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Party, child with visible difference

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donttake · 24/02/2025 18:43

Was 8 year olds birthday party on Saturday,
Some school friends, some out of school friends and some family were invited. First time doing a mixed party like that and the different groups kind of kept together so Dd was a bit pulled around but otherwise everything went great .

One of DD’s cousins who was at the party has a significant facial difference, purely physical and had no effect of their behaviour or abilities. I’ve had a message from a school friends mother saying thank-you for the party, dc had a great time etc but that she would have appreciated a heads up about dd’s cousin. That her dc were scared and upset and she doesn’t know how to deal with it so could I give advice.

I’m not being being unreasonable to think that’s outrageous, am I?

I have no idea what to reply

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 24/02/2025 18:45

WHOA - YANBU and I've even gotten riled up just reading it!

I thought she was gonna apologise if her kids were awkward or anything

Tell her to get fucked! Defend this child 😡 xx

Supersimkin7 · 24/02/2025 18:45

Repellant little woman.

SchoolDilemma17 · 24/02/2025 18:45

What a horrible person. Send her a link to a book about teaching children about inclusivity and diversity? I would be tempted to reply something nasty but probably best to ignore.

MysteriousFalafel · 24/02/2025 18:45

She’d get both barrels from me. Disgusting comment from her. God some people are vile. I can’t even think of a single politely worded thing to text! I’d probably fire back with something like what a pity you’re bringing your kids up to be as horribly closed minded as you. Not to worry, you won’t be invited again.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 24/02/2025 18:44

Completely outrageous 😳