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Teachers : what's the worst thing about the job now?

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Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 20:31

I've name changed , but been here many years and teaching for 22 years.
Dreading going back on Monday. For me , the worst bit is the increasingly poor behaviour of students and the continual parental complaints and allegations.
Anyone else dreading it and fancy a solidarity thread?

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MrsHamlet · 22/02/2025 23:48

123teenagerfood · 22/02/2025 23:45

As per usual teachers moning about their workload, some of my family are teachers, straight out of Uni into teaching no idea how the real world works.

What is this imaginary world in which I live and work??

FrippEnos · 22/02/2025 23:48

123teenagerfood · 22/02/2025 23:45

As per usual teachers moning about their workload, some of my family are teachers, straight out of Uni into teaching no idea how the real world works.

Then why open the thread knowing what the title was? Other than to be a GF?

SquashedSquid · 22/02/2025 23:47

WisePearlPoet · 22/02/2025 23:39

I'm absolutely appalled by this thread. My youngest child left school 12 years ago but I'm now caring for my 4 year old reception class granddaughter so back in the education system and have noticed the difference in just 12 years.

Direct email access to teachers was the first thing and then the teacher trying to get kids into school but prevented from doing so by neurotic attention seeking parents all needing a word at 8.20 in the morning.

Don't get me started on the parents bloody WhatsApp group. That's just a frenzy of fretting and worrying about issues that are minor (in my 60 year old eyes). It's micro management of children, their feelings, picking their friends etc. All things a 4/5 year old should be navigating for themselves because it's how they learn and grow and develop their own resilience.

Most shocking was learning that in a Class of 25 children there is one teacher and four TAs because 3 children are non verbal and one is SEN.

I'm full of admiration for teachers. I'm still in awe of how a child is taught to read and write. Her little hand writing her own name and sounding out phonics. It's miraculous and we have only done one full term.

Keep going if you can, we need you.

Those are rookie numbers 😁 In myy last class of 33, 19 had EHCPs and another 5 had parents that were pushing for them. I had five TAs, four were 1-2-1s due to one disability and 3 severe behavioural issues. In that class were a couple of runners, a child who would harm themselves with anything they could get hold of if you took your eyes off them for more than a split second, one that would do the same but to other people, one whose speciality was spitting directly into the faces of staff, and one who enjoyed hurling chairs and tables at the windows and other children.

They were 7-8 year olds.

That was a fun year.

Itdoesntmatteranyway · 22/02/2025 23:47

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And you can report the post, I don’t care, you can still fuck off

adviceneeded1990 · 22/02/2025 23:47

123teenagerfood · 22/02/2025 23:45

As per usual teachers moning about their workload, some of my family are teachers, straight out of Uni into teaching no idea how the real world works.

People who make comments like this are generally the people who would be rocking back and forth in a corner by lunchtime should they decide to try teaching for a day 🤣

MrsHamlet · 22/02/2025 23:47

Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 23:41

Be careful, with some of our parents, you could be accused of threatening Bob or being unprofessional

When Bob was in y8, mummy said I picked on him because I kept putting him in detention for not doing homework, which is the policy. I have it in writing that he's not to get detentions.

Okay, mum and head of year, as you wish.

Bob starts his GCSEs soon, Mum is now very worried. I have resisted pointing out that the chickens are coming home to roost.

If Bob bothers to do his work, I mark it. If he asks for help, I give it. I offer help. I am totally professional.

But he will pass or fail as a consequence of his choices.

Em1ly2023 · 22/02/2025 23:47

Showercap22 · 22/02/2025 22:05

Behaviour and parents.

Am leaving at the end of term. Had enough.

Are you leaving teaching completely or just your school?

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baklava · 22/02/2025 23:46

Workload, behaviour, lack of parental support. I gave a child a detention for drinking in the science lab after being asked not to. It’s basic safety. Parent got in touch wanting my side of the story. Child told them he didn’t have a drink… apparently a few sips doesn’t count. Another child, drinking in science lab after having been allowed out to have a drink 10 minutes earlier. Given a detention. Parent gets in touch and I am told that the child will not be coming to the detention… as we only had books out and not chemicals the parents view was that it was not an issue. As the teacher I am ultimately responsible for the safety of all the children in the lab. Happy to say I’m not out of teaching.

