AIBU unreasonable to feel upset about this .......

Totally. And we laugh at each other too, if they'd done something daft. Yabu OP, for snooping and for buying vacuum packs

Yes, I understand your emotional process, but it is just an alternative response to the fact that all humans live in a world where there is mortality, war, death, disease.

Not thinking about it is one way of dealing with the fact that death, war, disease exist. But that is not the same as living in a world where those things do not exist.

Never worrying is just the far end of the same spectrum as always worrying.

None of us actually know how we will deal with a real nuclear siren until it happens, do we? We are all just imagining inside our heads (or alternatively NOT imagining, in the case of 'never think about it' people).

This. Sorry but his “you don’t know the half of it” comment would send me into a rage. This is not a banter comment, it’s a bloody dig at you.

Too sensitive. It's just teasing and the sort of thing people do get teased about although it's not that daft to be a bit prepared with food although maybe not for world war three.

I took ‘what a whopper’ to mean the large box of vacuum packed meals.

Because of ppl hoarding.

Had a friend who bought TP and hoarded, I not only took the piss out of her with a TP emoji but I thought she was incredibly selfish.

Meh, I was ribbed for having extra rolls of tp in my loft in Feb 2020, wasn't so funny when they couldn't get any for a couple of weeks the following month.

Well if I saw that cupboard, I would comment that it was not enough provisions, because if the world goes feral, only the proper survivalists may survive. Guns, it’s guns and ammo you need OP.

Then you can grab mum and go to the Winchester until it blows over.

I'm not worried about it. At all.

If it happens, there's nothing any of us can do. If it doesn't, what a lot of time will have been wasted worrying!

It's literally not something I ever think about until I read a thread about it.

Agree. I don’t want to drift off topic, but I don’t think the world actually would end in the blink of an eye.

There are nuclear missiles being tested all the time in the middle of the oceans and places like Siberia. We hear now and again about earthquakes etc as a consequence of North Korea or wherever setting them off.
These bombs are being exploded fairly regularly. It will be horrible if some get dropped in a populous area, but the world isn’t just going to end for everyone not directly affected by the blast

They’ve been very unkind and I wouldn’t be ok with it.

You are being a tiny bit batshit though

I get that but, come on, tins of beans is one thing. Is there no part of you that thinks you had a slightly off the wall moment buying vacuum packed meals that last for years?

I get that you feel he has gone behind your back on this but maybe he doesn't feel he can joke about it with you if you're genuinely that anxious about it but his daughter is a safe outlet for his feelings around it?

Jokes within families (even at someone else's expense) are just one of those things in most families.

Only you will know whether he's actually just a dickhead.

I think people are missing the point. OP is entitled to keep whatever she wants in her own home without being the butt of jokes either from her DP or other mumsnetters. If her DP doesn't like it he's free to not visit.

People who like to be prepared for emergencies are not preppers, they are sensible. I started doing this as I have several auto immune diseases and never know when I’m going to be in a flare etc. while everybody else was running around like loons at the start of Covid I was quite happily sat at home with my stash of Costco loo rolls , 6 months of cleaning and hygiene supplies and giant chest freezer etc. That meant that I wasn’t putting any extra demand on an already stretched supply chain, and other people could access what I wasn’t using by storming the shops myself.

that said, ration packs and shelf stable means are awful and you don’t seem to have any serious plan so this as a stand alone gesture is a bit odd. Is it just a purchase to soothe your anxiety? What would you do after they have gone?

Am I misunderstanding something here?

”What a whopper!” means what a big fat lump where I come from. Or possibly what a big fat lie.

What does he mean by “you don’t know the half of it?”

I would be upset and I would dump him, but I have zero tolerance for men’s shitty behaviour.

It's absolutely fair to feel hurt when being laughed at not being laughed with.

Yeah it really does just depend on the context of your relationship.
Does he treat you or talk about you in a contemptuous manner generally? If so, this is a mean joke at your expense and I would be upset.

If on the other hand this is just a private joke and affectionate eye-roll in the context of an otherwise loving and respectful relationship, then I’d shrug it off as non-malicious and make a mental note not to read private messages.

This is an alternative way of dealing with the worry.

Humans have always had to deal with existential fears, some prep and some say no point worrying.

Neither way (prepping vs dismissing) is actually more correct than the other. Both are about soothing emotions.

There are other responses too.

I would really feel hurt by that too, OP.

I'm an amateur/rubbish prepper at times and my family roll their eyes at me - but they know because they live here and I've told them.

He's talking about you behind your back and sharing your personal quirks for them to laugh at.

I would feel differently about him for this.

Call him out on it to find your peace.

It's the part like a pp has said " you don't know the half of it" It's like he's exasperated with you getting organised for a war that might never happen. If that's the case then a good partner should talk to you openly about things and try to comfort your feelings, rather than rip the piss out of them.

Maybe he does. Maybe he just needs an outlet for that exasperation.

If the OP's anxiety around it has got to this level, I'm not sure what he could say that's going to make any difference. Its a conversation that would get pretty boring, pretty quickly.

There's only so many hypothetical "but what if..?" scenarios I could handle responding to seriously before I stopped wanting to comfort someone else's feelings because there's an actual life that I rather be living now.

This.
Very disrespectful regardless of the circumstances. If he jokes about some vacuum packed meals what else is he finding funny and sharing with his children. Tell the wanker to fuck off back under the stone from whence he crawled.