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Teachers : what's the worst thing about the job now?

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Floursacktabletop · 22/02/2025 20:31

I've name changed , but been here many years and teaching for 22 years.
Dreading going back on Monday. For me , the worst bit is the increasingly poor behaviour of students and the continual parental complaints and allegations.
Anyone else dreading it and fancy a solidarity thread?

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oakleaffy · 23/02/2025 00:40

adviceneeded1990 · 22/02/2025 23:47

People who make comments like this are generally the people who would be rocking back and forth in a corner by lunchtime should they decide to try teaching for a day 🤣

Absolutely true.

They'd be ''moning'' alright, they wouldn't have a clue how to manage a class.
Good teachers are highly skilled and talented- and all power to them.

It's a very hard job, much harder than in mum's day- She used to to teach juniors in a tough area of London, before moving to West London but support from parents was much stronger- The kids generally behaved well, { they didn't want to get into trouble with their parents} But discipline at home seems to have fallen off a cliff. {Discipline isn't about physical punishment , but boundaries and consequences.

OneWildNightWithJBJ · 23/02/2025 00:36

I’m in a SEND school and I’d say parents. The things they’re asking for are unbelievable and there’s little thanks for doing stuff that’s not even part of my job.

In mainstream, I would have said behaviour and for both mainstream and special, ridiculous and pointless paperwork. Hardly any of it benefits the children. So pointless.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 23/02/2025 00:31

Em1ly2023 · 23/02/2025 00:18

Please encourage her to get help, or this will take an even worse toll on her MH. Has she escalated it at the school?

She hasn't escalated it as she feels it's her fault they don't respect or listen to her. I did advise her to seek counselling which she was very, very open to and said she would. I think she needs to share her problems with a professional and practice assertiveness with students/parents. She said she feels overwhelmed and sometimes doesn't have the energy to manage it all. She is a hardworking but gentle by nature.

GavlarShmavlar · 23/02/2025 00:30

I left in the summer after 25 years and haven't regretted it for a second. I was SLT in a secondary school and, as with a PP, desperately frustrated by the layer above me not having a clue about how to run a school. I was an Assistant Head- the worst position because teachers and middle leaders think you should be able to change/improve things whilst the layer above thwarts you at every turn. I'm now tutoring and running multiple projects on a self employed basis.

Untroddenpeaks · 23/02/2025 00:22

This is probably not a place for parents to contribute but as a parent trying to work with the school to combat ‘emotinally based school refusal’ that involves a fair amount of pure defiance, I’d say schools really have their hands tied in enforcing consistent discipline when so many pupils have additional needs and the input of outside agencies such as camhs, who have perhaps more compassionate approaches and more forgiving strategies. It may be normal for a school to suggest isolation for example as a sanction for a student that truants a lesson, but in the case of ebsa this isn’t considered an optimum solution by outside professionals involved . Difficult for teachers when one student is to be sent to isolation and another is to be sent to a nurture room with beanbags and fairylights for avoiding lessons.

everychildmatters · 23/02/2025 00:21

Everything.
Left last December after 20 years a primary teacher.
Best. Decision. Ever.
No idea why I'd didn't do it sooner!

baklava · 23/02/2025 00:21

Now out of teaching

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:21

converseandjeans · 22/02/2025 22:49

Corridor behaviour - pushing & shoving. It’s embarrassing when I have a visitor in.

Students gaslighting me & trying to convince me that they weren't talking (I saw their mouth moving), they weren't passing notes (I confiscated it but they sneaked to my cupboard to take it back) they didn't have their phone out (despite me seeing it) & then argue the toss about getting a detention for these things.

Students going to complain to head of year if they get a level or detention. Sometimes they are 'desperate for the loo' & will kick up a huge fuss until you let them go & instead they go & complain!

Parents - you only need to read a few threads on here to comprehend the problem.

The pressure to ensure every SEN issue is supported. It’s hard to remember them all when you teach about 300 kids. There were very few 24 years ago & now a third of the class has some sort of extra need. It’s hard to remember them all!

I do still enjoy being with teenagers though. Never a dull moment Smile

I cant tell you how much I admire teachers and their patients? Do we know the reason for so much SEN these days?

