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So fed up of stories like this every single year. Stupid bloody Skiing.

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ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 23/02/2025 23:00

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14427223/British-schoolboy-14-killed-skiing-accident-northern-Italy.html

This poor lad, only 14 years old, crashes headlong into a tree at speed and dies of chest injuries right in front of his parents.

What's so fucking great about skiing? Every year without fail there are stories like this and I'm sick of them. I know someone who became permanently disabled and slightly brain damaged after a skiing accident in his 20s.

As parents we don't encourage our kids to get into cars and drive them at speed round a race track with very little training every half term in February do we? We don't stick them on the backs of race horses and slap their arses and watch them go over hurdles. We don't encourage them to dive off high cliffs into the sea below and hope that they manage to miss the rocks as they land. So why do we continually let them hurl down mountainsides at god knows how many miles an hour, hoping that they manage not to collide with a tree or hit their heads on a rock?

I don't get it. I never will. However 'fun' it might be it can't possibly be worth the stupid level of risk.

OP posts:
RandomUserName96 · 26/02/2025 09:49

goodkidsmaadhouse · 23/02/2025 23:09

Statistically you are really, really unlikely to die while skiing. Depending on the data you look at it’s in the realm of 1 death per 1 million skiier days.

And parents absolutely let their kids get in cars (they don’t need to be going round a race track to be potentially lethal), ride horses (ditto - no need to be racing to have a serious accident), swim in open water… As parents we all want our kids to have fulfilling and enjoyable lives. That necessarily involves risk.

Can I ask, what constitutes 1 skier day? Is it literally 1 person skiing for a day?

If so - then, for arguments sake, 1k people on the slopes in one resort on a given day = 1k skier days. 1 million skier days would be hit pretty quickly considering how many skiers there would be across the world every day?

Like, what would that be, a death every couple of days? At least one per week?

The likelihood of it being you may be small, but the likelihood if someone dying is high?

faffadoodledo · 26/02/2025 09:47

Trouble is all the lessons in the world won't prevent you being involved in an accident with an over enthusiastic Frenchman barrelling down the slope (something that has just happened to a friend of mine who has returned from a ski trip with a knee injury). Tho of course lessons are a sensible mitigation.

Needspaceforlego · 26/02/2025 09:44

TylwythTeg · 26/02/2025 03:07

I couldn’t agree more! Two of my DC are currently away skiing, with their Dad, step-mother and step-siblings. DD has had two fairly bad falls in three days trying to keep up with it all and has damaged her knee and hip. It is entirely at the wish of the step family that they have all gone skiing and do so every Feb half term, because it’s ’what we do’. Pretentious T**ts.

Question is have the kids had proper lessons and not just Dad trying to teach them?
Do they use a dry slope here?

But sometimes falls just happen. I pulled a muscle a couple of years ago, on a simple fall where I landed like Garfield.
But I've also done similar falling of a kerb that didn't notice.

T1Dmama · 26/02/2025 09:28

I guess the trouble is we take calculated risks everyday otherwise we wouldn’t do anything.
just getting out of bed and walking downstairs is risky, driving in perhaps the most dangerous thing we all do, yet most of us do it.
skiing wouldn’t be for me but we have to all have to take risks & allow our children to too… I’m sure if we all sat and researched the risk factors involved we wouldn’t do anything though..

Iceandfire92 · 26/02/2025 08:41

Louisetheroux · 25/02/2025 23:01

No, I don't have a chip on my shoulder about not being able to afford skiing 😂 We've got a 2 week holiday abroad booked in the summer holidays, and are also paying for DD to go on a week's holiday abroad with school in the Autumn (not skiing obviously haha). If we wanted to go skiing, we would.

So why do you have such a negative opinion about the people who enjoy a sport that you have never partaken in yourself? I'm assuming you have never been to a ski resort and are basing your opinion on stereotypes and people talking about their ski trips?

Skiing in places like Bulgaria is extremely popular and super cheap, do you think everyone who skis there is entitled and a certain type of person? Every time I have skiied, there has been a wide range of people from many different backgrounds, it is not exclusively for the upper middle-class. It is wonderful to go away both in the winter and the summer, a trip to the mountains really breaks up the dreary winter months in the UK.

TheWildZebra · 26/02/2025 07:50

FlowerUser · 23/02/2025 23:23

There was a thread this week about a MNetter whose husband was in a coma due to a skiing accident. Fortunately they were insured and he's now out of the coma, but he still has to be airlifted by air ambulance to the UK and then to a specialist hospital. He may be fine, but may be brain damaged. Imagine dealing with that, having your holiday ruined, not able to get back home or to work, and arrange everything in a foreign language. I don't think it's worth it.

Sure , but you may well end up with all those disabilities from a stroke or other cause of brain injury. At least he did something he enjoyed.

