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To think random man got his just deserts to his unsolicited comments today?

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Weartherose · 22/02/2025 15:21

I'm wearing a sports top today to indicate support for a match later today.

Was at the supermarket today and this man, clocked my shirt rolled his eyes and riffed off the Name Three Songs comment and said "I bet you can't name 3 players". So I asked him if he was at the stadium (200 miles away) for momentous match a fortnight ago when X Y and Z scored?

He had the grace to look a bit abashed.

Why do some folk assume you are not fans when you wear band/location/ten shirts? Is it just to show off their superior knowledge?

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RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 18:45

AngelicKaty · 22/02/2025 18:08

@PurpleFlower1983 @Wavescrashingonthebeach @Cattery
NO! It's deserts, not desserts. The word "desert" in this phrase comes from the Latin word dēservīre, which means "to serve according to merit" i.e. to deserve. It has nothing to do with puddings! 🙄

Fun fact, dessert actually comes from the same etymological starting point. It's something you literally serve up, whereas the just deserts are what you're metaphorically served up.

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 18:44

Weartherose · 22/02/2025 15:35

It's just the assumption that the wearers a fairweather fans that is irksome. Happy to have a chat about the obvious common interest.

when the approach is "your knowledge is lesser" it's only conducive to me thinking "you're a special twat".

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Thinking that it actually matters whether they know the band or team matters in the first place is pretty twatty too.

RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 18:40

HouseAshamed · 22/02/2025 17:32

Surely you mean 'Myself and MIL are having issues',@RobinHeartella .

[Screams and melts like the wicked witch of the west]

Ihopeithinkiknow · 22/02/2025 18:35

JHound · 22/02/2025 16:58

It’s always men and they only do this to women.

I had a woman tell me that I'm not a real fan of Oasis because I have never seen them live and I can still remember her stood there all smug rolling her eyes and it still bothers me years later because I have come up with some good responses haha,we were stood outside a club and I can't believe grown adults think like this never mind say it.
I hate all this fake fan bullshit it's pathetic and I hope she didn't get tickets to see them this year as punishment but I did so at least I will become a real fan at last lol

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/02/2025 18:28

Brefugee · 22/02/2025 17:51

I always say: Set The Controls For The Heatmrt of the Sun, Several Species of Small Furry Animal Gathered Together in a Cave and Grooving it With A Pict and Mother

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You'd get on very well with my husband. I imagine you are also an aficionado of another prog rock band's early stages - The Green Manalishi (With the Two Prong Crown) is one of his favourites from that time.

Signed,Saint Gasp0de of W0nderD0g

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/02/2025 18:22

DadDadDad · 22/02/2025 18:15

I've also managed to find the example during the 2015 election campaign, when David Cameron used the phrase, and one news site quotes it as "another thing" and a different news site quotes it as "another think". I wonder which he actually said? (It was BBC and Mail Online respectively - I've got the links).

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This probably just indicates that people hear what they expect to hear rather than what was said, and report it that way?

ooh, Simon and Garfunkel: "still a man he hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest". Mmm.

peudhrk · 22/02/2025 18:20

Did everyone stop and cheer? Like a movie??

Grin

Indeed.

NetZeroZealot · 22/02/2025 18:19

I am gobsmacked to learn I’ve been spelling just deserts wrong my entire life!

DadDadDad · 22/02/2025 18:15

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/02/2025 18:10

I was particularly fond of the post about this which suggested that the original phrase was not (as we had supposed)

"If you think that you've got another think coming"
but rather
"If you thing that you've got another thing coming".

I suppose some people must have been thinging rather than thinking since the early1900s. I wonder what such folk as HW Fowler and AP Herbert thinged about that...

(I can't find that post on that thread. Bah.)

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I've also managed to find the example during the 2015 election campaign, when David Cameron used the phrase, and one news site quotes it as "another thing" and a different news site quotes it as "another think". I wonder which he actually said? (It was BBC and Mail Online respectively - I've got the links).

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/02/2025 18:10

DadDadDad · 22/02/2025 16:31

Well, "another thing coming" has been in use since early 1900s, but you are right that "think" probably came first. I kept a note of a whole thread where this got argued about years ago - I'll see if I can find it...

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I was particularly fond of the post about this which suggested that the original phrase was not (as we had supposed)

"If you think that you've got another think coming"
but rather
"If you thing that you've got another thing coming".

I suppose some people must have been thinging rather than thinking since the early1900s. I wonder what such folk as HW Fowler and AP Herbert thinged about that...

(I can't find that post on that thread. Bah.)

SerafinasGoose · 22/02/2025 18:10

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/02/2025 15:26

It’s desserts not deserts.

Oh, dear. No, it isn't.

AngelicKaty · 22/02/2025 18:08

@PurpleFlower1983 @Wavescrashingonthebeach @Cattery
NO! It's deserts, not desserts. The word "desert" in this phrase comes from the Latin word dēservīre, which means "to serve according to merit" i.e. to deserve. It has nothing to do with puddings! 🙄

AmyDudley · 22/02/2025 17:55

Pleasepeas · 22/02/2025 15:22

Did everyone stop and cheer? Like a movie??