Em1ly2023 · 23/02/2025 00:18

BoundaryGirl3939 · 23/02/2025 00:00

My beautiful and gentle natured adult teacher friend is being bullied by a particular group of boys she tries to teach. She confided in me recently. She feels so demoralised and humiliated. She really is a hard worker but feels ganged up on and too embarrassed to ask for help.

Please encourage her to get help, or this will take an even worse toll on her MH. Has she escalated it at the school?

caringcarer · 23/02/2025 00:18

I was a secondary teacher for over 20 years. I had mostly GCSE and A level groups but some year 8 and 9. I found DC's concentration was often poor. Many more DC with neuro diversity in mainstream classes without TA's. The marking workload was heavy for me, reports, prep of lessons each time the curriculum changed and the general worry about some of the DC. I had more than one 17 year old boy who was homeless and sofa surfed with various friends, many 16 and 17 year olds who had part time jobs that insisted they work additional hours to their contract hours, an anorexic student and often depressed students. Numerous DC with ADHD some who were medicated and some who were not. I retired early at 56. I felt drained not so much from the teaching but by worrying about the students and the way some of them lived.

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:15

Annaannaannab · 22/02/2025 22:36

I qualified at the end of 2021. My dream , sacrificed years of my life studying and training . I’m already out .

I have never been so depressed , I almost had a breakdown - and that is not an exaggeration, one day I just walked in and realised I couldn’t take another day , and I walked out. If I hadn’t , I dread to think what would happen. The pressure , the micromanaging, the lack of respect, the workload, the complete hopelessness you feel when you realise the system is designed to impress ofsted not do the best for the children . The worst - especially as a mother of a SEN child - the lack of support for SEN. I was directly told to stop what I had implemented for a SEN child and focus instead on the other children because “ he’s never going to make it “ .

Im now in a different role - still education but adults , disabilities and the best part… no ofsted. I’m excited to go back on Monday because I absolutely love my job now. Yet when I was in teaching I’m not being dramatic when I say I had lay in bed many Sunday nights hoping to have a car crash on the way into work so I wouldn’t have to go in .

I'm so sorry to hear you experienced this. What is it they have to do for Ofsted that isnt necesaarily good for the children?

FrippEnos · 23/02/2025 00:12

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:07

What is this motivation from thr past government to convert everything into academies? Why were they doing it?

It reduces government costs and removes the governments responsibility, whilst allowing them to bitch about teachers and education.

Ablondiebutagoody · 23/02/2025 00:11

FrippEnos · 23/02/2025 00:00

Its because there are too many pupils in the class, Limited time, Your lucky if the child has a TA, ECHP or not, 1-2-1 or not.
There are also another 6 - 10 pupils with with varying SEND in the class, some of which clash with each other,
The fiddler cannot be put next the child that needs silence and focus, or the child that calls out, the child that calls out cannot be sat next to the child with tics, the child with tics cannot be sat next to the child with the behavioural issues, and they need to be sat next to the teacher. Throw in another couple that have to have a the background on the whiteboard a different colour due to dyslexia and the vision impaired pupil that needs to be at the front and the child with hearing issues.

it cannot be done with the resources available, size of the room etc.

Throw in 2 that couldn't read or write (in year 6), another smashing the place up and several who would cry anytime they had to work independently and that sounds like my last class at the time I quit. 1 TA shared across 3 classes in the year. Its nothing to do with lacking empathy for SEN. It's that pretending a classroom can function that way is failing everyone.

FrippEnos · 23/02/2025 00:10

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:04

Do we know why there are no textbooks used any more? Why is it all worksheets instead?

A textbook costs between £25 - £30, a class set multiple by 35 (just to be safe, and I have seen classes at 36 - 38 pupils) for a year group multiply by 5 (on average)

a work sheet = cost of printing.

Ihopeithinkiknow · 23/02/2025 00:10

@Floursacktabletop who can I complain to please?
I was sat here happily reading then you mentioned that story about the ghost, how the hell am I supposed to sleep tonight after that very scary post.

Haha I couldn't be a teacher because I would lose my rag if some cocky teenager tried being a complete twat with me.
I was a nightmare at school and I bet a few of the teachers thought about punching me on a daily basis

Ziggy30 · 23/02/2025 00:09

EYFS and KS1 leader as well as SENDCo

The majority of our parents across the school are wonderful. Some of their complaints I have dealt with I can’t say I disagree with. At the end of the day they want what’s best for their children.

