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To think random man got his just deserts to his unsolicited comments today?

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Weartherose · 22/02/2025 15:21

I'm wearing a sports top today to indicate support for a match later today.

Was at the supermarket today and this man, clocked my shirt rolled his eyes and riffed off the Name Three Songs comment and said "I bet you can't name 3 players". So I asked him if he was at the stadium (200 miles away) for momentous match a fortnight ago when X Y and Z scored?

He had the grace to look a bit abashed.

Why do some folk assume you are not fans when you wear band/location/ten shirts? Is it just to show off their superior knowledge?

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Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 17:41

DopeyS · 22/02/2025 16:15

Do you mean this friendly internet search provider?

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When I googled it, it gave me the desserts option as a phrase- don't blame me- blame Google 😂

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 22/02/2025 17:41

oakleaffy · 22/02/2025 15:45

''In this warre Alexander was made Capitayne of one of the battailles, wherein his noble hert and courage did well apeare, specially when it came to the stroke of the fight, for there he acquited him self so valiauntly yt he semed not inferiour vnto his father, nor to any man els, but by moste iuste desert got the honour of the victory.''
— Quintus Curtius (trans. by John Brende), The history of Quintus Curcius, 1553

The phrase comes from the French verb “deserver” — with only one S — which means “serve well”. (Or so Google tells me).

Couldnt care less about the football shirt - T shirts with slogans/bands/sports seem to invite comments whoever's wearing them

Mightymoog · 22/02/2025 17:40

ItGhoul · 22/02/2025 16:47

Are you expecting some sort of medal?

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no, just an observation

FlyingTigger · 22/02/2025 17:38

niadainud · 22/02/2025 16:09

No doubt you also think it's "another thing coming"...

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Thank you for teaching me something new 😭

ohyesido · 22/02/2025 17:32

It's an excuse to start a conversation rather than a micro aggression isn't it?

HouseAshamed · 22/02/2025 17:32

Surely you mean 'Myself and MIL are having issues',@RobinHeartella .

SlashBeef · 22/02/2025 17:32

People being confidently wrong gives me much more pleasure than it should 🙈

TitusMoan · 22/02/2025 17:32

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/02/2025 15:26

It’s desserts not deserts.

Wrong

Miaowzabella · 22/02/2025 17:30

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 15:51

It's just desserts! Can't believe how many people have got it wrong (and yes auto correct does do it) 😂
Desert- eg Sahara
Dessert- eg trifle

If you don't believe me just use your friendly Internet search provider 😊

No, it's 'just deserts' i.e.what you justly deserve. Puddings have nothing to do with it.

IButtleSir · 22/02/2025 17:29

Why do some folk assume you are not fans when you wear band/location/ten shirts?

Because he's a man and you're a woman. It really is as simple as that. He would never, in a million years, have said it to a man.

Well done for putting him in his place.

Also, thank you to everyone on this thread for teaching me that 'just deserts' is correct!

maudelovesharold · 22/02/2025 17:28

I think it appears to be one of those phrases that has morphed over time

Like the awful (and incorrect) ‘you’ve got another thing coming’?

Othermentions · 22/02/2025 17:28

Told Mr Clownface if he'd not been such a cunt he could have come for a pint with the band. I

im sure the band would have just loved this. A random person that someone the drummer was shagging invited to join them for a drink!

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 22/02/2025 17:26

JudgeBread · 22/02/2025 16:51

I mean sure. As it happens I did know all their songs, but my smugness came from denying the stupid little man the opportunity to meet a band he loved, not from proving him wrong which wouldn't have been nearly as satisfying.

But by all means carry on nitpicking pointless elements of what was supposed to be a light-hearted anecdote, I'm sure it brings you great fulfillment in your life.

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It absolutely does.

Spirallingdownwards · 22/02/2025 17:24

I am with you @Weartherose . I also suspect he wouldn't have said it to a male fan wearing the team shirt either.

RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 17:24

Hehe I've been "corrected" so many times now with the spelling of just deserts, I'm wondering if op was just trying to smoke out the Muphry's Law types with this thread after all.

I might start a thread "issues between my MIL and me" and sit back and watch the finger waggers insist "it's between MIL and I, just look it up!"

(But, I won't, obviously. Just had no idea how much quoting I'd be in for, after commenting on page 1 haha)

fluffiphlox · 22/02/2025 17:23

For those who don’t know, it is ‘deserts’ because it is something the person ’deserves’.

PullTheBricksDown · 22/02/2025 17:22

Good for you. I take it he didn't actually apologise for his rudeness though?

PuppyMonkey · 22/02/2025 17:21

Just hear to see how many threads @DadDadDad finds about “another think coming” - I’m putting my money on 200 from the last month alone. Grin

ProfessionalPirate · 22/02/2025 17:19

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 15:56

I did indeed 😂 and despite the miriam-Webster official definition I think it appears to be one of those phrases that has morphed over time so I think we're both right 😂

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You wish 😂

The only use of ‘Just Desserts’ in the English language is as a punny name for a pastry shop

PersephonePitstop · 22/02/2025 17:19

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/02/2025 17:04

She didn't spell it right. She meant desserts.

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Another one 🙄

CustardySergeant · 22/02/2025 17:14

samarrange "I was taught "just deserts", but (a) logically it ought to be "just desserts"

No, because the meaning refers to what is deserved, and has nothing to do with any kind of dessert, so I don't understand why you say that logically it should be dessert.

WooleyMunky · 22/02/2025 17:13

Pleasepeas · 22/02/2025 15:22

Did everyone stop and cheer? Like a movie??

Don't you mean a film?

HouseAshamed · 22/02/2025 17:11

@samarrange , your logic seems illogical.

HellonHeels · 22/02/2025 17:09

CustardySergeant · 22/02/2025 15:32

No it isn't. It is pronounced like desserts but spelled deserts - as in what is deserved not as in deserts such as the Sahara.

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I am filled with happiness that a debate on "desserts" has been resolved by a poster with the username @CustardySergeant ❤️

samarrange · 22/02/2025 17:09

StormInaDcup99 · 22/02/2025 16:02

It actually is 'just deserts'

I only found this out recently and always thought it was desserts!

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I was taught "just deserts", but (a) logically it ought to be "just desserts" and (b) while Google finds 369,000 hits for the "correct" version ("deserts"), it has 1.94 million for the "wrong" one ("desserts").

A few years ago I checked "chaise longue" versus the appalling "chaise lounge" and "lounge" was actually winning, but I'm pleased to see that today "chaise longue" is winning by 16.8 million to 9.71 million.