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To find the gym attire of some women completely inappropriate?

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Apolo90 · 24/02/2025 19:39

I went to the gym with a work colleague after work; it’s the first time I’ve been to that particular one.

I was taken aback by the number of women wearing either the tightest leggings imaginable, barely there sports bra’s and/or shorts which wouldn’t look out of place on the beach they were that sparse.

Is this really appropriate? I’m far from a prude but I like to exercise without being forced to stare at someone’s bottom squeezed into impossibly tight clothing.

Maybe I’m just getting old.

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StormInaDcup99 · 28/02/2025 05:00

MasterBeth · 24/02/2025 19:41

What are they supposed to wear, an Aertex blouse and their PE skirt?

But it's not like there are only two options of clothing.

There is a myriad of options in between

AvidAunt · 28/02/2025 03:37

MasterBeth · 24/02/2025 20:20

Has no-one ever watched the Olympics?

Skin-tight Lycra worn by elite sportswomen.

It's not sexual, it's professional activewear.

Exactly. I competed in a sport wearing tight lycra sportswear and it isn't and has never intended to be sexual. It's safer for the sport for the athletes to wear clothing that fits closer to their bodies. It's weirder to me for someone to sexualize that. The person viewing it sexually is the weird one.

AvidAunt · 28/02/2025 03:33

I'm close to 40 and I still wear tight leggings and a sports bra with a top over it to work out - and sometimes just the cropped bra top if it's really hot. I used to figure skate professionally and am an avid runner. Tight workout clothes are better for both of those sports as they don't get caught moving. As an ice dancer, looser exercise clothing actually would have been really dangerous. It's what I'm used to for my sports and comfortable in so it's what I wear.

Sinkintotheswamp · 27/02/2025 20:38

IThoughtHeWasWithYou · 27/02/2025 18:08

Love Ben Carpenter. He’s so straight up with stuff. We need more people like him.

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I love Ben too. I tell my teens to follow him. His food munching and tea sipping is fab.

I did do a double take at the this gym this evening when I thought a young woman was naked (I'm old and tired and my contacts aren't great). She was in flesh tone top and bottoms.

EmmaOvary · 27/02/2025 19:40

Iwishyoudstay · 24/02/2025 19:55

Well I'm heartily fed up of seeing women and teenage girls wearing clothes that are barely decent.

It's the height of hypocrisy for women to complain that they are viewed purely in a sexual way when they they wear clothes that are designed to reveal as much of their bodies as possible.

I'm amazed anyone batted an eyelid at Bianca at the Grammys because that's the next logical step when you see how much a lot of women think it's appropriate to reveal on a day to day basis in real life.

And no, I don't want to go back to Victorian times.

Jesus wept. Literally a hair’s breadth from ‘she was asking for it.’

ShinyClouds · 27/02/2025 19:37

He’s great, @IThoughtHeWasWithYou

IThoughtHeWasWithYou · 27/02/2025 18:08

ShinyClouds · 27/02/2025 07:29

Ben Carpenter, fitness coach, does a great video debunking the attitudes on here

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C38Vhb2vI6N/?igsh=MWUyc2Yzenh4bGFxbA==

Love Ben Carpenter. He’s so straight up with stuff. We need more people like him.

Nonrienderien · 27/02/2025 10:34

Nonrienderien · 27/02/2025 09:26

I've since searched again in dictionary.I was getting ready for work (I wfh) & had a quick read of threads during breakfast. Initially I read it was a Brazilian band & a form of dance so asked here. Hope that explains it.

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You think at a certain stage of life you've seen it all or at least heard of it. I've just read a thread where the poster was upset about her DH speaking to friends about their sex life. Apparently one of his friends described an act beginning with rusty & he wasnt describing a nail 😂Having looked it up I realise I know nothing. Thank you mumsnet posters for enlightening those of us who think they've heard it all. Every days a school day on mumsnet 😂

Nonrienderien · 27/02/2025 09:26

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 27/02/2025 08:29

You obviously didn't look hard enough or are being deliberately naive. A quick Google tells you.