I mostly love my job. My three worst parts of the job…

-Bitterness and bitchiness among other staff (especially with such a small staff body).
-How scripted the job is.
-How we have to beg, borrow and steal funding, resources, training to deal with the significant issues and number of SEND cases in a mainstream setting. Yet a child we recently secured a specialist setting for were receiving £100,000 + to take them. But we were not even given the funding to cover his 1:1. Let alone the training of staff and specialist equipment and resources needed!

Rant over 🙃

FuzzyYellowChicken · 23/02/2025 00:08

Quite eye opening.
I couldn't be a teacher so I respect anyone who is.
Is the behaviour actually any worse? I remember some horrific stuff when I was at secondary. Is the punishment just not as harsh now so behaviour trickier to deal with??
The real bad kids just used to disappear (excluded). I guess that's not as easy now?
Also interesting how most mention parents? I'm so wary as a parent not to annoy the teachers asking them for help or making them aware of stuff. I rarely do. But whenever you raise stuff with other mums (or on here) everyone always says "speak to the teacher" "ask school for help" "school should be able to provide X y and z" so it's tricky to know what to do as a parent

Coffeeteasugar · 23/02/2025 00:08

Standing by everyday while children who need help are not getting it and feeling helpless as I cannot meet their needs. I see them floundering, beginning to hate school at 7 and 8 when it should be so exciting and feeling like failures when it’s the govt and system that are failing them.

oakleaffy · 23/02/2025 00:07

Stardust286 · 22/02/2025 20:47

Not teacher but SEN teaching assistant. Behaviour! Absolutely no respect for adults, I get told daily by the child I'm working with 1:1 to go away, shut up, rolls his eyes when i remind him of consequences of bad behavior. He raises his fist at me, won't listen, refuses to accept my help. It's relentless

Edited

Sounds awful. A woman I knew who loved children thought TA would be a nice job for her due to the hours...She was physically assaulted so badly she had to quit. Her husband said it just wasn't worth it.
People aren't paid enough to be physically assaulted by children.

FrippEnos · 23/02/2025 00:07

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:02

What causes so many SEN? Some teachers say 20%-50% of the class?
Is it pupils who in the past would have gone into special schools or something else?

The closure of SEND schools has had an impact on the level of pupils with a SEND.
Part of the issue is "inclusive education" it was never meant to be for all children, its was supposed to be for those with disabilities that should never excluded them in the first place. But the government saw it as a chance to reduce spending on education and now schools cannot cope with the numbers that are coming through.
And remember that the requirements/thresholds to get extra funding for pupils with SEND was raised, dropping that amount of funding that schools had available.

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:07

IDoWhateverItTakes · 22/02/2025 22:15

Academies - watching the heavy multi-layers of execs, SLT and other non-teaching staff at the top syphon off so much money when we are on our knees staffing and support-staffing wise where we need it: with the children.

What is this motivation from thr past government to convert everything into academies? Why were they doing it?

SquashedSquid · 23/02/2025 00:05

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:04

Do we know why there are no textbooks used any more? Why is it all worksheets instead?

They cost a fortune, we don't have the budget for them and if we did, they'd be destroyed within hours.

Pissoffyouall · 23/02/2025 00:04

pimplebum · 22/02/2025 22:25

Parents threaten legal and sometimes want to end your career without getting the facts first
causes so much stress

workload - why are thousands of English teachers making Macbeth worksheets when this could be centrally organised?

send , no ed psychs available not resources if a child is diagnosed

Do we know why there are no textbooks used any more? Why is it all worksheets instead?

Itdoesntmatteranyway · 23/02/2025 00:03

Wowse · 22/02/2025 23:52

Read the thread.

You read the bloody thread.
in fact I’ll explain simply, in words you might understand.
One reason teaching is hard is because there are more SEN needs and not enough support.
And teachers, who contrary to popular belief went into teaching to help kids (and not to get long holidays / finish at 3 / because they’ve never left school / whatever other shite is said) actually feel bad because they can’t support those kids, while successfully teaching the other kids; therefore the SEN needs make the job hard.
Do you get it now?

SquashedSquid · 23/02/2025 00:03

Wowse · 22/02/2025 23:56

Again, read the thread.

I have. What's your point, other than being repetitive?

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