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Neighbour tried to get into DD car

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WeirdNeighbour · 22/02/2025 14:33

Wondering if I should say something to neighbour or not. Teen DD arrived home in her car, parked in road, finished her call in her locked car. She says she was just chatting quietly for less than 5 mins. She's not a loud person at all but I'm aware handsfree calls in cars can be loud outside of the car. However I didn't hear her and I was home, tv off, at that time.
Some neighbour she doesn't know and has never interacted with, ran into the street in her dressing gown, trying to open the car doors and shouting at DD for being loud and waking her children. Scared the shit out of DD.

I've advised DD that calls in cars can be louder than you'd think, so she'll be aware of that in the future, but we both agreed trying to open the car door and shouting were inappropriate. If the lady had said something in a reasonable manner, DD would have been mortified that she'd woken children and apologised profusely but as it was, this woman scared her.

Do I speak to neighbour to say sorry DD woke the kids but something something inappropriate behaviour, or just not bother. I have DDs permission to do so, but not sure I can be bothered.

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LoveWatchingTheSea · 22/02/2025 14:52

The neighbour was out of order scaring your daughter however I can understand why they were pissed off.
Daughter and I were on the way out recently and neighbour was on his phone in his car, we both remarked how loud it was - all the windows were up but we could hear every word, I swear it sounded like there was a speaker blasting out his convo to the neighbourhood!

Mumofyellows · 22/02/2025 14:52

If it's on hands free it's usually really loud! My neighbour does this and I can hear all of his conversations from the kitchen while I'm cooking.

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/02/2025 14:51

outerspacepotato · 22/02/2025 14:48

Was this late at night? If so, DD can take her phone chat inside and not wake up the neighbors.

Neighbor was out of line trying to to get into the car.

Let your daughter deal with it.

All of this!

Clearinguptheclutter · 22/02/2025 14:49

ps was the car engine running? That would annoy me more than the conversation

IamSmarticus · 22/02/2025 14:49

I know my neighbour has done this in the past, run outside to tell some noisy bugger in their car on their phone to shut up as she was trying to sleep. To be fair it was loud.

This was a few years back though so not your DD.

Clearinguptheclutter · 22/02/2025 14:48

The neighbour was unreasonable to try and open the car door IMO but wasn’t unreasonable to speak to your dd if she was being loud

however if she is driving independently then presumably she is not far off 18 at the youngest so I’d not get involved

outerspacepotato · 22/02/2025 14:48

Was this late at night? If so, DD can take her phone chat inside and not wake up the neighbors.

Neighbor was out of line trying to to get into the car.

Let your daughter deal with it.

Hankunamatata · 22/02/2025 14:46

I have a neighbour who takes hand free calls at night in his car. It's loud esp if bedroom window is open Parked car with engine running is loud too and nise disturbance in itself even more so at say 10pm

No I wouldnt talk with neighbour since your dd was the inconsiderate one.

DoorToNowhere · 22/02/2025 14:39

I think the time makes a difference. Also, it clearly wasn't a nice experience, but if she's old enough to drive I shouldn't think her mum needs to get involved really.

FrenchandSaunders · 22/02/2025 14:35

Weird behaviour. What time of day/night?