123teenagerfood · 22/02/2025 23:45

As per usual teachers moning about their workload, some of my family are teachers, straight out of Uni into teaching no idea how the real world works.

FrippEnos · 22/02/2025 23:45

MrsHamlet · 22/02/2025 23:33

This absolute fuckwittery.

Bob is going to fail his GCSEs because he's choosing to communicate that he's an absolute asshat in numerous ways. I have been communicating this up the line since the start of year ten.

No I will not give up my breaks and lunchtimes to "support him". He can try paying attention and doing the work.

No I can't "give him some revision materials". He has been given a gazillion and done fuck all with them.

My behaviour should now be communicating that failing his GCSEs is his choice.

Don't forget that come September once the results are in (not quite fully cos the SLT haven't had time to fiddle with them yet for the website),
You will have to write a report on what you did for Bob and his mates that fucked up their grades and tried to fuck up others grades, to prove that you actually did what you said that you did so that you don't get put on an improvement plan.

adviceneeded1990 · 22/02/2025 23:45

Screens, or more to the point the impact of screens on behaviour, focus and concentration.

Complete lack of resilience from both pupils and parents.

SquashedSquid · 22/02/2025 23:42

The parents, without a doubt. From whom stems the behavioural issues.

What breaks me the most is the ones who want to be in school, they want to learn, they enjoy learning and are desparate for more, but they can't learn because of the ridiculously high levels of SEN and behaviour issues.

Teaching now is 80% crowd control, 19% dealing with parents and 1% actually teaching.

Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 23:42

WisePearlPoet · 22/02/2025 23:39

I'm absolutely appalled by this thread. My youngest child left school 12 years ago but I'm now caring for my 4 year old reception class granddaughter so back in the education system and have noticed the difference in just 12 years.

Direct email access to teachers was the first thing and then the teacher trying to get kids into school but prevented from doing so by neurotic attention seeking parents all needing a word at 8.20 in the morning.

Don't get me started on the parents bloody WhatsApp group. That's just a frenzy of fretting and worrying about issues that are minor (in my 60 year old eyes). It's micro management of children, their feelings, picking their friends etc. All things a 4/5 year old should be navigating for themselves because it's how they learn and grow and develop their own resilience.

Most shocking was learning that in a Class of 25 children there is one teacher and four TAs because 3 children are non verbal and one is SEN.

I'm full of admiration for teachers. I'm still in awe of how a child is taught to read and write. Her little hand writing her own name and sounding out phonics. It's miraculous and we have only done one full term.

Keep going if you can, we need you.

Micro managing and fretting sums it up. Where has the eye rolling and "bloody kids" vibe gone with parents?

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Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 23:41

MrsHamlet · 22/02/2025 23:39

Bob is very welcome to do one... but no one wants Bob.

I have a reputation for being a Bob whisperer. My strategy is to absolutely unequivocally communicate that I can and will let them fail. Or they can work with me.

Be careful, with some of our parents, you could be accused of threatening Bob or being unprofessional

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Itdoesntmatteranyway · 22/02/2025 23:41

24 years in. Secondary ebac subject.
I agree behaviour.
And I’m lucky. In an inner city school with high deprivation, but an excellent SLT, lots of support, not a blame culture etc. So the behaviour is more a sad thing, because it’s not getting any better and there not a lot we can do, rather than ‘I’m getting blamed for the behaviour’ like some shit shows I’ve worked in.

Greywhippet · 22/02/2025 23:40

Love teaching but hate ‘edutwitter’ culture, many MATs (scandals waiting to happen) and having to listen to self styled gurus (usually idiots) who are being paid for by said MATs

Em1ly2023 · 22/02/2025 23:40

lavenderlou · 22/02/2025 22:01

I will say though that I teach in a primary school in an area with a lot of deprivation and we rarely have any difficulties with parents. There are many challenges and high levels of poverty which affect the pupils but we don't get endless complaints and requests from parents.