This type of comment is getting a bit tedious now, every time someone says they called a man out on his misogyny. In fact I find the 'did everyone cheer' comments as boring and misogynistic as the 'can you name 3 players' type of comments.
I grew up in the 70s, when exist comments were rife and sexual harrasment at ork and socially wa common place. I hope men have changed a bit since then, but obviously there are still some dinosaurs left. But thank God women feel empowered to call this kind of shit out nowadays, despite the fact that some other women want to put them down for doing so.
Of course people don;t cheer and OP isn't trying to claim she is some kind of heroine or 'stealth boasting' or whatever name the cool girls of MN are claiming is the ultimate sin these days.

I'm cheering you OP, just like in the movies, good on you ! Flowers

ohyesido · 22/02/2025 17:52

I like to wear my AC/DC beanie in the hope that someone asks me if I can name 3 songs. Then I can dazzle them with my monologue of the band's history from inception

Brefugee · 22/02/2025 17:51

DearDeadrie · 22/02/2025 16:02

I was wearing a pink floyd t-shirt and I got the 3 questions so I answered
See emily play
Take up thy stethoscope and walk
Lucifer sam
Apparently they are not pink floyd songs according to this 60 year old something man
I told him they are off their debut album and yup Google it and walked off, as I was on my way to the bar another bloke shouted out " piper at the gates of dawn"

I always say: Set The Controls For The Heatmrt of the Sun, Several Species of Small Furry Animal Gathered Together in a Cave and Grooving it With A Pict and Mother

pimplebum · 22/02/2025 17:50

I’ve been bought sport tops by my partner but now absolutely nothing of the sport

I don’t need to prove anything to anyone

I have a top with a french word on it but I’m not French. , not a fan of France can’t name French things

BitOutOfPractice · 22/02/2025 17:50

Mightymoog · 22/02/2025 16:33

makes me cringe very hard if i see a grown up wearing a football top.

Just out of interest, why? I’m wearing one now

Cookiesandcandies · 22/02/2025 17:48

RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 17:24

Hehe I've been "corrected" so many times now with the spelling of just deserts, I'm wondering if op was just trying to smoke out the Muphry's Law types with this thread after all.

I might start a thread "issues between my MIL and me" and sit back and watch the finger waggers insist "it's between MIL and I, just look it up!"

(But, I won't, obviously. Just had no idea how much quoting I'd be in for, after commenting on page 1 haha)

Post about an issue between MIL and myself, and everyone will know that you're very eloquent and intelligent ;)

NotTheDebtDoctorWithTheHungryScalpel · 22/02/2025 17:46

crankytoes · 22/02/2025 17:42

What sort of dinosaur? What noise? How loud ? 😂

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Usually a very loud screechy pterodactyl kind of sound, she has also been known to roar occassionally though 🤣

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 17:46

maudelovesharold · 22/02/2025 17:28

I think it appears to be one of those phrases that has morphed over time

Like the awful (and incorrect) ‘you’ve got another thing coming’?

Oh God now that one is just heinous, no, I'm not that bad! Yet.

DadDadDad · 22/02/2025 17:44

PuppyMonkey · 22/02/2025 17:21

Just hear to see how many threads @DadDadDad finds about “another think coming” - I’m putting my money on 200 from the last month alone. Grin

The one I had noted was from a few years ago if you are really interested... https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4704503-another-think-coming-or-another-thing-coming-aibu-to-suggest-we-accept-both

There was one many years before that where it was a husband and wife argument, and all the early posters came on in favour of "thing" before it really kicked off, but I'm not sure my search skills are up to finding it.

ohyesido · 22/02/2025 17:44

Both deserts and desserts work in context and structure so everyone can win

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 17:44

DadDadDad · 22/02/2025 15:57

I believe that's called being confidently wrong.

But if I take your tip and google it, then I can quickly find what you seem to be ignorant of: "just deserts" is a phrase "... using an older noun version of desert meaning "deserved reward or punishment," which is spelled like the arid land, but pronounced like the sweet treat." www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/just-deserts-or-just-desserts

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I love being confidently wrong. Even better is to double down and insist you're right just to wind everyone up- just like a politician 😂! I won't derail the thread further 😊

crankytoes · 22/02/2025 17:42

NotTheDebtDoctorWithTheHungryScalpel · 22/02/2025 15:29

My teenage dd wears a lot of band tshirts, she's very into music and can reel off songs and facts like nobody's business.

She's had the 'three songs' comment quite a few times by middle age men, but she can't be arsed so she usually makes a dinosaur noise at them and walks away.

Far more effective than engaging with them.

What sort of dinosaur? What noise? How loud ? 😂

crankytoes · 22/02/2025 17:42

Othermentions · 22/02/2025 15:26

So you didn’t name the 3 players 😂

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