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To tell you about my night out with Dh. I'm fuming.

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poonarmme · 23/02/2025 00:10

I've been ill for 3 weeks in hospital. Home and able to go out out. The night went like this:
We went to a bar with music. I made a throw away joke/comment. Dh got the arse about it and spent 1.5 hours going on about it. Saying he needed space. And that i clearly have issues with him and that i need to say what these are. I said there are no issues. He said I'm a liar. He then preceeded to say I was drunk and he knew what was coming next, as its always what I say when drunk, and he was totally fed up over what I was allegedly about to say. I was gobsmacked. Apparently I always harp on about the same thing when drunk and i always say "I know all about you but I'm not prepared to say what it is I know". I don't say this and never have done in 20 years together. He clearly thinks differently
We then went into a different bar, a cab drive away. They had a live band. I was dancing. He said "are you really that naive I just want to punch him" I was like "what you talking about" he said "your so naive just f off and dance". Lots of other other similar comments like this from him through out the eve. We then left and started walking.
He said he wanted food on the way home and said "we will get a home delivery". I said do you mean a delivery at home ( we were almost at the food shop) he said "are you completely stupid why would we do that when we're at the food shop". He was v drunk but denied this.
I just feel like he has treated me like shit all night

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Butchyrestingface · 23/02/2025 07:35

I would be better off dead then I can't be misinterpreted or understood or annoying or sat the wrong thing ever again

You keep insisting you’re sober but this is not the way a sober 50 something would respond to the situation and/or feedback from posters.

You both sound drunk and far, far younger than the age you claim to be. Laying off alcohol may lead to a dramatic improvement in how the pair of you communicate.

Stravaig · 23/02/2025 07:32

repellingmnvipers · 23/02/2025 07:28

Who goes out on the sauce after three weeks in hospital?

Someone with zero respect for taxpayers' investment in their health.

Greenwallpinkwall · 23/02/2025 07:31

You both sound as bad as each other

Coolasfeck · 23/02/2025 07:31

This sounds like a 2-way drunken argument. Your OP is written in a rambling drunk way. Just have some water, sleep it off, let it go and the next time you’re both out, drink less.

Pipsquiggle · 23/02/2025 07:29

Do you actually like each other?

Both of you sound incredibly immature, I thought you were going to say you were teenagers or early 20s.
Please, both of you, reduce your alcohol intake.

repellingmnvipers · 23/02/2025 07:28

Who goes out on the sauce after three weeks in hospital?

Miaowzabella · 23/02/2025 07:28

Seriously, you are in your fifties? You sound about fifteen. And whatever your age, you clearly need to cut back on the drinking.

BotDranning · 23/02/2025 07:25

You were in hospital for THREE weeks. I can only assume it must have been pretty serious /complex. Why would you then be out drinking.
Must admit you do sound drunk and argumentative.
You probably need some rest. It must have been a highly worrying and emotional three weeks for all involved.

IButtleSir · 23/02/2025 07:23

poonarmme · 23/02/2025 01:19

I'm neither a troll or a drunk
Why would I be deemed as either of these just because I said I'd be better off dead ? Tonight my dh says truly made me feel like the biggest bag of shite ever
And I'm deemed a troll or drunk for that ? !?
What ever

You're being deemed as drunk because your posts are incoherent.

GoodToBeHome · 23/02/2025 07:19

Stravaig · 23/02/2025 07:08

Is this a new NHS aftercare protocol? 'On release from hospital, please ensure immediate binge drinking in a mutually toxic relationship.'

Ask your GP for a general health check, alcohol support, and a counselling referral. You seem to be engaged in multiple destructive behaviours.

The NHS is on its knees...I don't really think alcohol support is required for someone who has had a rough night out!

SALaw · 23/02/2025 07:18

poonarmme · 23/02/2025 00:30

Throughout the night I was fiddling with my necklace. I do this out of habit. Dh questioned why i was doing this. Note to self don't touch necklace.
Im Fuming that he was pissed off with me over what I was apparently about to say and allegedly always say when drunk! He said i said it last night too. I asked him what I said last night. He could not answer this. This is Because I said nothing of the sort.
My response re food was genuine. He did "get home delivery" and I confirmed what I thought he meant.
He's in bed sprawled out drunk. I'm on the sofa

This reads like the way my 15 year old might speak

PurpleFlower1983 · 23/02/2025 07:14

You both sound like you need to stay off the booze and grow up a bit. I’m shocked you’re both in your 50s, sounds very immature!

Stravaig · 23/02/2025 07:08

Is this a new NHS aftercare protocol? 'On release from hospital, please ensure immediate binge drinking in a mutually toxic relationship.'

Ask your GP for a general health check, alcohol support, and a counselling referral. You seem to be engaged in multiple destructive behaviours.

Toptotoe · 23/02/2025 07:04

ShamrockShenanigans · 23/02/2025 00:19

I think you both need to lay off the booze to be honest.

i was thinking the same thing.

Gabby82 · 23/02/2025 07:04

He sounds awful. The whole night sounds exhausting.

If he doesn't normally act like this maybe something is on his mind/bothering him and the alcohol has made him 'have it out' without properly addressing what it is? Not really the behaviour of a 50 year old but it happens.

moose62 · 23/02/2025 06:59

You just keep repeating yourself! Leave him or don't leave him. Both of you stop drinking

BobbleHatsRule · 23/02/2025 06:59

OP you sounded really upset last night like the scales had come off your eyes re your DH. I hope morning gives you some clarity to think it all through and make decisions for you. You don't sound happy. He sounds disrespectful and hate filled...don't put up with that. Leave

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 23/02/2025 06:53

Are you sure you're in your 50s, @poonarmme ?
Mosy couples grow out of such pathetic sniping at each other and goading each other.
Argue when sober if you must

Beeloux · 23/02/2025 06:50

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What a nasty thing to say, as are your other comments. Imagine waking up at this time and already being so venomous.

Beeloux · 23/02/2025 06:47

A man in his fifties saying he wouldn’t date someone under 25? He strikes me as a pervert. Why they think an under 25 would want them unless they’re rich.

Also not a very nice thing to say to his wife in her fifties. Sounds like negging to me. Don’t let him make you tread on eggshells

MinnieCoops · 23/02/2025 06:47

Okay so you called him a perve and he said you always say you know something about him but won't say what.

Sounds like he's got a wardrobe full to me.

Hope your hangover isn't too bad.

Bogginsthe3rd · 23/02/2025 06:46

I think you should consider giving up booze op

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FrenchandSaunders · 23/02/2025 06:44

What were you in hospital for? Must have been quite serious to have stayed in there for 3 weeks. When did you get out?

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