Neighbour asking for money

Her not giving him the money back or taking a day to repay it is literally the least of your problems.

I would never involve myself in something like this.

Why be part of a the criminal activity without any of the benefits.

She’s using you both and DH is embarrassing himself by rolling over for her.

It’s going to be drug dealers. She’s probably dealing herself. Have u noticed lots of visitors or people coming and going?

I'd be saying no every time from now on.
DH should be saying no too.
It sounds dodgy, whatever it is. She gets the money per bank transfer, spends it on whatever and then she brings cash round. Odd.

Also if you change your mortgage you will be asked about all those little transfers. My daughter and I often pick up shopping for each other and pay it back by transfer. When they applied for their new mortgage the application came back asked what all those transactions were.

This sounds really dodgy. She is asking for money (generally at night) and then gives you cash back the next day. What is she doing that requires money in the bank if she is able to get her hands on cash that quickly.

I agree with the poster who suggests you say you can't do it as the bank has noticed unusual transactions.

Any chance she's blackmailing him?

YANBU. She sounds like a problem person to be completely avoided. I think you also need to have a talk with your husband about how the two of you are a team to decide things together, not for him to feel free to say yes when you said no. That would really tick me off. She will continue this lunacy until she is repeatedly presented with a solid wall of no from BOTH of you.

If someone said "seriously don't start" to me that would be the last time they said a word to me. When it's your husband you have a big problem.

You were a fool to do this for so long. If your husband won't stop I'd be having serious words with him. Sure he's not shagging her, or wanting to?

A girl I knew did this to my friend, always asking for £5 -£20. She would use it for drugs, buy a bigger bit, cut it , sell it and then give back the money made from selling the cut down drugs. Either that or it was just cigarette money until her benefits came through. Her bank account was flagged and shut down due to her carrying on this way. The mutual friend has no more dealings with her, apparently she's now hooked on heroin and her son lives with the grandparents. Really sad situation, junkies will tell you all sorts of lies to get their fix! You're easy money to them. Please be careful.

I’d say no purely because I never use cash. I like being able to see how much is in my bank account and paying for everything on card. I hate it if someone owes me £20 and pays in cash. As a one off it’s ok, but this would fuck me off no end and a perfectly good reason to say no to it all.

I would block her on everything and ask DH to do the same.

If he refuses, you have a DH problem.

Sound like money laundering to me 🙄
but more to the point I would tell her pack it in texting all hours! Tell her it’s getting on your nerves and you won’t be doing it anymore as you don’t really want cash you prefer to spend on your card.

He sounds very suspicious. Men don't just go around giving money away for nothing.

Girl I'd be asking some serious questions about your husbands fidelity 🥺

Why has she got cash to give you, but nothing in her account.
It doesn't make sense. And if it doesn't make sense then it's probably illegal

How would your dh respond if you said that the money was being spent on drugs &/or a gambling habit. Would he still lend her the money knowing full well it's being spent on a dodgy habit?

Your DH is a fking mug.

I'd probably say that my bank have questioned it and told you it looks suspicious. When you explained the situation they told you not to do it so you are sorry you can't help in the future.

It's dodgy. Or she'd just go to the post office or bank.

Let your husband do whatever he wants but tell him he may be unknowingly involving himself in something illegal and you won't be taking the risk and would rather he didn't either.

OMG OP I'm wondering if you've moved into my old house 😂 My ex neighbour was exactly the same. I liked her and she was nice enough so I did it a few times and then it got too much so I said no.

She properly got the hump and life got a bit weird. Think bags of rubbish dumped on top of the recycling just before the bin men came so they didn't take my bins, and nasty smelling liquid down the side of my house 🤢

She might want to make an online payment for something but only has cash on her and none in the bank

Well, the plot thickens @Redbird3 on top of the whole odd situation, your dh is now getting defensive.
You pointed out it could be drugs/gambling/money laundering he could have said, 'really? Don't want to get mixed up with that. Yes, no more transfers.'

Stick to your guns and refuse to get involved any further.

Unless hes a pushover like this for everyone, then there is something really wrong about your dhs reaction to this.
I also dont understand why she needs money into her bank so frequently when she has the cash to drop around asap...Id be highly suspicious of this OP

@Waterweight - depends if she's doing this with just the OP or some others

@Redbird3 - reading your update, you have bigger issues than this neighbour
I think you need to get your DH to read this thread.

You have a massive DH problem then, OP.

If I were you I'd send her a very impolite message telling her to stop asking both your and your H, and then block her on everything. How fucking dare she disturb you at all times of day and implicate you in whatever illegal nonsense she has got herself into?! Get angry. And get FURIOUS that your DH told you to "seriously not start".
I would also not be so naive as to think it is over with her asking DH and him sending it 😶