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To think we’re lucky to be in Britain?

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BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 13:52

  • Temperate climate with distinct seasons, all the more important and enjoyable as we see other areas of the world suffer with annual fires, floods, hurricanes etc.
  • Basic protection of human rights and freedom. Yes, politically we’re in a strange place globally and nationally (yes, looking at you Reform and Trump voters 😑) but - generally - you can be who you are with minimal risks. That really isn’t the case in many parts of the world still.
  • NHS - again, yes it’s stretched and not perfect but it’s still far better provision than most other people have in the world. I have friends and neighbours who have moved back to the UK just for the healthcare.
  • Fantastic school system. We have it VERY good compared to many countries. Again, some of my friends have moved back to the UK to access our free school system. I feel very lucky to be able to send my kids.
  • Pretty decent benefits and state support system. A LOT of people are housed and fed by the system who would otherwise be destitute.
  • World class maternity rights.
  • Good life/work balance for most. 35-40hrs per week is a lot less than many other countries expect.
  • Beautiful coastlines, national parks, vibrant cities, shops, parks, kids entertainment. Again, lots of communities around the world don’t have all of that accessible.

We hear a lot of doom and gloom, but for me at least, I feel very blessed to have won the postcode lottery to have been born here. Could things be better? Of course, certainly. And life can throw us problems regardless. But it could also be a whole lot worse and I’m really thankful for everything I have access to.

Just wanted to post this as media plays a big role in depressing people and I hope this post prompts people to think about what they do have, rather than what they don’t.

(I appreciate people feel differently, just wanted to see a positive post!)

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Stepfordian · 22/02/2025 16:48

OP I agree with you, the NHS being free at the point of use is brilliant, many other systems you have to pay something or pay and then be refunded later. My sis went to A&E and was triaged to the top of the queue and operated on within 24 hours, they even gave her a parking pass so she didn’t have to pay for the week her car was in the car park. My kids schools are great, and if I don’t feel they are I’m free to say so. I can dress as I please, believe what I like. Could the UK be better? of course, but we’d have to pay more in tax.

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 22/02/2025 16:43

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 14:19

That’s just not true as I personally know a few who do.

You may not have liked living here, but I feel very lucky. Which utopia do you live in?

A few people from some countries (such as the US where the healthcare is amazing but only if you can pay for it) isn’t really compatible.

I have good friends in at least 15 western countries and all feel the same as this poster.

AquaPeer · 22/02/2025 16:42

Yes very much agree OP. British people are so naturally negative and whiny but we have so much to be grateful for

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 22/02/2025 16:39

Where in the UK are you living?

There aren’t four distinct seasons - the temp seems to range from 5-15 all year round with a few weeks of extremes. Cloudy and rainy skies prevail. The weather here is awful. So lots of lovely coastline etc but why would you go on holiday in the UK when the weather is so unpredictable and poor.

A lot of other countries have an NHS style system and when compared to others and doesn’t rank as high.

Our schools are very hit and miss and the two tier system is just poor. I have friends in many western countries and they are shocked at our constant testing, rigidity and treatment of teachers.

Work life balance in most European countries is far better.

Yeah there are things to be positive about but I’m afraid most aren’t on the list you have provided for me.

BishBashBoshClick · 22/02/2025 16:39

coldcallerbaiter · 22/02/2025 16:33

Why is that insensitive? It’s a practical question that could lead to the poster getting some extra advice.

We don't need advice. We need enough money to afford the basics. But yes, as we're on benefits, we'd be considered eligible for the food bank because benefits are a pittance. Unfortunately the food bank is not a permanent viable alternative to being able to afford to eat.

Nothatgingerpirate · 22/02/2025 16:38

Lucky - possibly.
Only because I was never short of means.

H7529 · 22/02/2025 16:37

I mean, compared to Gaza (and yes, quite a few other countries and places), but compared to European countries…Healthcare, Education and maternity rights are much better elsewhere in Europe. Where I’m from we have 12 months maternity leave on 90% pay, plus at least 1 month for the partner, but usually mor. Even taking 2 years maternity is not unheard of.

Snowmanscarf · 22/02/2025 16:37

Talonz · 22/02/2025 15:31

There is only one thing about the UK that pisses me off.

That stretch of the A34 East of Oxford is a bottle-necking, shunty-fuck, speed-ticket-gathering, bollocksy, arse-wipe of an excuse for a road and I loathe it more than pesto, butter beans and loud shouty Americans.

So there.

Made me smile!

coldcallerbaiter · 22/02/2025 16:33

Eyesopenwideawake · 22/02/2025 16:24

Fuck me, how insensitive can you get??