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I've since searched again in dictionary.I was getting ready for work (I wfh) & had a quick read of threads during breakfast. Initially I read it was a Brazilian band & a form of dance so asked here. Hope that explains it.

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 27/02/2025 08:29

Nonrienderien · 27/02/2025 07:48

Apologies if this sounds ignorant but I've never heard the word 'skank' as reffered to in previous posts. I looked it up to no avail. I guess given the thread it means wearing something extremely revealing but out of interest can someone please clarify this.

You obviously didn't look hard enough or are being deliberately naive. A quick Google tells you.

Nonrienderien · 27/02/2025 07:48

Apologies if this sounds ignorant but I've never heard the word 'skank' as reffered to in previous posts. I looked it up to no avail. I guess given the thread it means wearing something extremely revealing but out of interest can someone please clarify this.

whynot2025 · 27/02/2025 07:36

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Itsfiiiine · 27/02/2025 07:30

This is probably why my teenage son spends so much time at the gym 😂

ShinyClouds · 27/02/2025 07:29

Ben Carpenter, fitness coach, does a great video debunking the attitudes on here

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C38Vhb2vI6N/?igsh=MWUyc2Yzenh4bGFxbA==

whynot2025 · 27/02/2025 07:26

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StarlightLady · 27/02/2025 06:57

🚩 @whynot2025 Not liking what another woman wears is acceptable. Referring to women as “dressing like skanks” is unacceptable, misogynistic and offensive.

People often resort to name calling and the like when the argument is weak.

GretchenWienersHair · 27/02/2025 06:38

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“Skanks”? Really? How old are you?

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routinelife · 26/02/2025 19:16

Apolo90 · 24/02/2025 19:39

I went to the gym with a work colleague after work; it’s the first time I’ve been to that particular one.

I was taken aback by the number of women wearing either the tightest leggings imaginable, barely there sports bra’s and/or shorts which wouldn’t look out of place on the beach they were that sparse.

Is this really appropriate? I’m far from a prude but I like to exercise without being forced to stare at someone’s bottom squeezed into impossibly tight clothing.

Maybe I’m just getting old.

Yes it's absolutely absurd.

mommatoone · 26/02/2025 19:09

Leafy74 · 25/02/2025 17:03

There are plenty of other appropriate choices but so many go for clothes men want to see them in.

😂😂😂 this has to be a joke . Maybe, just maybe women are wearing are wearing clothes because THEY like them? Just a thought.....

IfItWasUpToMeIWould · 26/02/2025 12:53

I don’t have a problem with it because it’s in an environment where we’re exercising and need flexibility of movement, and I’m an older lady.
Let’s face it when we go in the swimming pool everyone is wearing next to nothing, so what’s the difference.

StarlightLady · 26/02/2025 10:19

SerafinasGoose · 26/02/2025 09:28

Yep. I was a 'goth'. I wore a corset (underwear!) in plain sight in public. Pass the smelling salts! I should probably have been burned at the stake then and there.

Instead, here I still am, advocating for women to wear what the hell they please 😁

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Are you me? x ❤️

SerafinasGoose · 26/02/2025 09:28

Pippyls67 · 25/02/2025 19:38

Ignore the meanies saying cruel things on here. You’re just getting old. We’re sometimes more easily shockable and get far too accustomed to our own big knickers and point of least resistance clothing choices. Let the young he young though. We were as ‘bad’ on occasion back in the day. Very very odd fashions through the eons you can’t deny!!

Yep. I was a 'goth'. I wore a corset (underwear!) in plain sight in public. Pass the smelling salts! I should probably have been burned at the stake then and there.

Instead, here I still am, advocating for women to wear what the hell they please 😁

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 26/02/2025 08:34

Loveduppenguin · 24/02/2025 19:40

people can wear what they want…

Yes, they can. Doesn't mean they should tho

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