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To think we’re lucky to be in Britain?

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BooomShakeTheRoom · 22/02/2025 13:52

  • Temperate climate with distinct seasons, all the more important and enjoyable as we see other areas of the world suffer with annual fires, floods, hurricanes etc.
  • Basic protection of human rights and freedom. Yes, politically we’re in a strange place globally and nationally (yes, looking at you Reform and Trump voters 😑) but - generally - you can be who you are with minimal risks. That really isn’t the case in many parts of the world still.
  • NHS - again, yes it’s stretched and not perfect but it’s still far better provision than most other people have in the world. I have friends and neighbours who have moved back to the UK just for the healthcare.
  • Fantastic school system. We have it VERY good compared to many countries. Again, some of my friends have moved back to the UK to access our free school system. I feel very lucky to be able to send my kids.
  • Pretty decent benefits and state support system. A LOT of people are housed and fed by the system who would otherwise be destitute.
  • World class maternity rights.
  • Good life/work balance for most. 35-40hrs per week is a lot less than many other countries expect.
  • Beautiful coastlines, national parks, vibrant cities, shops, parks, kids entertainment. Again, lots of communities around the world don’t have all of that accessible.

We hear a lot of doom and gloom, but for me at least, I feel very blessed to have won the postcode lottery to have been born here. Could things be better? Of course, certainly. And life can throw us problems regardless. But it could also be a whole lot worse and I’m really thankful for everything I have access to.

Just wanted to post this as media plays a big role in depressing people and I hope this post prompts people to think about what they do have, rather than what they don’t.

(I appreciate people feel differently, just wanted to see a positive post!)

OP posts:
WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 24/02/2025 07:12

I don't think people should consider the UK the best place to live because other countries are worse.

Who said it was the best?

ThisUsernameIsNowTaken · 24/02/2025 07:09

It's good compared to Africa and shit compared to most western European countries.

nameisjustforthis · 24/02/2025 07:08

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/02/2025 19:28

You can't have an opinion on the country you were born and raised (and pay taxes in) without being called a far right extremist.

Aww no how devastating .Try making a joke about the Government, on the phone with a relative and losing your job or having a security team drag you out of your bed to just get beaten and interrogated if you're lucky, or disappear for a while to be "reeducated" if you're not.

You guys have no idea how much freedom you actually have (and have had for a very long time) and how "spoiled" you are because you haven't fucking lived through anything seriously bad country wide. Covid was as close as it got and it broke (understandably) millions in just two years. Imagine decades/centuries of that.

I don't think people should consider the UK the best place to live because other countries are worse.

nameisjustforthis · 24/02/2025 07:06

CottonCandyCrank · 23/02/2025 19:17

How did you get out? I want out 😪 HELP!!!

With the benefit of hindsight, leave the UK before Brexit for the EU country of your choice!

Now? See which countries you want to live in and start researching visas and jobs.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/02/2025 19:28

You can't have an opinion on the country you were born and raised (and pay taxes in) without being called a far right extremist.

Aww no how devastating .Try making a joke about the Government, on the phone with a relative and losing your job or having a security team drag you out of your bed to just get beaten and interrogated if you're lucky, or disappear for a while to be "reeducated" if you're not.

You guys have no idea how much freedom you actually have (and have had for a very long time) and how "spoiled" you are because you haven't fucking lived through anything seriously bad country wide. Covid was as close as it got and it broke (understandably) millions in just two years. Imagine decades/centuries of that.

Audiprettier · 23/02/2025 19:24

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 14:11

I'm not in Britain. And you couldn't pay me enough to.move there, once was enough.

It's not the worst place, sure, but nobody is going to the UK for the schools or the healthcare.

Yeah Right!! 😏

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 23/02/2025 19:20

We live in a third world country and we're gaslit in to thinking we don't.

That’s so insulting, not only to third world countries, but also countries that have been struggling, under dictatorship regimes, at war , etc.

Yes some things could be better. Some things are absolutely shit , and there's little real hope for improvement. Some things have deliberately been destroyed but could be rebuilt. None of it is anywhere near to third world country level.

