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To refuse DH a bottle of wine

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Fore · 22/02/2025 20:55

My DH bought 8 cans of beer and a small bottle of bubbly last night. I've rationed the bubbly so I had some last night and whatever I feel like tonight. By 6pm tonight, DH had drank all his 8 cans. There's a bottle of wine I bought a few months back to keep on our cocktail cabinet as I love the bottle. He hinted he'd like some but then muttered 'hm the bottle that I can't have'. I then heard him say, 'i'm going to have some'. I asked him if he would please not. He has now been sulking with me all evening. AIBU?

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MassiveGoat · 22/02/2025 21:05

Can another bottle not just be picked up/ordered next time someone does the shop? I don't think I would have a problem with someone drinking display wine, it's not like it's a rare trinket that you got while backpacking in along the amazon river. It's just a bottle of wine.

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Fore · 22/02/2025 21:05

Puddleclucks · 22/02/2025 21:03

I think it's fairly silly to have a bottle of wine for show. But in the flip side I imagine he's quite drunk after 8 cans so I'd have no time for him sitting swigging for the rest of the night, unless you enjoy the company of drunk people.

He's currently asleep on the sofa, this (perhaps unreasonable) irritates me too. It feels like this should be time together we're enjoying. After alcohol, this usually happens and he doesn't come to bed until the early hours. Perhaps this is playing in to all this.

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SP2024 · 22/02/2025 21:04

I can’t imagine only having one bottle
of wine in the house 🫣 If you just want the bottle for it to look nice I’m not sure why it needs to have wine inside. But equally he shouldn’t sulk about not having your own wine. Why can’t he go to the shop?

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Fore · 22/02/2025 21:04

Mrsttcno1 · 22/02/2025 21:02

If the bottle is just for show on a cabinet because you like the look of it, does it even matter whether it has the wine inside?

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Yeah good point.

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Puddleclucks · 22/02/2025 21:03

I think it's fairly silly to have a bottle of wine for show. But in the flip side I imagine he's quite drunk after 8 cans so I'd have no time for him sitting swigging for the rest of the night, unless you enjoy the company of drunk people.

Mrsttcno1 · 22/02/2025 21:02

Fore · 22/02/2025 21:01

Because I know be won't replace it. He's done this in the past with things he's broken for example, promised to replace and never does.

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If the bottle is just for show on a cabinet because you like the look of it, does it even matter whether it has the wine inside?

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Fore · 22/02/2025 21:02

MumChp · 22/02/2025 20:59

And wine if it was up to him?

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Yes, I think because he had too many of them last night and didn't feel like he had enough tonight as a result.

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Mrsttcno1 · 22/02/2025 21:01

Quinlan · 22/02/2025 20:59

Why can’t he drink it? Does he have a drinking problem and you’re trying to put in some boundaries? Because it’s ok to have the odd weekend of having a few drinks.

If he isn’t an alcoholic and is normally good about alcohol consumption then what’s the problem? He can buy another bottle. Weird thing to be controlling over.

Agree with this

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Fore · 22/02/2025 21:01

Quinlan · 22/02/2025 20:59

Why can’t he drink it? Does he have a drinking problem and you’re trying to put in some boundaries? Because it’s ok to have the odd weekend of having a few drinks.

If he isn’t an alcoholic and is normally good about alcohol consumption then what’s the problem? He can buy another bottle. Weird thing to be controlling over.

Because I know be won't replace it. He's done this in the past with things he's broken for example, promised to replace and never does.

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Quinlan · 22/02/2025 20:59

Why can’t he drink it? Does he have a drinking problem and you’re trying to put in some boundaries? Because it’s ok to have the odd weekend of having a few drinks.

If he isn’t an alcoholic and is normally good about alcohol consumption then what’s the problem? He can buy another bottle. Weird thing to be controlling over.

MumChp · 22/02/2025 20:59

Fore · 22/02/2025 20:58

He doesn't drink through the week but Friday and Saturday, 6-8 cans is fairly typical.

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And wine if it was up to him?

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 22/02/2025 20:59

😭 why can't he pop to the off license?

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Fore · 22/02/2025 20:58

MumChp · 22/02/2025 20:56

Your husband is an alcoholic or?

He doesn't drink through the week but Friday and Saturday, 6-8 cans is fairly typical.

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MumChp · 22/02/2025 20:56

Your husband is an alcoholic or?