Natsku · 26/02/2025 03:53

Pippyls67 · 25/02/2025 19:08

It’s essentially a middle class badge of honour that’s why. People thinks it gives kids acceptance and inclusion in certain social circles. Bad show really but it was ever thus.

For a small proportion of Brits, perhaps, but for everyone else that skis, its just something they do because its fun and they enjoy it. The winter half term in Finland is called 'ski holiday' because that's what almost everyone does for the week, whether downhill or cross-country, for decades. People of all classes.

beachcitygirl · 26/02/2025 03:12

I am not a skier and think it's dangerous but that said, each to their own. Smoking is dangerous. Hiking can be dangerous, walking alone at night is probably the most dangerous but we are adults and allowed to make our own decisions.

I'm also a firm believer in big society. I pay for the treatment of ski injuries (through taxes) and nurseries (no small
Kids) and old people care (no elderly people in one ) and much more but I also was happy that others paid in when a loved one had cancer and another hiv. I also support medical care and support for drug addicts and alcoholism and smokers because life isn't always peachy and I truly believe with all my heart that we should look out for the most vulnerable and sick and old and young members of our society and I abide by my own code
Give what you can
Get what you need

TylwythTeg · 26/02/2025 03:07

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 23/02/2025 23:27

It's the way people wang on as if it's so bloody marvellous that gets me. It's dangerous and irresponsible and even if statistically you might not have a high chance of dying, I think you have a pretty high chance of getting hurt. I realise life is to be lived and it's not completely risk free. I just don't understand why so many people would actively choose to let their whole family do something that is so high risk. When it goes wrong it's not just a broken arm or ankle, it's brain damage.

I couldn’t agree more! Two of my DC are currently away skiing, with their Dad, step-mother and step-siblings. DD has had two fairly bad falls in three days trying to keep up with it all and has damaged her knee and hip. It is entirely at the wish of the step family that they have all gone skiing and do so every Feb half term, because it’s ’what we do’. Pretentious T**ts.

CruCru · 25/02/2025 23:18

This is an interesting thread. I love skiing but it is expensive if you want to go during the February half term - there probably are ways to do it more cheaply but, realistically, if you want to ski in Val d'Isère, St Anton, Zermatt etc. it won't be cheap. You need to love it to make it a worthwhile holiday. Even the lift pass will be several hundred pounds for a week.

I think it has become a much safer sport than it used to be. I remember seeing extremely long skis in the 80s - now, most people of my ability use much shorter carving skis. We also wear helmets (only for people who were doing stunts when I learned) and largely stay off the booze until we are off the mountain.

The thing that is very dangerous about skiing is the coach to and from the mountains. Those roads are often treacherous.

Louisetheroux · 25/02/2025 23:01

Iceandfire92 · 25/02/2025 14:39

This is a huge generalisation and simply untrue. It's exactly like generalising about working class people going to Benidorm, splurging their benefits drinking too many pints of Stella and pissing off the locals. Do you have a chip on your shoulder about not being able to afford skiing?

Edited

No, I don't have a chip on my shoulder about not being able to afford skiing 😂 We've got a 2 week holiday abroad booked in the summer holidays, and are also paying for DD to go on a week's holiday abroad with school in the Autumn (not skiing obviously haha). If we wanted to go skiing, we would.

jacks11 · 25/02/2025 22:16

YABU

Most of us who do more dangerous sports are aware of the risks- who are you to decide what risks others should or should not take? Lots of people take part in dangerous sports- skiing, horse-riding, rock climbing, mountain biking, water sports - even hill walking/hiking can be very dangerous. Statistically, you are far more likely to be seriously injured or killed travelling by car or crossing the road. More people are injured or die because of accidents relating to cycling or alcohol use. Should we all just hole up in our house and never leave to be “safe”, or only take part in “safe” sports and activities.

Between the members of my immediate family, we all take part in several “dangerous” sports or activity. We enjoy it, they keep us active and fit, we have learned skills and all sorts of benefits in terms of physical and mental health. Yes, there are risks- but honestly, you minimise what you can (proper training, ensuring appropriate safety equipment and working within your skill levels etc) and carry on. Bad things happen sometimes, but we accept that. I don’t understand why you’d be so angry about what other people chose to do with their own bodies and time.

Ticktockk · 25/02/2025 21:33

You only have to look around at any motorway service station to realise the mortal peril you put yourself in driving down the M1. There’s always SOMEONE you’d rather not be driving near!
Skiing is great. Like anything else you just need one person behaving like an idiot, or one bad mistake.

liveforsummer · 25/02/2025 21:25

Not race horses but my kids have been breaking and bringing on young horses/ponies since they were pretty small so not too different. People do what they love and often there is a risk.

FoodieToo · 25/02/2025 20:50

Absolutely ridiculous post !! So many dangers in life , many of them unpredictable.
We ski every year - best week of the year !!

