Not Invited to Cousin's Wedding

God, that's harsh! How bitchy of her. I'd send a reply saying, "Well, fuck you too!" But I'm petty like that.

Even if she does have a good reason she doesn't have to be a nasty bitch about it. She could have said - I'm very sorry but you're not, I know you might find this hurtful but given xyz circumstances I didn't feel it would be appropriate to invite you'

I hope the maid of honour shags the groom at the reception, there's a massive punch up and the brides dress splits as she's putting it on.

And the marriage then doesn't make it til the honeymoon...

...just so the OP gets to send a message saying "hope the wedding was lovely".

If you do reply I'd say she deserves a breezy 'OK, thanks for confirming that you are a nasty twat ' then block her.

Everyone’s got one cunty cousin! Sorry op, I’ve had similar before.
Book yourself a beautiful spa day and post loads of pictures of it- bet most of your relatives will wish they were doing that instead. I’d hope your mum wouldn’t go either given the circs

How utterly hurtful and cold. I really hope your parents are not going now because I know I’d have a real issue with my family if this happened to me.

I would be delighted never to attend another wedding! My husband didn't accompany me to the weddings of my cousins (four of them) and I thought they would be delighted not to spend on his dinner etc - we declined his invitation and said I would come alone from the day of receiving the invitation. He wouldn't know them in the street and it would have been pressure for me to entertain him rather than catch up with family. Found out years later they were offended so I wish I hadn't gone either!

You must be aware of the reason why you're not invited surely? Something must have happened for this to be the case.

I wouldn't say it's that interesting - if the bride had posted her side we'd probably all be on her side eh? It's the way of mumsnet. We can only respond to what's presented to us. Also, a lot of the time, the most obvious answer is the correct one.

Also HIGHLY unlikely someone can do something so bad to be snubbed in this way, without having a single inkling of anything ever happening.

I think I’d reply with “Ah ok, thanks for clarifying, hope I haven’t upset you in some way, enjoy your big day”

Was your cousin invited to your wedding?

Any chance someone may have blamed you for something & cousin has believed it? Or someone just stirred trouble for you?

Perfect reply! I was going to say my reply wouldnt be 'oh, why not please' but simply 'ouch'

That’s sad. And quite rude and weird of them. I’m sorry

I find it really interesting that everyone assumes the bride is being a total bitch for absolutely no reason, when the far more likely explanation is that she does have a reason, and feels perfectly justified in not inviting OP

Weird.

She must have been waiting for your text. She must have expected you (or one of your family) to ask. So she wasn't caught offguard, frantically typing a quick reply - she purposely sent something with no explanation. Yikes what a life.

So she wants to awkwardly face your whole family (parents, siblings) at this wedding, fully knowing that they're all wondering why you were not invited?? She's using the fact that no one would dare ask on her wedding day to brazen this out. Your mum should ask her pre-wedding - well, you should, but set your mum on the case if you cant!

I hope it rains on her wedding day x

Why not ask your mother to speak to your cousin or your aunt/uncle? Its not unreasonable to want to know why and would exclude potential awkwardness. Ask your mother directly, do not just “hope” she will speak to them, she might have thought you were just having a moan and not realised she had to act! Certainly its the type of thing I would miss if not said explicitly to me

I’d also be a bit annoyed if my family went given that response. What a cow!

This.

I'd be more hurt that my close relatives chose to attend anyway.

Well, that would be the last time I took any interest in that part of my family if someone did that to me.

I'd even maybe send a message like 'oh just the whole rest of my family... that hurts, why?' to her

Wow that is pretty shitty...and cold! Think I'd just reply with "Oh. Thanks a lot!" And quite frankly that would be the last time I'd speak to them! Sorry but to invite the whole family and not you and to just give that crappy response! Horrible.

Ouch! She sounds like an arsehole. It's not the not inviting you, it's the inviting your closest family and not even giving an explanation. Would your Mum be willing to ask why not and say that you (all?!) are very hurt?

Aw I'm sorry, that reply must really sting. I was hoping she'd just forgotten or that the invite was in the post.
So, now you know. While bridey hasn't actually done anything wrong in not inviting you, her reply didn't need to be so abrupt. Have a cry about it if it helps and then get on with your life. You don't need people like that.
I will say one other thing - if you were my daughter or sister, there's no way I'd be going to the bloody wedding and we'd be doing something lovely on the day. In fact, why don't you arrange a treat with your own family. Fuck the rest of them, quite frankly.

Well that was really rude of your cousin OP, and pretty shortsighted of her in terms of future relations with your side of the family. Assuming your siblings/parents and you have good relationships, I’m not sure what reaction she’s expecting to get from them when they find out. This will tarnish not only her own relationships but also those of your Mum/Aunt/Uncle. It’s all very ugly and unnecessary for the sake of an invitation to a family event.