Why is that insensitive? It’s a practical question that could lead to the poster getting some extra advice.

coldcallerbaiter · 22/02/2025 16:30

Getitwright · 22/02/2025 14:20

People don’t have to use the NHS, you can go private.

I would like to know about a private ambulance service and private A&E but doubt they exist.

CosyRoby · 22/02/2025 16:29

I am glad I live in the UK for most of the same reasons you have posted.

BishBashBoshClick · 22/02/2025 16:26

Eyesopenwideawake · 22/02/2025 16:24

Fuck me, how insensitive can you get??

I've heard this nonsense before. I'd like to see someone make a meal out of marrowfat peas and baked beans.

MumChp · 22/02/2025 16:26

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:23

There are a lot of foodbanks around, are you not both eligible?

Oh dear...

BishBashBoshClick · 22/02/2025 16:25

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:23

There are a lot of foodbanks around, are you not both eligible?

We should be able to afford food. Living on donated tins of random bits isn't sustainable.

Jabtastic · 22/02/2025 16:25

BishBashBoshClick · 22/02/2025 16:23

I should also mention that both of us are on extremely long waiting lists for treatment. My friend has needed an operation for over two years. We're both in constant pain.

Yes it really enrages me how people believe it is acceptable for people to live with avoidable pain for years. I hope you and your friend are given proper care soon.

Eyesopenwideawake · 22/02/2025 16:24

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:23

There are a lot of foodbanks around, are you not both eligible?

Fuck me, how insensitive can you get??

Eyesopenwideawake · 22/02/2025 16:23

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:20

Please let me know where I said it was the best?

Being grateful for something isn’t the same as thinking it’s the best.

Saying you feel lucky and blessed implies you believe the UK to be a better (OK, not best) place than many (all?) others. Every available metric says it isn't.

Jabtastic · 22/02/2025 16:23

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:19

You must be forgetting the sunny summer days! I was wearing T-shirts until October this year and was wondering when I’d be able to get out my winter wardrobe!

My kids have summer birthdays and 9/10 it’s sunny with garden parties.

Not everyone lives in the SE of England. The climate really is very different for those living further north or west. We probably also pay more for heating / electric - we often use our tumble dryer all year round.

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:23

BishBashBoshClick · 22/02/2025 16:21

My friend on benefits (who actually exists) was crying to me last night asking me how she's supposed to afford food with the amount she's given. She had to give up work for health reasons, so she's done nothing to deserve this.

I'm also on benefits (I actually exist too) because I have a disability. I couldn't tell her how to afford food. I can't afford it myself.

So no, I don't feel lucky. I feel hungry.

There are a lot of foodbanks around, are you not both eligible?

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BishBashBoshClick · 22/02/2025 16:23

I should also mention that both of us are on extremely long waiting lists for treatment. My friend has needed an operation for over two years. We're both in constant pain.

BishBashBoshClick · 22/02/2025 16:21

My friend on benefits (who actually exists) was crying to me last night asking me how she's supposed to afford food with the amount she's given. She had to give up work for health reasons, so she's done nothing to deserve this.

I'm also on benefits (I actually exist too) because I have a disability. I couldn't tell her how to afford food. I can't afford it myself.

So no, I don't feel lucky. I feel hungry.

Jabtastic · 22/02/2025 16:21

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 22/02/2025 14:00

I agree with you OP. Things are far from perfect but we are free to say so, and there is so much that we all take for granted.

I largely agree with this. I think if the NHS can be made functional it will make an enormous difference to public wellbeing.

BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:20

Eyesopenwideawake · 22/02/2025 16:16

If you look at any survey measuring quality of life/costs/health care/whatever you won't find the UK anywhere near the top in any of them. Just because you haven't lived in another country OP doesn't mean yours is the best.

Please let me know where I said it was the best?

Being grateful for something isn’t the same as thinking it’s the best.

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BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 16:19

ThighsYouCantControl · 22/02/2025 15:33

I’d rather live here than say, Ukraine or Gaza. Very lucky in that respect. But life is harder here than I wish it was due mainly to how much it costs to just exist. The last 14+ years have been brutal for many.

Also doesn’t feel like there’s distinct seasons. Mostly just seems to rain all the bloody time.

You must be forgetting the sunny summer days! I was wearing T-shirts until October this year and was wondering when I’d be able to get out my winter wardrobe!

My kids have summer birthdays and 9/10 it’s sunny with garden parties.

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Princessfluffy · 22/02/2025 16:17

I think the main issue with the UK is that we seem to be in decline, things are getting worse and not improving. Scarily so in some ways.

Some of these things are due to worldwide issues but others are very much of our own making.

Am I lucky as a woman to have been born on the UK? Hell yeah, but misogyny and rape seem to be growing significantly in the UK and the safety of women is in decline. We live in worrying times.