Dogsbreath7 · 25/02/2025 20:36

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 23/02/2025 23:27

It's the way people wang on as if it's so bloody marvellous that gets me. It's dangerous and irresponsible and even if statistically you might not have a high chance of dying, I think you have a pretty high chance of getting hurt. I realise life is to be lived and it's not completely risk free. I just don't understand why so many people would actively choose to let their whole family do something that is so high risk. When it goes wrong it's not just a broken arm or ankle, it's brain damage.

Do you have the statistics on the ‘high chance of getting hurt’?

Skier and horse rider here. Horse riding definitely more dangerous due to the 4 hoofed animal with a mind of its own. Yes there accidents and catastrophic ones but few and far between. Get a grip you are bashing skiing because you think it’s a middle class sport - it’s not. You can ski cheaply or expensively. Would never ski without insurance though. Kids go on school trips, buses crash lots of deaths injuries- where does it stop?

I read about a woman who had two hands bitten off by a shark recently. And there are ‘loads’ of people killed every year by sharks ( using OP terminology). Let’s ban people from beaches NOW!

OP you can make the choice to deprive your DC to learn to ski but they won’t thank you for it and you can’t stop them later. Your choice but don’t come on MN with your exaggerated claims bashing skiing as a high risk sport.

Clarabell77 · 25/02/2025 20:11

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 23/02/2025 23:27

It's the way people wang on as if it's so bloody marvellous that gets me. It's dangerous and irresponsible and even if statistically you might not have a high chance of dying, I think you have a pretty high chance of getting hurt. I realise life is to be lived and it's not completely risk free. I just don't understand why so many people would actively choose to let their whole family do something that is so high risk. When it goes wrong it's not just a broken arm or ankle, it's brain damage.

It’s definitely something some people like to show off about.

Bunchymcbunchface · 25/02/2025 19:57

Same can be said for horse riding?…….
or many other sports that are dangerous

SapphireSeptember · 25/02/2025 19:57

MumonabikeE5 · 23/02/2025 23:39

What do you do? Are you in good health and fitness?

You don't need to do any of those sports to be fit and healthy. I don't do any sports (single mum) but I walk everywhere, have to pick up and carry my hefty baby around, and do workouts in my living room.

Pippyls67 · 25/02/2025 19:48

Of course some people just love it for the purity of the sport but lots more go because it’s a lifestyle choice. Skiing holidays are not usually for the ordinary person on a council estate. Get real. I’m ‘middle class’ and have been on a few skiing holidays when younger. I see what I see. It’s just the truth sorry!

BoredZelda · 25/02/2025 19:38

I'm Scottish. I live an hours drive from a ski resort. I've been skiing since I was a child.

Same.

PickleSarnie · 25/02/2025 19:35

Pippyls67 · 25/02/2025 19:08

It’s essentially a middle class badge of honour that’s why. People thinks it gives kids acceptance and inclusion in certain social circles. Bad show really but it was ever thus.

A "middle class badge of honour"?!

Isn't it allowed to just be something people do for fun? Like all the other sports and hobbies that people do (that also carry risk) Do you just have a problem with it because it's an expensive sport?

I learnt on a crappy little dry ski slope in Scotland and had a few days to the Lecht with second hand ski suits on the rare occasion there was actual snow in Scotland. I didnt go abroad until my mid 20s. There was definitely nothing middle class about it. But despite the sleet, mud, ice and rain that is skiing in Scotland I absolutely loved it.

Now we ski every year (thankfully not in Scotland) it's our favourite holiday, my kids have zero concept of "middle class badges of honour" and they absolutely love it. Because it's fun. If you don't fancy it, that's fine but don't claim others are doing for some sort of random kudos.

BoredZelda · 25/02/2025 19:35

I've ski'd for decades. Never had an accident. Nobody I ski with has ever had an accident. Nobody I know who skis has ever had an accident.

It is fun, good exercise and I'd rather ski than run.

Icanttakethisanymore · 25/02/2025 19:34

Nanny1983 · 23/02/2025 23:34

Maybe everyone who does extreme sports should be made to have proper insurance at all times so that our NHS isn’t picking up the costs if people want to go ahead and do these dangerous sports .
I know people go abroad and take out insurance but what about people who do the sports in the uk ?

What about people who smoke? Or drink more than their 15 units a week? Or don’t do the recommended amount of exercise? Of don’t eat enough vegetables? Or are overweight?

Drylogsonly · 25/02/2025 19:29

School ski trip 70 kids, half never seen a ski slope- amazing experience, fresh air and exercise for a week, bonding, fun, no injuries… no deaths… everyone fine.

Should we also stop sea swimming, off-road biking,
rugby… what about football? I know a fit health guy who dropped dead in the middle of playing…

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