost it,grabbed my baby and went home

It's still mentioned (28 years on) how nasty I was that day-im nc with her now but she still bangs on about it apparently

Oh I got it wrong. The absolute worst thing was arguing with my then dh when ds1 was 2 weeks old. Ds1 crying and neither of us could settle him. H trying to settle him but I could see he was getting frustrated so I asked him to pass DS over. He looked at me like I was a piece of shit on his shoe and said "why, so you can drip your milk all over him? You're a terrible mum". He then stormed out. I've never forgotten or forgiven him.

How does this kind of thing happen?

I cannot believe that this kind of behaviour comes out of the blue and therefore I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone with parents like this. Getting married and having a family means having involvement with their family - if their parents are this vile what’s the point of signing up to years of bollocks.

@JustBiscoff if I were you I’d tell them they aren’t welcome after last time.

My PIL were there as soon as we got home from hospital. They made me food and drinks and let me rest whilst they looked after the baby if that’s what I wanted. I literally couldn’t have coped without them (and still couldn’t). However this wasn’t a surprise because they were amazing from the day I met them.

I thought the same. They don’t realise how it’s not appropriate in that situation and are trying to help. It’s a shocking story and probably worry about such dangers.

My now ex mil was always so surprised that my newborns didn't sleep through the night. She pointedly told us that dh slept through from day 2 😆

With ds1 we didn't find out if we were having a boy/girl which my in laws found totally bizarre. They'd convinced themselves that we knew and weren't telling them after I had bought a unisex teddy which happened to have blue spots on its ears. Anyway we had a boy and the first thing they did when they met him was smugly tell us that they "already knew we were having a boy" and moan again at my then dh because we didn't tell them!!!

My mum was obsessed with the notion of me going out and doing things, they visited when ds2 was 3 days old and were surprised I hadn't been out for a family day out. Not only did we have a newborn and toddler but it was sub zero temperatures and snowing outside. Mil also asked if we "had been up to much!!!" Not much at all, just had a baby 3 days ago....

But the worst thing was when my friend wanted to visit and text me in the morning asking to come and visit in the afternoon. I replied saying no, it wasn't a good day because I was exhausted and ds1 was crying a lot. She turned up anyway and knocked on the door. I didn't answer so she shouted through the letterbox asking why I wasn't answering, said something about how "shutting myself away" wouldn't help!! I felt perfectly fine mentally, but I had just got ds1 down for a sleep finally and wanted to sleep myself!! She then looked through my living room window then knocked on my neighbours door to ask them what my deal was. Our friendship never recovered!

Made to feel like a failure by pretty much everyone for failing at breastfeeding.

Dc one and two came home to my DM helping with DH..bliss

DC3 came home to MIL and FIl having been looking after dc 1 and 2 for all of 8 hrs on their own as DH had gone home overnight. They had ‘forgot’ to wind in the awning and it had been windy overnight and the whole thing had flapped up and down so much it bent the struts and sagged horribly forever more…but you didnt tell us that would happen if we didnt wind it in (but I asked them to not leave it open overnight) and also to the whole kitchen damp/slightly flooded because they sent 2 small dc upstairs to get ready for bed on their own, and they dropped their flannels in the basin and didnt turn the tap all the way off, so the basin overflowed over night and flooded the kitchen. Then when I got home, they left me to pull out stuff from cabinets and get fans etc to try and dry things out (which they hadnt thought to do) while insisting that DH run around after them as they were SO exhausted from watching (not) the 2 dc for the morning. DH has now thankfully wised up to MIL narcissism and FIL enabling her and if had happened now, it would have been a different outcome.