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Partner passing comment about his ex, should I just brush it off?

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Tinyt2018 · 22/02/2025 13:09

I went down a rabbit hole and maybe should t have asked (I have my own issues I’m aware of) I asked my partner of two years who was more pleasing on the eye and he said his ex was more attractive but that we had a better connection, I may add at this point in my heart I know we don’t because I have had to keep up a sexual facade and truly he doesn’t seem interested as he puts it in vanilla sex which had seemed to have multiple times a week like he had with this ex he made comment on, I only seem to turn him on if it’s appealing to his kink side and he can easily go 10+ days without an interested In sexual intimacy with me, when it is kinky thought he peaks and doesn’t stop going on about it .. I am not kinky in the ways he thinks I am and I am drained, but the cherry on top was when he mentioned another ex and a particular time that he had never orgasmed as hard since … he told me he was hard thinking about it ( edit: he could of said this to make me jealous and wasn’t this case in this instance )and this whole thing has messed me up… AIBU ? Is this ok ? Is this normal

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SantasLargerHelper · 22/02/2025 13:17

Sounds gross tbh. Ditch and move on.

Radionowhere · 22/02/2025 13:15

Yuck. I couldn't live like that OP

Lostworlds · 22/02/2025 13:15

I think you need to decide what you want from this relationship. You’re drained but keep going to have a relationship with him. If you can’t truly be yourself then is there really any hope for this relationship?

He shouldn’t have said the stuff about the ex but least he was honest about it all.

Tinyt2018 · 22/02/2025 13:15

pinkyredrose · 22/02/2025 13:12

That was a ridiculous question to ask.
However if you're turning yourself in to someone you're not just for him to get his rocks off then this relationship isn't going to last. What are his kinks?

Maybe so but it has come from a place of feeling inadequate and not desired.. he is into such things as sharing me and cuck type fetishes

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MikeRafone · 22/02/2025 13:13

You don't want a partner who keeps harping back to his exes, Go and find yourself someone who is interested in you and not the past

pinkyredrose · 22/02/2025 13:12

That was a ridiculous question to ask.
However if you're turning yourself in to someone you're not just for him to get his rocks off then this relationship isn't going to last. What are his kinks?

MikeRafone · 22/02/2025 13:11

no