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To feel threatened by OW

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Preear · 25/02/2025 10:01

I have lost all of my confidence since ex left me for somebody else. We have 2 kids who are 4 and 7 and they have just been on holiday with them and my son is now crying because he kisses dad (he is 4) my daughter however said it didn’t feel right being on holiday without me. I am so worried that this woman is going to my place. I can’t afford to take them on holiday etc and I don’t want another man right now (it’s only been 5 months since we split) somebody tell me to get a grip

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Squeakpopcorn · 25/02/2025 10:17

I don’t think you need to get a grip at all. You’re going through an awful experience.

On the subjects of holidays can you afford to take the kids away to a premiere in for one or two nights. City breaks with cheap/free things to do. These are some of my kids favourite holidays.

TwistedWonder · 25/02/2025 10:14

You’ve only been split 5 months and he’s already taking your kids on holiday with his new gf and expecting them to play happy families when they are very raw from daddy leaving?

He’s an irresponsible selfish twat imo - it’s not right yo be dragging a new partner into kids lives so soon.

Be kind to yourself OP and keep on reassuring your children.

And you’re right. Jumping into another relationship at this time isn’t a wise choice.

Porkyporkchop · 25/02/2025 10:14

You are their mother and they will never replace you. A mums love is special and always with our kids from the moment they draw breath. You are irreplaceable. I went through this, with the cool, slim girlfriend coming in and being “amazing”. A year later my dd wasn’t bothered and no longer went to her house from choice. Things will change, know how important you are!

also to add - a relationship based on the hurt of others never works out long term. Karma will come.

ReadingParty · 25/02/2025 10:10

Be very kind to yourself, OP. You've been through a distressing time, and of course you're worried about your children adjusting as well as yourself.

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