CottonCandyCrank · 23/02/2025 19:17

nameisjustforthis · 23/02/2025 18:53

The UK has gone to the dogs. If you can't see it it is because you are like the proverbial frog in boiling water. Place is a complete shithole. I live in foreign climes now and every I come back to visit it is a little bit worse. Rubbish and shit and people and noise and grime. No pride in anything anymore. I'll stay where I am, ta very much and thank my lucky stars.

How did you get out? I want out 😪 HELP!!!

nokidshere · 23/02/2025 19:11

@MrsSkylerWhite
Have you experienced NHS A&E in the past year? We have, several times (life-threatening each time). It was horrendous.

I have. I had a massive heart attack in July and kidney failure in December. DH had a heart attack a year ago. DS had long covid. The care we have all had from the nhs has been exceptional. They have saved my life twice. I am eternally grateful.

I'm not naive enough to think that's everyone's experience is like ours but neither is everyone's horrendous.

tinkersfig · 23/02/2025 19:10

We live in a third world country and we're gaslit in to thinking we don't.

•NHS is great - but that's if you can get treatment before your illness disables or kills you.

•Education is a joke. Teachers are leaving the profession left right and centre. Children are being left behind.

•You can't have an opinion on the country you were born and raised (and pay taxes in) without being called a far right extremist.

• Our elderly are being left to die in freezing cold squaller. They can't afford to eat and have no contact with other people.

• The cost of living means families who are in work are using food banks? In the fucking UK?

• The roads are in bits.

I don't know what the answer is, but If is this is the low bar that's been set and we're supposed to be grateful for it, then god help us.

BrillantBriony · 23/02/2025 19:04

I’ve lived in a couple of countries, US, UK, Denmark, France and Germany. The place with the best quality of life would probably be Denmark, Germany and France. I know people in France who have three months holiday, the benefit system is pretty decent (if you’ve worked and paid into it), plus your employee has to pay half of your travel costs, and you get a booklet of 10 euro vouchers to spend on lunch. This was also true in Germany, but I never got the luncheon voucher booklet. All the these places Germany, France and Denmark finish work on time. In France any overtime is accrued hence why some people end up with 3 months holiday! And typically in France you have long lunches, and the restaurants and cafes have lovely touches such as on Mother’s Day they give roses out to all women! And music day in France is also wonderful, everyone finishes work early and people are spilling out onto the streets dancing!
US you rise and fall of your own merit. The UK lacks culture.

edwinbear · 23/02/2025 19:02

We has a superb NHS experience 3 weeks ago. DD went to A&E at lunchtime on a Weds, seen by a doctor within an hour. Admitted to a ward with suspected appendicitis by 4pm. She was scanned Thursday morning, appendicitis confirmed and scheduled for surgery that afternoon.

Her operation was delayed until Friday due to several emergencies coming in, but well looked after in the meantime. I was with her on the ward from Weds to Saturday when she was discharged, I was given a bed and bedding each night. Staff were brilliant. Maybe it’s different for children compared to adults, but I couldn’t fault how we were looked after.

Snowmanscarf · 23/02/2025 18:55

But the chances of a terror attack are so remote. To use a cliche, cars are more dangerous. Also, we were more at risk when the IRA had their campaign during the 70s and 80s. Even with these odd attacks that occur, Britain feels safer than then.

nameisjustforthis · 23/02/2025 18:53

The UK has gone to the dogs. If you can't see it it is because you are like the proverbial frog in boiling water. Place is a complete shithole. I live in foreign climes now and every I come back to visit it is a little bit worse. Rubbish and shit and people and noise and grime. No pride in anything anymore. I'll stay where I am, ta very much and thank my lucky stars.

CottonCandyCrank · 23/02/2025 18:45

Snowmanscarf · 23/02/2025 18:25

“I worry about my child growing up. I don't dare let her out of my sight for fear of something happening to her.”

tThats a sad situation. What do you expect will happen to her? How old is she? Where do you live?

