To refuse DH a bottle of wine

100% and those people bought those things themselves

Y'all are missing this titbit. He's broken some of OP's things, said he'll replace them then never does. He wouldn't be having my wine if he's never going to replace it.

It's unopened and stored in the cellar, so I'm sure it's survived 6 months. Will be drinking it for DH's birthday in a couple of weeks.

It’s also completely irrelevant- the situation is an emotional relationship problem, not about him risking harm to his health.

I do wonder how many of the posters criticising a few beers and quoting government health guidelines have sat there on a Saturday evening and consumed a large pizza, ice cream and a bar of chocolate.

champagne doesn’t keep well. Drink it

Not over 2 days. No.

Are you his mother?
I know it's alcohol, but he's an adult, let him get on with it!
Some time ago, I saw a post where a wife wouldn't let her husband have some of "Christmas treats" couple of days earlier.
I don't understand people like this and definitely wouldn't tell my husband what he can and cannot have.
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I wouldn't keep a full bottle of wine as decoration and let it go to waste, but I'm not sure why PPs are convinced wine expires so quickly? OP says she's had it for a few months, I'm sure most wine will keep for at least a year. Maybe she intends to drink it herself or share a glass with her husband when she fancies it, rather than letting him neck it when he's already had a few. I have a bottle of champagne which we didn't end up drinking on my birthday as DH was ill. I wouldn't drink it on my own at home just because I fancied opening a second bottle of wine and that was the only one left in the house.

Sounds like the husband should buy himself a crate of beer for the weekend rather than a couple of 4 packs if he knows he likes a drink.

Ge can go and get his own additional alcohol if the beer wasn't enough for him.

Sounds childish.

Argh quoted wrong post sorry

6-8 cans in one go is a drink problem - your weekly max units in one go? It's called binge drinking and it's bad for you

Buying what you think you want and then needing more is a drink problem

Are you mad?

every pub on the high street is people binge drinking

according to my units app, I binge drank on 23 occasions in 2024- meals out, Xmas, holidays, anniversaries.

you seem to have mixed up the horror of shooting up heroin with binge drinking.

getting drunk is binge drinking. If you think I haven’t seen anyone getting drunk you probably are expecting we all live in monasteries.

we’re children of the 80s. Of course we know about binge drinking. How have you come across so many people who drink alcohol but don’t get drunk?!

edited to add- actually the 23 occasions are weeks where I consumed more than 10 units so my necessarily one occasion although I think it’s likely in at least half those weeks that was the case as I don’t drink on many days of the week

I do buy it for drinking (pretty label is the only real draw for me with buying it, because I don't know much about wine. To me wine is wine, even though I know that's not true for those who know about wine). But I can actually understand someone wanting a collection of pretty bottles, if that's their interest. I don't really see it as a big deal that someone wants to keep a bottle of wine just because they enjoy owning it. The only thing I'd do differently is have a few allowable bottles in the house instead. Or maybe DP can organise that, since he's the one who cares so much.

@farmlife2 But presumably you buy wine or beers for others in the assumption they'll think 'ooh that's a pretty label' and then open it, drink it and whack it in the recycling, not put it unopened on a shelf for the rest of time like an ornament. That's what people (including me) in the thread don't grasp. Buying wine as an ornament, rather than a beverage.

This whole discussion of how much is too much - depends on the person.
I know people that turn into total arse holes after one or two drinks. Yet I also know people that can pack away half a dozen like it's nothing and not even look, feel or act tipsy.
Personally, I fall into the second category. I usually pack away a moderate number of drinks on a friday or saturday evening.
Not because I'm an alcoholic but because it's just a nice way to unwind and spend an evening after a long week at work... I don't have or need to - sometimes I don't.
If my partner started badgering me about it then too bloody right I'd get the hump. I'm a grown adult and can make my own choices, I'm not bothering or causing a problem to anyone, nor causing an inconvenience.
If for whatever reason there was a problem, I hope that my partner would come to me and talk about it like an adult.
Also, sometimes I fall asleep on the sofa too, whether I've had a few drinks or not.
I work my arse off in the week for my family to make sure we have a good home and all the things we need. My partner and kids want for nothing. So yeah, unless I'm being an arse or causing a grievance to anybody too right I'd kick off if someone started telling me what I can and can't do.

Officially, binge drinking is more than 8 units in a single session for men, and 6 for women. Whether or not you agree with that is a different matter, but that’s the official definition.

And I say that as someone who regularly puts away far more than that.

He is an alcoholic. Sorry op.

I don't see the point in having a display bottle of wine with wine in it- just dei k the damn thing and keep the bottle if it's the bottle you like. This doesn't seem to have anything to do with the display bottle though.

To clear up the mystery for you, at least for one explanation anyway, if I buy wine it's for other people. I don't actually know much about wine, so one bottle is much the same as another to me. So I buy from something on the label appealing to me. Either a nice design or a funny name that appeals to my sense of humour (though that tends to be for beer, which I also only buy for other people).

Drs I believe are the number one profession for not only alcohol abuse but drugs as well!

I come into contact with plenty of heavy drinkers. Many are Doctors, GP's and Consultants. There's a lot of do as I say, not as I do out there. For example, one Consultant claims a litre of wine a day is acceptable! Think that is their consumption, not a recommended daily amount. My GP would push all the panic buttons at the suggestion of two bottles of wine a week. Comment is not a reflection of my respect for her.

Is Mumsnet a dry state and no one told me?
This is a bit excessive, surely?
No pun intended.

Five cans of beer in a short amount of time is a lot of drinking.
Enjoying oneself drinking that amount does not change that fact.