PE teacher at dds school.

Just to say op, it’s ok to be the “neurotic mum” if you need to be. Bullying and ignoring a child’s health concerns are both unacceptable. You aren’t unreasonable in raising these issues, if that makes a teacher you don’t know or care about roll their eyes, let them. The only person who matters when it comes to your parenting and school involvement is your child x

What a bitch! Would hate to think how she is with her own kids. I know kids can take the piss when it comes to P.E but surely if the head of year and head teacher are aware your daughter was unwell with pneumonia then they would have her back with the P.E teacher. Mt daughters 11 and if this happened to her there would be no nice written notes I'd be straight in asking her what her issue is. X

As for no need for confrontation. I disagree. Nobody should treat your child like that. I’m not a ranty woman and have never had to go to school with a complaint and my kids are older now but really think this is awful and why should we not actively stand up against awful individuals for our children. I absolutely would.

I would ask to have a meeting with the head of PE, not the head of year as this is a PE matter. It would definitely be worth getting a note from the doctors.

@Chickencuddle That is awful behaviour from the teacher. Look at it another way. If this was how you treated your daughter, not allowing her to go to the toilet when she needed, ignoring her medical needs, actively treating her disparagingly, you would be reported for safeguarding concerns at home. What makes this teacher think that’s ok in her setting to do this. I’d create hell and take this much further than the school head.

It's time to demand a face to face with that teacher. They clearly need verbally putting on their arse.

A child who is suffering from decreased lung capacity in the aftermath of pneumonia is not a 'same old' situation.

I'd be paying the doctor to write a note of guidance for school and telling the PE nob head where to shove it.

Email and request a meeting with the PE teacher and head of year.

You don't need to go in all guns blazing. I'd say that you feel some clarification is needed regarding your daughter's medical condition and how her health impacts on her ability to do PE. The comment saying she will have a behaviour point if she misses PE again is enough on its own to warrant a meeting.

The PE teacher needs to know you're aware of what's going on and not prepared to just let it go. There may be children regularly missing PE who perhaps could take part. After what your daughter has been through, she isn't one of them and the PE teacher needs to know that. Explaining it to him should hopefully be enough.

No wonder the numbers of girls choosing to take part in sports are so low. A PE teacher bullying an 11 year old who has been very poorly with pneumonia and repeated chest infections. That's really poor. I hope you can arrange that meeting.

You don’t need to be confrontational, you just need to advocate for your child. Arrange an in person meeting with the head of year and PE teacher and your DD, show your DD you’re there to support her.

You need to have a meeting with the Head of Year. Is this PE teacher actually aware that your daughter has been extremely unwell? Or is this teacher seeing all these individual incidents, and thinking you're an over protective parent?! I ask because communication in schools is not always great between staff. You'd think it would be, but sadly not always. Your daughter shouldn't be made to feel she's a fraud, and skiving off.

Gosh OP it makes my blood boil just reading this. I’d be down the school meeting the teacher and head of year and kicking up a stink. Sometimes you’ve got to bat for your kids.

I would actually request a meeting with the head of department, not the HOY. You essentially need to be raising this with the teacher's manager, whereas the HOY is not line managing the staff, so it would slow you down. That or you need to be emailing in a complaint and ask for it to be sent to the head of department or SLT.

YANBU That's awful for your DD and for you. Pneumonia is a dreadful infection with a lengthy recovery time and a risk of lower immunity from other infections afterwards.
As other PPs have said you need to arrange a meeting with HOY and the PE teacher ASAP to discuss this - in my opinion the PE teacher is a bully and needs to be dealt with higher up in the school.

Additionally, if this isn't successful you should escalate this and seek a meeting with the headteacher/principal as action will have to be taken then.

Good luck and hope this gets resolved soon 💐

Is the PE teacher Tony Mammoth?

On a more serious note I would also ask for a meeting with HOY and the PE teacher

I'm a head teacher and I would submit a formal complaint about this.

The outcome you would like is an apology and a written undertaking that your child will not experience any negative consequences for being exempt from PE lessons again.

No need to be confrontational. Act as if you think it's a misunderstanding (even if you're convinced she's a bully) and explain about your daughter's health problems. Is there a school nurse then maybe she can attend as well. But do it quickly because it's scary for a y7 to feel bullied by a teacher.

I'd insist on a meeting with this teacher and the head, op. Not on x

Yr7 children are really vulnerable because its a big change to high school and stuff like this really annoys me because its likely damaging your daughter's confidence and putting her off sport! I would go hard on this and speak to the head.

Really don't understand why some teachers are bullies. Who goes to work wanting to make a childs life miserable? I had one at my high school, she belittled me in front of an entire class of 17/18 year old boys (I was 13) and told me if I didn't participate in PE I would become obese and be a failure in life. I'm 30 and I still hate her 🤣