@CottonCandyCrank

It's more about what you see and read on the news. The terror attacks and crime etc. She is only in primary. It just petrifies me. I live north west area

Snowmanscarf · 23/02/2025 18:25

“I worry about my child growing up. I don't dare let her out of my sight for fear of something happening to her.”

tThats a sad situation. What do you expect will happen to her? How old is she? Where do you live?

@CottonCandyCrank

CottonCandyCrank · 23/02/2025 18:19

I really dislike living in the UK. After Brexit I feel completely trapped and I can't get out. I wanted better for me and my family but I feel stuck. It's hell on earth.

Schools are shite, NHS is on its arse, the cost of living is ridiculous, crime is horrific. I worry about my child growing up. I don't dare let her out of my sight for fear of something happening to her.

Times are rough for many in the UK and it's getting worse everyday.

blackbird77 · 23/02/2025 15:59

I completely agree with you OP. I love this country and wouldn’t choose to live anywhere else.

edit* (I do hate how much rent I have to pay though)

coldcallerbaiter · 23/02/2025 15:54

Booksaresick · 22/02/2025 23:03

DH, myself, adult child, 3 under 18s, just under 200£ per month.
expect it to increase significantly every year but still worth it.

Thanks we were paying more like £350 pm for 2 adults and 3 teen/adult dc. Never claimed in 10 years, felt they were taking the pee and we had wasted the money tbh.
This was a premium policy though, one that lets you choose who/where does your treatment.

twoforeight · 23/02/2025 15:35

Boohoo76 · 23/02/2025 11:21

The NHS is a pile of shit. My mum was left to die like an animal 13 years ago. No fucking care whatsoever. Most of Europe has a better health care system than us.

Sorry about your mum. That must have been awful.

unhappy50 · 23/02/2025 15:33

Mamma24578 · 23/02/2025 14:54

My parents moved to the UK in the belief that its schools were world class.

Now I have a SEN child I feel quite disillusioned by it all. "The system is broken" is a line trotted out by both teachers and parents. I am continually surprised that our county is completely unable to support him and many of other SEN kids like him, and the only choices are mainstream, other oversubscribed and inappropriate SEN schools, home school, or fight at a tribunal to get a school in a neighbouring county (which we did in the end) and I think to myself that this is probably not what my parents had in mind when they thought of the UK as a beacon of world class education.

I suppose in their home country there would be no options apart from staying at home, but that seems to be the only option for many parents here anyway.

Exactly what I am going through ... my son is over 3 years behind and cannot get any funding so falling further and further it is a constant tough

Mamma24578 · 23/02/2025 14:55

On the plus side we have also just had a baby and the maternity care for a C-section was simply amazing - I couldn't fault it.

Mamma24578 · 23/02/2025 14:54

My parents moved to the UK in the belief that its schools were world class.

Now I have a SEN child I feel quite disillusioned by it all. "The system is broken" is a line trotted out by both teachers and parents. I am continually surprised that our county is completely unable to support him and many of other SEN kids like him, and the only choices are mainstream, other oversubscribed and inappropriate SEN schools, home school, or fight at a tribunal to get a school in a neighbouring county (which we did in the end) and I think to myself that this is probably not what my parents had in mind when they thought of the UK as a beacon of world class education.

I suppose in their home country there would be no options apart from staying at home, but that seems to be the only option for many parents here anyway.

bombastix · 23/02/2025 14:25

Yes. I feel very lucky. My sister has just passed away from cancer. And I take a lot of comfort from the care and kindness she received from the NHS and the hospice in her last months: so much good here.

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/02/2025 14:19

Afterrain · Today 12:23

MrsSkylerWhite · Yesterday 14:02
Have you experienced NHS A&E in the past year?

We have, several times (life-threatening each time). It was horrendous.
We did this weekend. We were away for the weekend and had excellent service from 111. Given an appointment and medication for a Clinically Extremely Vunerable person. Couldn't fault it

Was it Same Day Urgent Care at the hospital. That’s the unit 111 usually refer to if it’s unlikely that hospital admission will be required. It’s effectively like an emergency GP appointment.

The real problems are in A&E in life threatening situations where admission is necessary.