What’s your overall experience teaching in such an area?

MrsHamlet · 22/02/2025 23:39

Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 23:35

Don't forget that if you don't show willing, you'll be picking on Bob and he'll likely be moved to another class, where the parents can start again and waste another teachers time... before that one starts picking on Bob as well....

Bob is very welcome to do one... but no one wants Bob.

I have a reputation for being a Bob whisperer. My strategy is to absolutely unequivocally communicate that I can and will let them fail. Or they can work with me.

WisePearlPoet · 22/02/2025 23:39

I'm absolutely appalled by this thread. My youngest child left school 12 years ago but I'm now caring for my 4 year old reception class granddaughter so back in the education system and have noticed the difference in just 12 years.

Direct email access to teachers was the first thing and then the teacher trying to get kids into school but prevented from doing so by neurotic attention seeking parents all needing a word at 8.20 in the morning.

Don't get me started on the parents bloody WhatsApp group. That's just a frenzy of fretting and worrying about issues that are minor (in my 60 year old eyes). It's micro management of children, their feelings, picking their friends etc. All things a 4/5 year old should be navigating for themselves because it's how they learn and grow and develop their own resilience.

Most shocking was learning that in a Class of 25 children there is one teacher and four TAs because 3 children are non verbal and one is SEN.

I'm full of admiration for teachers. I'm still in awe of how a child is taught to read and write. Her little hand writing her own name and sounding out phonics. It's miraculous and we have only done one full term.

Keep going if you can, we need you.

Em1ly2023 · 22/02/2025 23:38

Lifeisnoteasy84 · 22/02/2025 21:53

Don't teachers get something like 13 weeks annual leave per annum? So 9 weeks more than most full time employees. So you dread actually returning from school holidays to do your job? Strange thread.

If anyone is this stressed / overwhelmed / discouraged by their work, then their annual leave entitlements are irrelevant…🫤

Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 23:36

Pissoffyouall · 22/02/2025 23:32

Wiggleyfingers
I fully sympathise, but can I just say the insecurity is from that we don't understand how the child is doing. Results of assessments aren't shared, there is no subjective data sent home that schools have plenty of, and in the two meetings we are given vague reports with no indication of how they are actually doing. Or told okay or well - what does it actually mean?? There is no context well okay or welll excelling or well enough or well for themselves or well as in top of class/year? Is it A,B,C,or D or what percentile are they? Or where they are in age/months? This would have been a lot more comprehensive but schools don't send any such data home (because then parents ask questions I guess) and it causes anxiety and indirect questions and extra workload, less directly. And speculating

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How old is your child?

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Wowse · 22/02/2025 23:35

I've been teaching a core subject for 15 years and still love it.

I do think the training for new teachers seems inadequate and a small minority of my colleagues only want to teach the high achieving and compliant ones.

I think better training and more SEN training would help all teachers.

Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 23:35

MrsHamlet · 22/02/2025 23:33

This absolute fuckwittery.

Bob is going to fail his GCSEs because he's choosing to communicate that he's an absolute asshat in numerous ways. I have been communicating this up the line since the start of year ten.

No I will not give up my breaks and lunchtimes to "support him". He can try paying attention and doing the work.

No I can't "give him some revision materials". He has been given a gazillion and done fuck all with them.

My behaviour should now be communicating that failing his GCSEs is his choice.

Don't forget that if you don't show willing, you'll be picking on Bob and he'll likely be moved to another class, where the parents can start again and waste another teachers time... before that one starts picking on Bob as well....

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MrsHamlet · 22/02/2025 23:33

Snoopdoggydog123 · 22/02/2025 22:45

"All behaviour is communication"

🤣🤣

This absolute fuckwittery.

Bob is going to fail his GCSEs because he's choosing to communicate that he's an absolute asshat in numerous ways. I have been communicating this up the line since the start of year ten.

No I will not give up my breaks and lunchtimes to "support him". He can try paying attention and doing the work.

No I can't "give him some revision materials". He has been given a gazillion and done fuck all with them.

My behaviour should now be communicating that failing his GCSEs is his choice.