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To feel a bit body shamed?!?

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Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 18:55

Basically a mate I've known about 4 years and see rather regularly always makes reference to my height. She's like oh I can barely see you you're so short. All the time. Aibu to call her out ?

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GrainneIsAinmDom · 23/02/2025 19:41

Is the joke maybe that you're both pretty average height but you're a little bit shorter so she exaggerates to be humorous? Otherwise it doesn't make any sense. She's either sort of funny or a bit thick

ShouldIEvenBother · 23/02/2025 19:37

Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:09

About 5 foot 6?

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So you're 5ft 3 and she's 5ft 6.

She's a mere 3 inches taller... Gosh she sounds irritating!

letslaughitoff · 23/02/2025 19:34

Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:05

I'm 5 foot 3

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I can beat you im 4foot i am short shoe size kid size 3 and i dont give a crap what others say.

Adropintheocean1 · 23/02/2025 19:31

I’m 5ft3, thought it was average. I know I’m smaller than a lot of people in day to day life but I wouldn’t consider myself noticeably short… the only reason I’d like to be taller is so I’d look slimmer 😂 otherwise I don’t care so this wouldn’t cause me offence. But if it was constant I would probably say shut up now sue it’s getting boring.

ItGhoul · 23/02/2025 19:31

I’m shorter than you. I’m the shortest of all my friends and the shortest person in my family.

I don’t ever feel shamed or criticised when someone mentions it, any more than I’d feel shamed if someone mentioned the colour of my eyes or something. It’s just a neutral thing to me.

I suppose if your friend mentions it every single time you see her it’s probably quite boring. But not shaming.

You have three options, which are 1) tell her to stop doing it, 2) just keep putting up with it or 3) stop seeing her entirely.

ExpensiveBiscuits · 23/02/2025 19:23

UnctuousUnicorns · 23/02/2025 19:15

I'm 5' O". 5' 3" is quite tall to me...

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You can join the Short Arses Unite Group! @UnctuousUnicorns

@Sweetloveandcheese You will have to form Average Height Group-you and your friend-who are both more or less average height-can be founding members.

Ddakji · 23/02/2025 19:17

Oh, FFS. How is this body shaming? Call her out? What an overreaction.

UnctuousUnicorns · 23/02/2025 19:15

ExpensiveBiscuits · 23/02/2025 19:10

In fact, I wouldn't even call you short so I withdraw my rallying call of Short Arses Unite because you are not one of us.

I'm 5' O". 5' 3" is quite tall to me...

Killam · 23/02/2025 19:14

Weird -both of you are basically average height, so seems like she's just kidding? I think this is just that your friend has got fixated on an injoke that doesn't work for you.

You can very easily shut this down by just saying this joke is tired. I'm not short. You're not tall. The average height is 5'4. Let's put this one to bed now as I'm tired of it. She will be a bit red faced and drop it.

ShamrockShenanigans · 23/02/2025 19:12

Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:10

Not strange. I have issues confronting things like this.

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But if Mumsnet tells you to call her out, you'll still have issues won't you?

If you don't like it then tell her. Otherwise you'll just have to put up with it.

I'm not sure if you have kids but if you do or if you want them in the future, you'll have to get used to sticking up for them so it's best to start practicing on yourself.

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Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:11

ExpensiveBiscuits · 23/02/2025 19:10

In fact, I wouldn't even call you short so I withdraw my rallying call of Short Arses Unite because you are not one of us.

Whhh I like being in groups. Lol.

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NormasArse · 23/02/2025 19:11

“Give it up BFG, you’re only 3” taller than me.”

xyz111 · 23/02/2025 19:10

She's not really a friend to keep making fun of you. Next time she says it I would reply back with "yeah Jane that joke is getting a bit old now".

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Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:10

ShamrockShenanigans · 23/02/2025 19:10

Bit of a strange question really.

She's your friend, of course you should tell her if you don't like it.

Not strange. I have issues confronting things like this.

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ExpensiveBiscuits · 23/02/2025 19:10

In fact, I wouldn't even call you short so I withdraw my rallying call of Short Arses Unite because you are not one of us.

ShamrockShenanigans · 23/02/2025 19:10

Bit of a strange question really.

She's your friend, of course you should tell her if you don't like it.

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Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:09

NormasArse · 23/02/2025 19:09

How tall is she?

About 5 foot 6?

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Lostworlds · 23/02/2025 19:09

I’m small and I had a friend who regularly made fun of me for it, as did her husband. I don’t mind the off small joke but when it’s constant, it just gets boring and irritating. I ended up just calling them out on it, said it felt very high school and not funny anymore.
They apologised for hurting my feelings but I wasn’t upset, I was just fed up of it.

NormasArse · 23/02/2025 19:09

How tall is she?

Namechangergamechanger101 · 23/02/2025 19:08

Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 18:55

Basically a mate I've known about 4 years and see rather regularly always makes reference to my height. She's like oh I can barely see you you're so short. All the time. Aibu to call her out ?

Is she a lot taller than you?

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Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:08

username299 · 23/02/2025 19:07

Have you written about this before? Every single person in your life mocks your height.

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No

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BoudiccaRising · 23/02/2025 19:08

Tell her to shut up

NormasArse · 23/02/2025 19:08

Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:05

I'm 5 foot 3

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Me too- I wouldn’t consider myself super short.

Sometimeswinning · 23/02/2025 19:08

I have a few friends who are probably your height. I don’t make jokes but they are made in good humour. Maybe make it clear your sense of humour doesn’t stretch that far.

username299 · 23/02/2025 19:07

Sweetloveandcheese · 23/02/2025 19:05

I'm 5 foot 3

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Have you written about this before? Every single person in your life mocks your height.