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Why the fuck would you do this to yourself

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mommyfinger · 24/02/2025 20:20

Just why?
She was so pretty

I've attached pics for those who don't want to open the link

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nahthatsnotforme · 25/02/2025 21:01

I really don't think 'her body, her choice' is justification for this. I would agree for things like hair colour or style, tattoos even. But actually having body parts removed?! In the name of style or individuality?

No. That's really not normal, or right. If it was it would be available by above board means.

It's extremist. Awful

Morganrae1 · 25/02/2025 20:58

That's scary to me. Why would anyone do that to themselves? More to the point why would you do it to someone else?

NeedToChangeName · 25/02/2025 20:54

PenneyFouryourthoughts · 24/02/2025 21:07

I agree with @MistressoftheDarkSide .

Would I do this to myself? No. Would I be disappointed in my child doing this to herself? A little. But just because she's chosen this path doesn't mean she has a mental illness. I am very much in favour of body autonomy. It's her body, she can do what she likes with it.

You'd be "a little" disappointed if your child did to themselves? I'd be devastated

gardenflowergirl · 25/02/2025 20:51

How on earth can she hold down a job looking like that?

XenoBitch · 25/02/2025 20:51

Mrsdyna · 25/02/2025 20:49

The surgeon and tattoo artist should be prosecuted.

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I don't think surgeons do this. it is usually body modification artists.

Mrsdyna · 25/02/2025 20:49

The surgeon and tattoo artist should be prosecuted.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 25/02/2025 20:48

Where did Horns = Evil come from?

Goats? Elephants? Triceratops? Reindeer?

None of them scream ‘evil’. Horns are neutral at best.

XenoBitch · 25/02/2025 20:43

Her body, her choice.

I saw a video of a interview with a lady who was transforming herself into a 'dragon queen'. She had also had various bits removed, and lots of implants and tattoos. She was amazing to listen to, and was a genuinely lovely person.

Yourcatisnotsorry · 25/02/2025 20:41

Meh, her body her choice. She’s not harming anyone, if you don’t like it don’t look.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 25/02/2025 20:40

OogieBoogiO · 25/02/2025 20:12

I thought along similar lines. Overly made up, tanned and lip filler looks scare me too because it’s like trying to hide/obliterate yourself. Just in forms that are more socially acceptable.

The difference to me though is the symbolism present here, seemingly glorifying (or making light of) death (in the skeleton-like nose and tattoos) and evil (the horns).

Trying to obliterate yourself (wether it looks more or less beautiful) gives me demonic vibes.

Oh honey, the 1990s wants its Satanic Panic back 🤣

On a more serious note, it was this kind of fear/ scorn / othering that lead to the murder of Sophie Lancaster.

The alternative scene exists, it's not a threat because you don't like the aesthetics, and it's been around since punk in the 70s. We're quite happy over here in our bat caves, ta muchly. And supping with the devil guarantees good 🍷 x (if you believe in all that of course.)

tommyhoundmum · 25/02/2025 20:31

C36M · 25/02/2025 20:05

I know, why should they be prosecuted when she would have asked them to do it? She can have her nose reconstructed if she wants to

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Simply unethical to proceed but money is a great driver. The young woman appears to have body dysmorphia issues.

SuffolkUnicorn · 25/02/2025 20:30

Maybe she likes it

pinkyredrose · 25/02/2025 20:26

dawngreen · 25/02/2025 20:22

Waste of a surgeon when people who actually needs a surgeon are stuck on waiting lists.

You do realise that private surgeons don't have anything to do with Nhs waiting lists?

Besides that, she went to a body modifier not a surgeon.

Idisagreewithu · 25/02/2025 20:24

I think people who say it's self-harm are onto something, but the list includes any non-essential surgical procedure, botox, any tattoos.

dawngreen · 25/02/2025 20:22

Waste of a surgeon when people who actually needs a surgeon are stuck on waiting lists.

Newfoundzestforlife · 25/02/2025 20:21

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 24/02/2025 20:29

I quite like the forehead horns.

Her body, her choice.
(And she looks far less weird than the ‘filler queens’.)

She looks less weird than people who have a bit of filler here and there....? OK love.

The whole "her body her choice" seems quite hypocritical given how you definitely judge women who have filler.

Coatsoff42 · 25/02/2025 20:18

She’s a bit over obsessed with her appearance, she must have spent a fortune on it, hours and hours in pain and honestly who cares? Shes not exactly making the world a better place. It’s a bit introspective and self obsessive to do this. I don’t have a strong opinion, but she’s sold her story so I feel free to comment.

Rainbow1235 · 25/02/2025 20:15

She also said she keeps her nose in a jar so obviously it was amputated

Gloriia · 25/02/2025 20:15

Cloudtime · 25/02/2025 20:06

It’s very striking. I actually like her eyes but either way it’s her choice . I can’t get excited let alone horrified about someone else’s cosmetic choices .

She looks like has a Halloween mask on. She will scare kids. Why would anyone want to look like a character from a horror film?!

OogieBoogiO · 25/02/2025 20:12

I thought along similar lines. Overly made up, tanned and lip filler looks scare me too because it’s like trying to hide/obliterate yourself. Just in forms that are more socially acceptable.

The difference to me though is the symbolism present here, seemingly glorifying (or making light of) death (in the skeleton-like nose and tattoos) and evil (the horns).

Trying to obliterate yourself (wether it looks more or less beautiful) gives me demonic vibes.

Rainbow1235 · 25/02/2025 20:11

BatchCookBabe · 25/02/2025 19:50

I don't subscribe to the 'be kind' brigade thank you very much, and I think it's a load of utter nonsense. #BeKind is a way to shut women down, and stop them from having opinions and views.

Your passive aggressive comment is not going to shut me down, or make me stop commenting if I wish. People are allowed to comment on others and how they look, especially if they look extreme, and especially if they post multiple pictures of themselves online and promote how they look. It's a free country, and the last time I checked, we had free speech.

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Batchcookbabe hear hear 👏

dEdiCatEdFeliNeEntHusiAst · 25/02/2025 20:11

em2001ily · 25/02/2025 00:01

Yes, they should have recommend she see a psychologist.

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Do we know that she didn't see one ?

Gloriia · 25/02/2025 20:10

C36M · 25/02/2025 19:57

The horns can be removed and the nose can be reconstructed. It’s not really anyone else’s business

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Well people will encounter her and she looks scary and absolutely awful.

BatchCookBabe · 25/02/2025 20:08

C36M · 25/02/2025 19:57

The horns can be removed and the nose can be reconstructed. It’s not really anyone else’s business

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Gloriia · 25/02/2025 20:08

Just horrific but no different to men having having their genitals removed or women having bilateral mastectomies in an attempt to look like something they are not.

It should be illegal for Doctors to remove healthy tissue for cosmetic/alternative look purposes.